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I'm still a virgin because I know the dangers of premarital sex, and my dad would kill me if I turned up pregnant or that he ever found out I was having sex in the first place. I have too many people looking up to me and I don't want to ruin things. Dissapointing them for a few fleeting moments of pleasure just doesn't seem worth it.
I agree MM.
When I was 15 I had no idea what 'the boundaries' were, so I made some up, and I was wrong.
The only sermons I heard on the topic centred around don't do it, and explaining why people should wait and the consquences of not waiting. I'd never heard anyone clearly outline what Christians can and can't do before marriage, but it was even longer before I heard a minister explain that if you think like that you're missing the point. We shouldn't want to try to go as far as we can without going 'too far'. If we are serious about Christianity, we should want to save as much as possible for after marriage, not just because the bible says so, and this is a message that I think needs to be given more attention in sermons.
M
Hi,
Im milagra, sex before marriage is clearly against what God created sex for. God created sex for man and wife, to enjoy during marriage. Its not just a physical act, when two people have sex they become one flesh. this was only designed for marriage. That is why so many people have soul ties because they are having sex with boy friends and girlfriends and not even knowing what it was designed for. I believe that one should abstain from sex until marriage.
Im milagra, sex before marriage is clearly against what God created sex for. God created sex for man and wife, to enjoy during marriage. Its not just a physical act, when two people have sex they become one flesh. this was only designed for marriage. That is why so many people have soul ties because they are having sex with boy friends and girlfriends and not even knowing what it was designed for. I believe that one should abstain from sex until marriage.
Jesus speaks sooo clearly surrounding this topic and yet there are many that wish to justify 'indulging' their own desires...
I wish to add a 45 second video by a fantastic speaker - Sy Rogers. I wish it were longer, cos I would love to see what he had to say next, but what he says is clear and to the point. SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE is sex outside of God's will. PERIOD.http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obbNqjFEgiw
I wish to add a 45 second video by a fantastic speaker - Sy Rogers. I wish it were longer, cos I would love to see what he had to say next, but what he says is clear and to the point. SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE is sex outside of God's will. PERIOD.http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obbNqjFEgiw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obbNqjFEgiw
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Sorry, the link above wont work when clicked on, but this one will.
L
Few interesting things I've noticed with the whole sex before marriage thing.
1: The "Technical" approach. We haven't "technically" done it so therefor it's okay. I find it hard to believe that god would just say "oh okay, you haven't done it technically, come on in!"
2: The "If you wait for marriage it will be wonderful"approach. Honestly, when was the last time you tried something new and you were great at it? Sex is a skill like anything else, practice makes perfect.
3: The "I've tried it once and it wasn't good" well newsflash. First time is rarely fun for anyone, especially the girl since it tends to hurt. As said before, practice makes perfect.
4: the "It just felt wrong" approach. Yes, one night stands usually feels that way, it's because you are satisfying your base desires without listening to your heart. Try finding someone you really love and share yourself with them. It will feel completely different. Love is an essential part for good sex (unless both parts have practiced enough) and really. If you truely love someone can sharing yourself with them be wrong?
1: The "Technical" approach. We haven't "technically" done it so therefor it's okay. I find it hard to believe that god would just say "oh okay, you haven't done it technically, come on in!"
2: The "If you wait for marriage it will be wonderful"approach. Honestly, when was the last time you tried something new and you were great at it? Sex is a skill like anything else, practice makes perfect.
3: The "I've tried it once and it wasn't good" well newsflash. First time is rarely fun for anyone, especially the girl since it tends to hurt. As said before, practice makes perfect.
4: the "It just felt wrong" approach. Yes, one night stands usually feels that way, it's because you are satisfying your base desires without listening to your heart. Try finding someone you really love and share yourself with them. It will feel completely different. Love is an essential part for good sex (unless both parts have practiced enough) and really. If you truely love someone can sharing yourself with them be wrong?
