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There is a little thing which separates us from animals. It is called self control. I wish there was more of it in modern society. Everyone does "what feels good, just because it feels good". That is most certainly not what the bible teaches.
I agree with no sex until marriage. Kissing and such is okay. Have some self control.
I agree with no sex until marriage. Kissing and such is okay. Have some self control.
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My $0.02... and this may not really be quite on topic. I think I've posted this in another thread somewhere before but I don't remember.
I think the church needs a more active role in sex education. And I mean that more than just saying "Don't do it." For one thing, when the church says don't do it, and the world says certain things aren't technically doing it, what do you think happens? I have a friend who was waiting for marriage but she had both given and received, if you catch my drift, because most people are taught that that isn't technically sex. Really, I think most people are taught that anything aside from complete intercourse isn't sex.
So A) I think the church needs to address the topics of what exactly is sex, B) what is the role of sex in a Christian marriage, C) how do you handle relationships to keep things from going to far, D) how do you deal with wanting it, when you know you're supposed to wait, E) real sex vs. Hollywood sex - and that's all just to name a few.
My church's approach was always just "don't have sex until you're married" and they presented it as though if you are alone with a member of the opposite sex, you'll just start going at it because it's what your body is designed to do. And they also made it sound as though by saying you would wait, it meant you would somehow not want sex at all. It's never easy to wait - and it's not supposed to be easy to wait.
Why is the church leaving 99.9% of sex education up to the schools?
I think if we really want to give people the tools they need to save themselves for marriage, we have to be more involved than a simple "Don't do it."
I think the church needs a more active role in sex education. And I mean that more than just saying "Don't do it." For one thing, when the church says don't do it, and the world says certain things aren't technically doing it, what do you think happens? I have a friend who was waiting for marriage but she had both given and received, if you catch my drift, because most people are taught that that isn't technically sex. Really, I think most people are taught that anything aside from complete intercourse isn't sex.
So A) I think the church needs to address the topics of what exactly is sex, B) what is the role of sex in a Christian marriage, C) how do you handle relationships to keep things from going to far, D) how do you deal with wanting it, when you know you're supposed to wait, E) real sex vs. Hollywood sex - and that's all just to name a few.
My church's approach was always just "don't have sex until you're married" and they presented it as though if you are alone with a member of the opposite sex, you'll just start going at it because it's what your body is designed to do. And they also made it sound as though by saying you would wait, it meant you would somehow not want sex at all. It's never easy to wait - and it's not supposed to be easy to wait.
Why is the church leaving 99.9% of sex education up to the schools?
I think if we really want to give people the tools they need to save themselves for marriage, we have to be more involved than a simple "Don't do it."
Hmmm..
to my mind, it is better to try before marriage. you have to know if the person is acceptable to you. this kind of nearness is very special.. we may think that our future husband/ wive is The One, The Only One, The Perfect One..But living in marriage consist not just of being psychologically close. I just do not think that unacceptable body could become acceptable.. we have to know this before our marriage. we have to know future wive's/ husband's body before marrying. that's what I think.
to my mind, it is better to try before marriage. you have to know if the person is acceptable to you. this kind of nearness is very special.. we may think that our future husband/ wive is The One, The Only One, The Perfect One..But living in marriage consist not just of being psychologically close. I just do not think that unacceptable body could become acceptable.. we have to know this before our marriage. we have to know future wive's/ husband's body before marrying. that's what I think.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/26/magazine/26FOB-2DLove-t.html?pagewanted=1&_r=2&partner=rss
why am I suggesting this article? mainly because of the statistics.. and where being virgin till marriage Could lead.. as the world is already going that direction ( perhaps, going Down.. ).
why am I suggesting this article? mainly because of the statistics.. and where being virgin till marriage Could lead.. as the world is already going that direction ( perhaps, going Down.. ).
I've read an article about those "purity rings" some people get for their daughters. Turns out that these women were 30% more likely to be pregnant before they turn 18 due to the simple fact that they don't get any sexual education "because they don't need one". Sarah Palins daughter also had one of those rings. Seems like a ring doesn't make up for failing as a parent.
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