Dating outside of your denomination

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secularhermit

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Your decision is always yours! Mine would be hearing about her beliefs, to see they fit mine, with my likes. I wonder if Jesus or any of His group would date someone outside from jewish people and WHAT DENOMINATION of the jewish would be that? I guess you know there were several DENOMINATIONS on Jesus´s time. Those who like Herod´s followers, Saducees and more...
 
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maxwel said:
Hey Nuns,

Hope you've been doing well.

I don't bash on Mormons because I know most of them are very sweet people.
They are very sweet people who are taught, by their church, completely unbiblical doctrine,
about almost everything in scripture.

I grew up in the Mormon church.
I'm intimately familiar with what they teach, and just how unbiblical it is.
They don't even know who Jesus actually is.
If you think Jesus was just a regular man, who "rose" to Godhood by the way he lived...
uhhh... that just has nothing to do with the bible at all.

However, I don't beat up on them.
I try to be loving and kind with them,
because they're usually very sweet people who are just taught unbliblical things.
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I agree with this. My living grandmother is LDS but she doesn't believe a lot of what it teaches. My dad stopped going to church after a run in with the Bishop. My sister and brother-in-law are very, very into the LDS church and will raise my nephew that way. They want me to convert but I disagree with their doctrine.

Had the previous poster worded it like this I would not have been hurt but I didn't hear compassion in those words. I don't think God divides us as we divide ourselves and my family members live very holy lives.
 
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If you really cherish your future wife, denominations shouldn't be a issue.
There is no perfect church or denomination, everyone has its flaws ( obviously some have more then others)
Talk with your Partner and see if she/he is open minded, whenever people get to to caught up with rituals and supersticion, it can blind them from gods love and grace.
There are people in every denomination that cherish and love god with all their heart, and equally there are people in every denomination that get to religious and narrow-minded(like the pharisees in the bible).
Jesus was open-minded, and he should be the one we follow, not get all denominationalized.
 
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I believe dating someone outside of your denomination is a learning experience, you can change that easily. Marrying someone outside of your denomination is where I believe the challenge would be. If you both truly love the Lord and love attending and participating in your own church services and importantly, if you wish to attend the same church as a married couple...someone is going to bend eventually. Our greatest example from the scriptures regarding this is King Solomon. He married women who worshipped idols, when he knew God was the only one to be worshipped. Eventually, he allowed these women to influence him against God's will. It depends on how serious you are about your own church and seeking God's guidance for his will in the relationship.
 
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I went on a date once with a pretty young woman who was really sweet, and very much interested in me (an anomaly!). We had a number of the same interests, but I could not overlook the fact that she was Catholic, a bit liberal leaning, and not at all interested in homeschooling. I think she would have made a good life counterpart, except if we had children; my mind kept going back to the 'house divided against itself' verse.
 
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It is not Catholic bashing to say that Catholicism is not real Christianity. It is more based on the Pope, their traditions, their mysticism and superstition than on the Bible. They teach salvation by good works, too. The Bible says it's by Christ's work on the cross and our belief in him.

Ruling out Catholicism, Mormonism, Jehovah's Witnesses, which are all false forms of Christianity, I would say that even if you marry outside of your denomination to someone of a biblical denomination, you may be asking for fights. This is not necessarily so, though. It depends on how deep your convictions and the other person's are, and how you discuss this or proceed in your daily interactions.

The most likely to succeed is marrying within your denomination or theological belief.
 
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timandjoann

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Hello. Jesus would not have dated anyone. Jesus was not on earth to be a husband, boyfriend or sexual in any way. He was God in the flesh, here to save us from our sin. You need to gain more biblical discernment.
 
Descyple

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I would "NEVER" date a woman outside of my own denomination. Why? Because we Baptists are the only denomination that puts together committees to determine which floral patterns to put on our never-ending supply of dry towels kept near our baptismal tanks.
 
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maxwel said:
The man is supposed to be the spiritual leader in the home.

If a woman disagreed with me about everything... how could I lead her?

I think a woman should be looking for a man she trusts to be a leader.
If she disagrees with him about everything, and doesn't want to follow his lead in spiritual things...
then she needs to look for someone else.
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I agree 100% . I am the weaker vessel and I want someone who will lead me spiritually, How can he lead me if we disagree?
So with that being said... No I don't believe I would date out of my denomination. If I ever did, he would have to have the same Bible based beliefs that I do . You gotta think about the future children ( if there will be any) You both will have to lead them together, and again .. how can you properly lead them if you can't even agree together ?
 
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timandjoann said:
Hello. Jesus would not have dated anyone. Jesus was not on earth to be a husband, boyfriend or sexual in any way. He was God in the flesh, here to save us from our sin. You need to gain more biblical discernment.
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What has this got to do with dating outside of one's denomination?
 
