Guys, would you give a girl addicted to romance novels a chance?
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I've never read a romance novel before, except for reading the description on the backs of several. They just always seemed odd. And I don't even know what made them seem odd, but they just did.
But like every teenage girl, I do crave some sort of romance intake. So how do I solve the problem? Westerns! ^.^ Now, those were real men. <3
But like every teenage girl, I do crave some sort of romance intake. So how do I solve the problem? Westerns! ^.^ Now, those were real men. <3
But I know what you mean. lol
Probably because women may have viewed it, but don't struggle with it in comparison to men. I'm sure some women get addicted to it, but not at the same level men do. My Facebook analogy fits better, and that addiction has ruined marriages according to divorce studies. I don't use FB all that much anymore, but whenever I go on it, I'll see some married friends of mine posting pics of themselves in bikinis, and guys who are not their husbands, ''liking'' the pics and saying sexual comments. That might be worse than porn viewing lol
I'm currently writing a anime style rom-com and it's tough I do the like the unrealism to a point but I don't intend the characters to be perfect in anyway. I do like when my characters are attractive to a certain point but I'm pretty shallow myself(Trying to get rid of that too) But If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't mind her reading romance as long as she doesn't expect the impossible from me. But stuff like 50 shades of gray and 90% of all romance novels written today are sex related and is 100% porn.
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The fact is that many, many women do struggle with watching porn. It's not just a male problem anymore. Maybe it never was just a male problem. And as for lusting. How about the copious amounts of Christian women who openly lust after men online (you know, the cowboy and firemen type pics that aren't at all about wrangling cows or fighting fires), but for some reason, it's perfectly acceptable for them to do so? That's not cool. It's a double-standard. Lust is lust.
Yea, I see your point.
I'm in a relationship and we are both attracted to each other. I'm not ashamed nor is he to like the chemistry that we have. I can't help but wonder if some couples marry each other and there's just no chemistry? Or it went away? Because if there's chemistry, and attraction, I'd think that with most Christian couples, they'd want to only save sex for each other then. If you are attracted to your partner, why would you spend a lot of time looking at pics of other people?
I'm in a relationship and we are both attracted to each other. I'm not ashamed nor is he to like the chemistry that we have. I can't help but wonder if some couples marry each other and there's just no chemistry? Or it went away? Because if there's chemistry, and attraction, I'd think that with most Christian couples, they'd want to only save sex for each other then. If you are attracted to your partner, why would you spend a lot of time looking at pics of other people?
Because many people are addicted to the infatuation or the newness of love. Scientifically the biochemical soup that goes on inside you during infatuation doesn't last for more than about two years. After that you don't necessarily feel as in love anymore or as excited and needful to be together. That doesn't mean that people can't keep loving each other after that and stay faithful, it just means that you're more susceptible to temptation to something new or different or oh hey this gives me the good feelings that I had when I first met my current partner. So what is this chemistry and attraction you speak of, what causes it, and what makes you think it will last through all the years? (And this is how the perpetually single cinder goes about mythbusting what she considers silly romantic notions and ill defined vocabulary).
