I'm a Christian... You're a Christian... (Frustrations with Dating Christians.)
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I was surprised to see this bumped too... In all honesty though I think most people just read the topics and don't realize the actual thread was created so long ago. There are some topics I've actually wanted to rewrite with my up-to-date experiences (cough, cough.... crickets chirping) but I just haven't had the time.
And Chandler, you're still welcome to bring up your challenge, if you so wish.
Maybe you even want to start another thread about it? That might work well, since it seems to be a topic of current interest that people want to talk about.
And Chandler, you're still welcome to bring up your challenge, if you so wish.
Maybe you even want to start another thread about it? That might work well, since it seems to be a topic of current interest that people want to talk about.
I was surprised to see this bumped too... In all honesty though I think most people just read the topics and don't realize the actual thread was created so long ago. There are some topics I've actually wanted to rewrite with my up-to-date experiences (cough, cough.... crickets chirping) but I just haven't had the time.
And Chandler, you're still welcome to bring up your challenge, if you so wish. Maybe you even want to start another thread about it? That might work well, since it seems to be a topic of current interest that people want to talk about.
And Chandler, you're still welcome to bring up your challenge, if you so wish.
Maybe you even want to start another thread about it? That might work well, since it seems to be a topic of current interest that people want to talk about.
Ok, maybe I will do that... I'm also interested to hear an update of your experiences since you made that thread
The crickets chirping should give you a clue.
Actually, this is going to sound weird but I've never actually dated a good Christian guy. Which is another long, sad, and frustrating story. Either we weren't compatible, they met someone else, our "Christian" beliefs were very different and definitely not on the same page (meaning, they were looking for sex, despite their beliefs--and these were guys who were very involved in their churches, ministries, and mission work.) I'd love to see your idea for a thread update to this topic!!!
Very cool. Hope to see you there soon.
The crickets chirping should give you a clue. Actually, this is going to sound weird but I've never actually dated a good Christian guy. Which is another long, sad, and frustrating story. Either we weren't compatible, they met someone else, our "Christian" beliefs were very different and definitely not on the same page (meaning, they were looking for sex, despite their beliefs--and these were guys who were very involved in their churches, ministries, and mission work.)
I'd love to see your idea for a thread update to this topic!!! Very cool. Hope to see you there soon.
Actually, this is going to sound weird but I've never actually dated a good Christian guy. Which is another long, sad, and frustrating story. Either we weren't compatible, they met someone else, our "Christian" beliefs were very different and definitely not on the same page (meaning, they were looking for sex, despite their beliefs--and these were guys who were very involved in their churches, ministries, and mission work.) I'd love to see your idea for a thread update to this topic!!!
Very cool. Hope to see you there soon.
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If someone had a dark past and they're trying to justify it, that's an issue. The red flags are there to warn you.
If someone had a dark past that they've repented of and they're working to die to their old self daily and rising to new life in Christ, don't hold their past against them. If you can see good fruit and a relationship working, go ahead and give it a go. If you can't deal with that, forgiven as their past is, then don't get involved. I can understand the concerns/fears that may come across with learning such things, but if you love someone and they're displaying good, godly fruit, it's very likely that they're truly repentant and walking with God. We need to go back to the Bible and see what it says about the nature of godly love and then practice that same love in our daily lives.
If someone had a dark past that they've repented of and they're working to die to their old self daily and rising to new life in Christ, don't hold their past against them. If you can see good fruit and a relationship working, go ahead and give it a go. If you can't deal with that, forgiven as their past is, then don't get involved. I can understand the concerns/fears that may come across with learning such things, but if you love someone and they're displaying good, godly fruit, it's very likely that they're truly repentant and walking with God. We need to go back to the Bible and see what it says about the nature of godly love and then practice that same love in our daily lives.