This is the second thread that I found jesting going on. One about what color are God gym shorts and now this jesting about perversion. When are Christians going to behave like jesus wants them to.
(Eph 5:3) But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
(Eph 5:4) Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.
(Eph 5:5) For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
(Eph 5:3) But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
(Eph 5:4) Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.
(Eph 5:5) For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
B
Honestly I wish I could go back to being a virgin again. It becomes meaningless and empty when for the wrong reasons and outside of marriage, not that I've ever been married. I didn't grow up in the Church, in a Church going family, or a around Church going friends. I came to salvation because I came into contact with good hearted Christians, and through reading pamphlets they gave me. I was very blessed. I backslid for a while and still engaged in it even after being saved. I felt horrible when I would. As stated, it's just not enjoyable outside of God's plan.
C
Sex before marriage is sin and it separates you from God; You can't continue in sin and have a relationship with God; You then feel guilty and it ruins your relationship with your future mate. Once you go too far it is hard to stop and then since you have turned your relationship into a sex relationship you end up breaking up to releave the guilt and to get back to the Lord because he is always there for waiting for you to come back to him and it is in your soul and spirit to crave the being in the right walk with the Lord.
If you wait for marriage it is wonderful and totally satisfying you have no guilt and no condemation, it is bliss!!!!!!
If you wait for marriage it is wonderful and totally satisfying you have no guilt and no condemation, it is bliss!!!!!!
C
Acts 15:20 We write unto them, that they abstain from fornication.
Rom. 13:"13 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkeness, not in chambering and wantonness.
1 Cor. 5:11 I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator... with such an one no not to eat. vs. 9,10
1 Cor. 6:13 Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 15. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ and make them the members of an harlot? God forbit. 18 Flee forniction. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Cor. 10:8 nEITHER LET US COMMIT FORNICATION, AS SOME OF THEM COMMITTED, AND FELL IN ONE DAY THREE AND TWENTY THOUSAND.
EPH. 4:17 tHIS i SAY THERFORE, AND TESTIFY IN THE lORD, THAT YE HENCEFORTH WALK NOT AS OTHER gENTILES WALK, IN THE VANITY OF THEIR MIND; 19. wHO, BEING PAST FEELING, HAVE GIVEN THEMSELVES OVER UNTO LASCIVIOUSNESS, TO WORK ALL UNCLEANNESS WITH GREEDINESS. 20. bUT YE HAVE NOT SO LEARNED cHRIST;
EPH. 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints, 11. Have no fellowship with the unfruiful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. 12. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
Col. 3:5 Mortify therfore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscensce.
1 Thes. 4:3 This is the will of God, evben your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication. 4. that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 5. Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God; 7. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.
I hope that helps.
Rom. 13:"13 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkeness, not in chambering and wantonness.
1 Cor. 5:11 I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator... with such an one no not to eat. vs. 9,10
1 Cor. 6:13 Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 15. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ and make them the members of an harlot? God forbit. 18 Flee forniction. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Cor. 10:8 nEITHER LET US COMMIT FORNICATION, AS SOME OF THEM COMMITTED, AND FELL IN ONE DAY THREE AND TWENTY THOUSAND.
EPH. 4:17 tHIS i SAY THERFORE, AND TESTIFY IN THE lORD, THAT YE HENCEFORTH WALK NOT AS OTHER gENTILES WALK, IN THE VANITY OF THEIR MIND; 19. wHO, BEING PAST FEELING, HAVE GIVEN THEMSELVES OVER UNTO LASCIVIOUSNESS, TO WORK ALL UNCLEANNESS WITH GREEDINESS. 20. bUT YE HAVE NOT SO LEARNED cHRIST;
EPH. 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints, 11. Have no fellowship with the unfruiful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. 12. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
Col. 3:5 Mortify therfore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscensce.
1 Thes. 4:3 This is the will of God, evben your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication. 4. that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 5. Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God; 7. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.
I hope that helps.
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