It's not a fair question, is it, I mean, who wants to answer 'atrraction.'
As a Christian, can I answer that I am much more inclined to date someone I am atrracted too, speaking of a staying relationship (lasting?), chemistry is there, am I even saying this right?
I've not answer for a reason, my own. but, thanks for answering, liamsOn, exactly, well defined, your parameters are in place, and, I see your votes been cast. But is that really what vote you wanted to cast.
Not to put you on the spot, but, yeah, well, you are on the spot.
Why affection? Why does that attract you to a girl ? LOL. pun not intended.
I'm 44 years old, I'm waiting on the Lord, but, I would be dead-wrong, not to mention lying through my teeth, IF I said that I more, on my own devices, doings, would pick a girl on affection over attraction. I haven't voted yet though, who knows, maybe, I will still change my mind.
This thread may go for awhile, or, not, you only HAVE TO vote before making a post IF you want to.
This is an abrasive thread, I admit that, it's working into the deepst, darkest, not to mention, dankest desires of the human heart, and, their resistance to what they REALLY want to say.
But, I digress, is being attracted to either option better than the other.
WHAT will people think of me IF I say I am MOVED by 'atrraction,' and, not, 'affection,' when it comes to asking a girl our or not, when it comes to saying 'yes,' to a guy asking me out or not.
It's like 9 times out of 10, for me, one or the other, I am very particular about who I will give a chance to go out with me , that's attrraction, I love their cologne, the way they do a comb-over (guy) or the sassiness of their dress, or, I will only give a chance to the one that sweet talks me with sweet nothings, or, who laughs at my jokes, or, who flirts my eyes out, so to speak.
And, this is not 'guy,' and, not, 'girl' just that says this, BOTH. But, alas, when you finally DO vote you can pick only ONE.
LiamsON, you're vote is GOOD but is 'affection' really how you will STICK with someone, can you honestly say that in your head that is what attracts you to a girl.
Maybe, the question should be: Can the vote be anything but 'attraction' because, by virtue of the reality of my needing to be attracted to a girl, I must be, first, having that feeling, and, therefore, any subsequent feelings HAVE TO be based off of that attraction..... Maybe the shift of balance (power?) can switch to one from the other, but it was initially the one, attraction, or, it was initially the other.
Does this kind of stereotyping, ultimately, hurt your relationship chances of THIS hook-up working out?
Does God, The Word of His, say anything about this kind of metaphysical stuff? How we should find someone? Rebekah at the well? Ruth and Boaz?Proverbs verses. Prov. 31? Any Psalms? Song of Solomon. I don't know,I guess I am just rambling now, I guess....
Making you think, God bless you, Christ peeps
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Emotionalism vs Intoxication, WAIT! , is 'intoxication' a fair way to label 'attraction' to someone of the opposite sex?
Hmmm, maybe 'affection' and 'attraction' take on different meanings to you now. Maybe, me too. The Lord leads.
Maybe, I should have given the thread a different title, hmmmm