Basically I met a girl at chruch tonight. She was really easy to talk to, but then I found out she had a kid and I lost interest.(Short version, had a longer one typed but my computer shut down and I didn't want to type it again)
I'd still perfer a virgin for a wife by a lot, though I think I would accept that isn't a virgin as long as she does have something like herpes or hiv. Though I don't think I'd want someone that has a kid.
But yeah, basically this is making wonder how hard is to find a church girl that's about my age that's a virgin. btw, I consider a virgin as someone that hasn't gone fauther than tounge to tounge making out.(Even then I'd perfer that she hasn't even done that.)
I have read the OP and a few posts on the first page.
I think it's reasonable for a man to want to marry a virgin. Remaining a virgin is a bare minimum basic requirement for the unmarried. If someone gives it away willingly, what right do they have to complain if someone turns him or her down as a spouse over such a major issue? It's our culture that is messed up because it doesn't value virginity. If it is wrong to value virginity and want to marry a virgin, why did God give the holy, just, and good law in the Old Testament that a girl who plays the harlot in her fathers house by giving away her virginity and then gets married off as a virgin could face the death penalty?
The Lord could bless a man with a woman who is not a virgin who has repented. But I don't think wanting to marry a virgin is the same thing as 'forgiving' a woman for not being a virgin. If you were only attracted to redheads or only wanted to marry a girl who could play the piano, 'forgiving' a brunette for having brown hair wouldn't make you attracted to her, and 'forgiving' a girl for not being a musician wouldn't satisfy that desire. Some requirements we have may be silly. I wouldn't put wanting to marry a virgin in that category. God would only allow the priests to marry virgin Israelites or else widows of other priests.
I wanted to marry a virgin and I did. I was a virgin on my wedding night. I prayed, and eventually God gave me the desire of my heart. I was in an Asian country where it is considered for unmarried people to remain virgins until marriage. Someone, male or female, who looses his or her virginity before marriage could be stigmatized. It's not like the US where people are ashamed of being virgins.
Believe it or not, there are girls your age who are virgins, girls who loved Christ at a young age. There are girls who go to regular evangelical churches like this. If you think you can increase your chances, you hang out at home school conventions, try to find heavily patriarchal 'quiverful' families that believe in courting where the parents have never let the girl in her 20's out of their site, ask the father, and court the daughter. There are also purity balls and virgin pride events you could try to go to. Some of these things target school-aged girls, but maybe you could meet an older sister. There are some sub-cultures where virginity is more highly guarded than in mainstream society in the US. Why does a girl have to be your own age? You could find someone a few years younger, still in her 20's, and increase the chances of finding a virgin. Some of those conservative families want to marry the kids off young to 'prevent fornication', so that's something to consider.
There are also other countries where the sexual revolution did not invade and do quite as much damage. You could try Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines or maybe even South Korea or Chinese cultures there. I suspect there are some African cultures where virginity is the norm where you could find a Christian woman as well.
There is also Christianchat. Every so often, virginity comes up and some single woman will say that she is a virgin. You could search through the archives, identify the virgins, and start pming and chatting. :lol
