I have to be honest Kiwi, you like me are 21 and dont really have much of a knowledge on relationships, who are we to comment on people who are older than ourselves, we have lack of experiene i know u are not judging people and mean the best but perhaps we shud just listen to people rather than make our own comments on other people, i enjoy listening and giving advice where i can although as we havent exactly experienced everything there may be some parts we are better at, i hope i havent come accross as rude i just wanted to tell u thats all, please write back if u want to
That is very true jonnoboy, I am not happy that people are making the assumption that I think Im a know all because I dont. Since Ive written this Ive recieved a rediculous amount of abusive mail from guys about this thread, using language I do not want to say out loud.
The thing that I failed to mention was probably a bit about myself, so people understand who I am, where I come from and how I came to have these opinions. Im too tired to write out my complicated testimony so if you want to know more about me I suggest you go onto my profile page and find my very first thread which I did on my testimony way back in September when I first joined.
The first thing is this. I was raised under strict British values where there is no such thing as the term teenager. Growing up I understood there to be either child or adult. I was taught how to cook and clean and maintain a household from age 6. By the time I was 10, I was doing all the cooking and cleaning. At age 13 I was molested by my stepfather and remained tormented by having such a guardian (who was emotionally abusive) until I left home when I was 17. During that time I became a christian and had a christian psychologist reteach me everything I thought I knew about a woman and a mans role under God. In my second to last year of highschool, I decided I wanted to help other christian women get out of that same situation I was raised in. So I applied and got into college to be an occupational therapist. But because I failed my 6th form exams I had to redo those as well as my senoir exams as well as college entry exams all while going to school and working every second night at a grocery store while living with a man who treated me like a second wife.
So excuse me for thinking Ive gone through a lot more in life than your average 21 year old. Ive witnessed how bad men can get, yet Ive realised their the ones who need help. I feel like men mess up because theyve been lied to, misinformed and accused by the enemy. I became an adult when I was 13. And if it werent for Jesus I would be a very sorrowful messed up woman. I love Jesus SO much! I love him because through him I was taught how a man is really supposed to treat a woman, and how a woman is to love her Lord first and that overflow then goes to become a blessing on the man she chooses to love and serve.
I have been very tired of listening to some guys here on CC who ask me why cant they get a girlfriend and I ask them the most basic questions like, whats your relationship with Jesus like? Do you pray, do you study the Word, do you make an effort to apply it in your life? How do you treat your mother and sister/s (boy that question tells you a lot about a guy). I ask these things and the answers I get are all in the negative! If you do make an effort in your relationship with God then hurrah! Go the men! Im your biggest fan! If not, I will speak plainly and tell you youve got a bit of work to do. Theres no moral high ground here its just spiritual common sense that Ive clicked onto a lot faster than others. I know I talk too much, but really, witholding common sense just because Im a woman and engaged and 21 years old is just a sin.
Lastly, just because your older doesnt mean your necessarily wiser. Look at Timothy. Here is a young man in his early twenties being filled with the Holy Spirit and sent forth by Paul to maintain multiple churches. A 20 year old was commanded to make doctrine clear to older men! Paul said to him - Do not let people look down on your because you are young, but instead lead by example. Im sorry that none of the guys here know my life. I am sorry that no one here knows me enough to trust what Im saying as worthwhile. And I am even more sorry that men here cant see me also trying my darn hardest to help younger women to be better women for the sake of Jesus and for the sake of men out there, who are genuinely looking hard for a fine women and arent having much luck due to some negative attitudes women have. Its a tough world, and Ive been physically beaten up more in my 21 years than to be put off by verbal insults and hate mail by men I dont know. And it doesnt discourage me at all. Ive been conditioned by God to always see the bright side of human life despite my painful history, and someone has to yell the ugly truth every now and then. Its called discernment.
PS I love you all lol
