How Do You Determine If Someone Is "Christian Enough" For You?

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My Idea of a "Strong Christian" (Whom I Would Date or Marry) Is Someone Who:

  • Does not belong to a church (you don't have to be part of a church to be a Christian.)

    Votes: 11 16.2%

  • Goes to church once a week.

    Votes: 24 35.3%

  • Goes to church 2 or more times a week.

    Votes: 17 25.0%

  • Doesn't read their Bible (you don't have to read the Bible to be a Christian.)

    Votes: 1 1.5%

  • Reads their Bible occasionally (a few times a year.)

    Votes: 4 5.9%

  • Reads their Bible a few times a month.

    Votes: 7 10.3%

  • Reads their Bible at least once a week.

    Votes: 21 30.9%

  • Reads their Bible daily.

    Votes: 38 55.9%

  • Does not participate in Bible classes or activities.

    Votes: 5 7.4%

  • Regularly takes Bible classes or classes at their church.

    Votes: 26 38.2%

  • Doesn't have spiritual mentors or counselors (faith is personal; you don't need anyone else.).

    Votes: 9 13.2%

  • Has a support network of spiritual mentors and counselors.

    Votes: 32 47.1%

  • Does not work in the church.

    Votes: 5 7.4%

  • Regularly works as part of the church.

    Votes: 18 26.5%

  • Does not fast (it's not necessary.)

    Votes: 15 22.1%

  • Fasts regularly.

    Votes: 13 19.1%

  • Does not share their faith very often (it's too personal and is a controversial subject; I don't wan

    Votes: 4 5.9%

  • Shares faith on a regular basis.

    Votes: 41 60.3%

  • Shares faith with everyone they possibly can.

    Votes: 16 23.5%

  • Does not participate in a church ministry.

    Votes: 5 7.4%

  • Is part of a church ministry.

    Votes: 24 35.3%

  • Is so busy with their ministry that I know our time together will be very limited in order to suppor

    Votes: 2 2.9%

  • Does not participate in any kind of charity work.

    Votes: 2 2.9%

  • Does not participate in ministry but does participate in charity work (could include, time, money, p

    Votes: 6 8.8%

  • Participates in both ministries and charities outside the church.

    Votes: 20 29.4%

  • Prays occasionally.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Prays monthly or weekly.

    Votes: 1 1.5%

  • Prays daily.

    Votes: 53 77.9%

  • Has few Christian friends.

    Votes: 8 11.8%

  • Has both Chrisitian and secular friends.

    Votes: 41 60.3%

  • Has only Christian friends.

    Votes: 10 14.7%

  • Comes from a non-Christian home/background.

    Votes: 9 13.2%

  • Comes from a Christian background.

    Votes: 19 27.9%

  • Could come from any background, including another religion (Buddhist, etc.)

    Votes: 25 36.8%

  • Does not go on missions trips.

    Votes: 7 10.3%

  • Sometimes goes on mission trips.

    Votes: 18 26.5%

  • Lives for the next mission trip and can't wait to go on another adventure for Christ.

    Votes: 6 8.8%

  • Has no specific denomination (or attends a non-denominational church.)

    Votes: 25 36.8%

  • Definitely subscribes to a specific church denomination.

    Votes: 9 13.2%

  • Other--I would like to share something in my post.

    Votes: 13 19.1%
  • Total voters
    68
Descyple

Descyple

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I know a woman is Christian enough for me when......................

1. She tells me she believes in courting, not dating (and so I take her to court and the judge orders her to start dating me). I will not be denied!!!

2. She tells me her favorite book is by Joel Olsteen, but it's not his book "Your Best Life Now", but rather it's his lesser known book "Your Best Smile Now". A good smile is important to me in a Christian woman.

3. I tell her that I'm taking her on a trip to Jerusalem, Israel, but instead I take her to a town called Jerusalem in New York (a real place). And instead of getting angry with me, she throws me over the town's bridge to see if I could walk on water. I like a woman who has that much faith!!!
 
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IloveyouGod

Guest
#182
#182
OK ladies and gentlemen, now we know all about AzureAfire!!


Descyple said:
I know a woman is Christian enough for me when......................

1. She tells me she believes in courting, not dating (and so I take her to court and the judge orders her to start dating me). I will not be denied!!!

2. She tells me her favorite book is by Joel Olsteen, but it's not his book "Your Best Life Now", but rather it's his lesser known book "Your Best Smile Now". A good smile is important to me in a Christian woman.

3. I tell her that I'm taking her on a trip to Jerusalem, Israel, but instead I take her to a town called Jerusalem in New York (a real place). And instead of getting angry with me, she throws me over the town's bridge to see if I could walk on water. I like a woman who has that much faith!!!
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IloveyouGod

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#183
Burned food is what's normal for me AzureAfire. Good to see you posting again, we missed you here you and your trouble troubles the One of the twelve!!


AzureAfire said:
WHAAAAT???!!! :eek: you had those and you ate them?!?!?

Oh yeah....i DID let you eat them. I was getting bored of the normal, unburnt variety :cool: sorry for the memory gap!!! (i think the heavy metal residues are finally doing their wonders on my thought processes!!!)
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Descyple

Descyple

Senior Member
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Jun 7, 2010
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IloveyouGod said:
OK ladies and gentlemen, now we know all about AzureAfire!!
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That's right - all my jokes in this thread about how I think a Christian woman should be, are actually based on how AzureAfire actually is!!!

Now you know why she has such a great smile - thank you Joel Olsteen!!!


joel-osteen.jpg
 
ijustwanttheTruth

ijustwanttheTruth

Senior Member
#187
Sep 28, 2011
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the supernatural is beyond human comprehension mentally. only spiritually discerned.
 