Liamson

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I didn't comment on this thread before. Which I find very strange. Must have been dark times at Sir Liamson's Castle.

I'm not going to get into Labels because I don't want to offend anyone, instead I will use philosophic terms to outline beliefs that would cause a problem for me.

I can't believe in Involuntary Salvation. I think this changes the Nature of God into a sovereign mathematical formula just playing itself out like a movie, prayers become narrative devices, and God isn't actually pleading for you to repent, because His Will clearly is playing out to the contrary and there is no rewind its all just fixed.

I won't be with someone who believes in a denomination that only promotes internal service and charity for other Christians and not for the world at large. Been to a few churches whose motto seemed to be, we take care of our own, everyone else should take a number.

I also don't like unsubstantiated superstitious claims about what is happening in the world today. Like if she says something like Obama has a Spirit of Pornography living in his teeth, I'm not going to play along.


Also, if you feel the need to Run full speed around your pews or lay down and take a nap during worship, I'm probably not going to play ball.

Also if her Gospel is entirely about when the Rapture is going to happen, One World Government, how Obama is the AntiChrist or how she thought she heard a Trumpet coming from heaven. I'm not going there.
 
secularhermit

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arwen83 said:
I was talking to a Christian male on a dating site, (...) To be honest, a part of me became disinterested in the guy, which is fine with me. Am I as picky as I think I am? Or do you feel/felt the same?

Would you date someone that was out of your denomination? Are there certain denominations that you wouldn't date someone from?

(Please Lord, let there be no Catholic-bashing in this thread)
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Hi! I wouldn´t marry a person who thinks or feel too differently form me, but I oddly married a woman who was another denomination with beliefs far from mine (although she was a devoted Christian, a leader, according to her own sight).

Today, I would say, with this picture: old.jpg

I will not marry denominationalists, but a simple Christian woman who marries a poor person.

Obvious! I´m getting too old to be so demanding.
 
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Well aslong as you both have an attraction, and believe in the lord, isn't that all that should matter ? sound to me your asking/expecting too much. So what he goes to a different church, Does that make him a bed person, or less compatible for you o_O ?
 
Liamson

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Erekson714 said:
Well aslong as you both have an attraction, and believe in the lord, isn't that all that should matter ? sound to me your asking/expecting too much. So what he goes to a different church, Does that make him a bed person, or less compatible for you o_O ?
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Well, I wish it was that simple. But if you find yourself wondering, "How can she believe something like that?"

You might have a hard time trusting their judgement.
 
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I believe it is best if you are of the same denomination, too many things could cause problems in a cross-denominational marriage.
 
JesusChica1991

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I'm non-denominational and I've dated baptists. However, I draw the line with Jehovah's Witnesses, Mormons, Catholics, and non-converted Jews (meaning those who don't believe Jesus is the Christ). I don't mind dating those of other denominations but I would hope that they at least respected by doctrinal beliefs. My family in general if you extend to my dad's side has always been stickler about dating only baptists though or non-denominational Christians.
 
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Erekson714 said:
Well aslong as you both have an attraction, and believe in the lord, isn't that all that should matter ? sound to me your asking/expecting too much. So what he goes to a different church, Does that make him a bed person, or less compatible for you o_O ?
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Yes, it effects compatibility in major ways, especially if your faith is important to you, and hers is to her. The first problem is where to attend church? Finding a church that you agree with doctrinally is hard enough, but finding one that BOTH of you agree with doctrinally will be even harder (or, impossible) if you have major differences. You will likely have disagreements while studying or doing devotionals together as a couple or as a family, if you delve into any of the "controversial" issues.

The amount of stress this puts on a relationship is dependent on how firm each of you are in your beliefs, and how deep you get with your spiritual discussions and sharing. It could work of course, but in certain situations it would become a hindrance.
 
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arwen83 said:
I was talking to a Christian male on a dating site, I found out what church he belongs to, and I've been to it a handful of times when I was hopping, but for certain reasons I didn't agree with it. I was turned off from that non-denominational church; I didn't feel close to God there. Anyways, I found out that this guy goes there and loves it. To be honest, a part of me became disinterested in the guy, which is fine with me. Am I as picky as I think I am? Or do you feel/felt the same?

Would you date someone that was out of your denomination? Are there certain denominations that you wouldn't date someone from?

(Please Lord, let there be no Catholic-bashing in this thread)
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I don't think it is about the church the one you love goes to, it should be about who they are, how they make you feel and how close they are with God.
 
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This thread reminds me of when I was a kid.... dance card.jpg
 
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