You seriously believe this, Zao?
If a man or woman is only attracted to their spouse for so long, what will keep them from turning their eyes elsewhere?
Only God keeps us from losing that attraction, we are to do things for God, for His glory, whatever we do, and, keeping in love with your spouse will take an unselfishness desire beyond what your human mind can comprehend. And, you're in luck, the peace of God passes ALL understanding, and, there will come times that you are NOT in love with your spouse, but, you will still know them and you will still know God and THAT bond will be the Rock of understanding for solidifying your love forever, on Earth, for your spouse.
I've seen this question posted a lot. And my honest answer is "The Connection". ON some deeper level there has to be a bond between people. There has to be a facet of both hearts that agree, "You are a unique and irreplaceable part of my existence." No matter if you were burned from head to toe, Quadriplegic,brain damaged or otherwise remain the same.
I would assume He did not marry you for the size of your chest or the curvature of your bottom. He did not fall in love with the style of your hair or the cut of your dress. I believe True Love really is blind. If he loves you, he did so not for any feature you may possess but for who you are, and as much as you might think that you could be traded in, you can't. There is only one of you to go around, and if he is true, then he will make sure you never forget that you belong to each other.
Age and beauty can be inversely proportional. When old people are together and have stayed together for a long time, its not because they chose to trade or or because they have some strange belief that they have picked the MOST attractive partner possible, it is because of Love. Love says, I chose you and I wouldn't share all the years of my life with anyone else.
See above answer, God bless your heart, liamsON, for following after Him for true love, realize that God's plan for you is out there, like a line from The Last Starfighter sage, Morgan Freeman, asking how he's going to beat the enemies when he's but a 'boy' (teen) and they are many, 'You have to grab the wheel with both hands and hold on tight.'
Who is steering? You decide. But, to help you out, we are to be a 'pure vessel,' of which God can move. Oh, God will move us IF we have chosen Him, but understanding His grace in moving us is important, and, understanding His mercy, too, for in that understanding is what I believe our love for ourselves is based and, of course, our ultimate understanding is God seen at work in our lives
This 'love' definition of vessel to me, sounds like the bond God intended for us, the connection. Once He sent His Son to save us from being enemies of Him and save us from being unable to go see Him after we die we were loved, again, before that, no (Read Zechariah's last chapter) . Indeed, true love never dies, but ONLY if it's grounded in Him as our foundation for ALL that goes on in our life, we are the worker, God says there is much work to be done, by attraction to Him and affection for His work, we will workers be , buzzing for His next big thing for us to be connection in our life, maybe, love, maybe, marriage, maybe, truss romance , fraught with adventure like a runaway horse and carriage and you riding in beside the craft and pulling the princess onto your horse and riding off. Maybe not will it be at all like that for you and your attraction and affection to another
So, my conclusion is, that we have both attraction AND affection for our lives, and, I said 'attraction,' but we ALL know that the human mind is fickle, at best, deceptively evil at worst, just like Jeremiah tells us are our hearts
, in Scripture, but, God is the remedy for our seemingly fateful disconnect, and, His following of Him by us is how we get the connection of 'love' that we want even though we may not even know that is how we want it. The Lord leads