Descyple

Descyple

Senior Member
#188
Jun 7, 2010
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I know a woman is Christian enough for me when.................

1. She brings a "Brad Pitt look-alike" mannequin to church to sit beside her, so when I'm late for service people will think I'm actually on time and sitting next to her.

2. She pretends to go into an epileptic seizure every time our Bible Study leader asks me a question about the verse we all just read, that way I don't have to come up with any answers!!!

3. She doesn't wear ear-plugs when I loudly sing the chorus of the song "In The Light" by DC Talk (it was meant to be sung LOUD!!!).

Press play and CRANK IT UP!!!

[video=youtube_share;0JxEwfbidFk]http://youtu.be/0JxEwfbidFk[/video]
 
Descyple

Descyple

Senior Member
#189
Jun 7, 2010
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#189
I know a woman is Christian enough for me when...............

1. She tells me to put on the Christian romance movie "Fireproof", but instead I put on the war movie "Platoon", and in protest she starts singing the song "Love Is A Battlefield"

2. She allows me to leave my church to become a member of hers, not so we could attend service together, but so we can divide 10% between us and just pay 5% tithes each as a couple (whoever thought that being in a relationship could be such a money-saver!!!).

3. She promises me that if we get married and have children, she will allow me to baptize our own kids but not in a baptismal tank, but by pouring a freezing cold Gatorade cooler over them (just like in Football).
 
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Ugly

Guest
#190
#190
Long as we were mostly on the same page about the majority of our views spiritually.
And she is sincere in her faith and wanting to grow. I don't need a spiritual giant. Or even a Proverbs 31 woman. Just someone who can put up with me, have her own relationship with God, share one together as well. Know why she believes what she believes. Has a good enough grasp on the bible to know it, even if she can't always exact quote it or even know the exact chapter and verse. Basically just be a genuine Christian. Not having it all together but at least trying to move forward.
 
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MissCris

Guest
#191
#191
I never used to think that a man's "spiritual level" mattered, so long as they believed pretty much the way I do. But, having been with guys who Talked a heck of a lot but couldn't back up their words with actions...I feel much differently now.

If ever I attempt the whole romance thing again, I know it won't work with anyone who isn't at least on the same page as I am, spiritually. A paragraph or two ahead or behind, no big deal. But no more of this nonsense with people who have either put the book down for a while, or are too busy watching TV to bother reading.

I'm not going to be with anybody who doesn't challenge me to grow in my faith and I'm not going to be with anybody who isn't moving forward With me.

You know, waaaay in the future.
 
Roh_Chris

Roh_Chris

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I know she is Christian enough for me when she...

1. Would wait (without complaining) till the soccer match is over before we start praying

2. Can answer my question of 'Why do you worship Christ?' in not more than 20 words, with conviction and not rhetoric

3. Carries a snack-bar/juice in her bag when we go hungry for a fasting service

4. Would pray every morning - the first thing she does when she wakes up

5. Would hit the gym in the evening and then drag me out for a dinner/movie

6. Can spend all Saturdays cooped up in bed but come Sunday, she's an early-bird to church (unless it's too cold/rainy outside)
 
Descyple

Descyple

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#193
Jun 7, 2010
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I know a woman is Christian enough for me when....................

1. She lets me "preach" to her about all the ways she needs to improve herself.

2. She rebukes me only when she's right and I am wrong (which will be never!!!).

3. When we go door-to-door singing carols at Christmas time, she only lip-syncs the words so that my voice alone brings joy and warmth to all those who don't slam the door in our faces after just a few seconds of hearing me belt out "Little Drummer Boy" - that song should only be sung by guys anyway!!!
 
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Kaycie

Guest
#194
#194
He is not a babe in Christ but has years of spiritual growth. He has more than basic bible knowledge. He teaches others in some form. He is a regular church goer, even if he doesn't have perfect attendance. He doesn't only go on Sunday morning, but is in attendance with the faithful few if he can be. He serves on the Lords table or is active in other church duties. He attends the men's meetings. He is a leader. He is not easily angered. Children like him. He doesnt smoke, get drunk, or swear. And he can lead a public prayer.

But of course there is a whole other list if I am considering dating him- the most important being I have to have feelings for him, and he has to have feelings for me. So that narrows it down to no one. Be that as it may, I'm not lowering my standards. I'd rather stay single.
 
BruceWayne

BruceWayne

Senior Member
#195
Aug 7, 2013
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#195
I know my stipulations are probably frowned upon lol, but I don't spend any time trying to decide if someone is "christian enough" for me. I'm never going to be the type that turns down a great person just because we're in different places in our christian walks, do things differently, or even have different religious beliefs. As long as they can respect my beliefs, that's good enough for me. :p
 
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Siberian_Khatru

Guest
#196
#196
"Christian enough" means something a little different to me than it might mean to others.

I like what Bruce said (I even clicked on the "Like" button to prove it). I get the whole "equally yoked" thing (and at the same time don't, but that's another discussion) but I've been with women both of the faith and not, and the experiences have taught me that there is often a disconnect between what a person identifies as and how they conduct themselves.

I'd take a magnanimous soul over a dogmatic one.
 
Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
#197
Aug 13, 2014
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Kudos for seoulsearch. A poll more than six months old and still getting votes. ;)
 
garet82

garet82

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well, we are counted by our action n attitude.
i think a real christian shown by his/her way life, attitude n action, not only by words but applied Christianity values in real live :)
 
Willie-T

Willie-T

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Good grief. I am still laughing at that poll. That took both my wife and me on a rather chillingly frightening trip way back in time. I'm a little ashamed to admit it, but I was once there, too.
 
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Abing

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#200
That was a long poll. Lol. A man who's in love with Jesus is all that matters to me.
 
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