Is it okay for men to cry?
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Jesus cried when Lazarus died and He had the ability to bring him back. If anything it shows that the love for the person is/was great and their loss affects the spirit. But I don't think you'd be telling Him to "move on." 
there is no logic in crying about things you can not control.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Phil. 4:13)
But that's not the point, really. Crying seems to be special to God and others because it is the physical manifestation of a person's internal and invisible emotions. To mourn over something like a death displays a brokenness of spirit which cannot be conveyed with such intensity any other way.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. (Matt. 5:4)
Record my misery; list my tears on your scroll - are they not in your record? (Ps. 56:8)
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. (Ro. 12:15)
I think you devalue the significance it has with God - not to say that crying/weeping is a necessity, just that it is not as useless as you make it seem.
But that's not the point, really. Crying seems to be special to God and others because it is the physical manifestation of a person's internal and invisible emotions. To mourn over something like a death displays a brokenness of spirit which cannot be conveyed with such intensity any other way.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. (Matt. 5:4)
Record my misery; list my tears on your scroll - are they not in your record? (Ps. 56:8)
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. (Ro. 12:15)
I think you devalue the significance it has with God - not to say that crying/weeping is a necessity, just that it is not as useless as you make it seem.
Look up wept at http://www.biblegateway.com
Many have mentioned grief but there are other things that can make a grown man cry.
There are some songs that make me cry. I sure hope I never get so old and crusty - or just flat-out hard and coldhearted - that they don't make me cry. If I ever reach the point that nothing will make me cry, it's time to either go back to the altar or crawl in my grave and die.
There are some songs that make me cry. I sure hope I never get so old and crusty - or just flat-out hard and coldhearted - that they don't make me cry. If I ever reach the point that nothing will make me cry, it's time to either go back to the altar or crawl in my grave and die.
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A man should be manly. A quiverring upper lip and wet cheeks are not becoming of a man. If everyone is weeping and wailing over something who is going to man up, take a lead and confront the issue if not the man? I chose 'it depends' because I think a man should cry only very rarely. I have never seen my father cry, or my mother actually.
To start, I hope as you get older that your view on this changes because you have a slightly skewed view of masculinity. When you consider the number of times in Scripture and other writings within church history throughout the years that men who were warriors for the faith are shown to have cried, I would hope you might see things differently. Men are called to wring out their life in service to others to the glory of God, and that sometimes involves pain, and pain invokes tears. I would actually be concerned that a man who doesn't cry at times is lacking in passion.
I will say, however, that if I have a family someday I will likely try at times to be outwardly strong for them and save my tears for elsewhere.
I will say, however, that if I have a family someday I will likely try at times to be outwardly strong for them and save my tears for elsewhere.
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It's totally okay for men to cry. Is it hard to watch? Yes. But it's okay.
My husband has cried (in front of me) four times in the 11 that we've been together. Two of those were over deaths, two of them were when our children were born. I didn't find it repulsive or think he was being weak- I would have thought it off-putting if he'd not shown any emotion in those situations, actually.
I hate that men have this pressure placed on them to be stoic and show unwavering strength at all times. It's ridiculous. Do I want to see men wailing over every little thing? Absolutely not. But then, I get annoyed when women cry all the time too (although, ever since I had kids, I cry a lot easier over weird things...so I understand sometimes it just happens and you can't stop it, but if you spend half your time in tears over things, you've either got the worst life ever, or you need to toughen up a little...or get your hormones checked...).
Men who NEVER cry...I dunno, it's not natural. I'd say their hearts have become too hard.
My husband has cried (in front of me) four times in the 11 that we've been together. Two of those were over deaths, two of them were when our children were born. I didn't find it repulsive or think he was being weak- I would have thought it off-putting if he'd not shown any emotion in those situations, actually.
I hate that men have this pressure placed on them to be stoic and show unwavering strength at all times. It's ridiculous. Do I want to see men wailing over every little thing? Absolutely not. But then, I get annoyed when women cry all the time too (although, ever since I had kids, I cry a lot easier over weird things...so I understand sometimes it just happens and you can't stop it, but if you spend half your time in tears over things, you've either got the worst life ever, or you need to toughen up a little...or get your hormones checked...).
Men who NEVER cry...I dunno, it's not natural. I'd say their hearts have become too hard.
It's not about whether it's in your control or not. It's a matter of hurt. It HURTS to lose someone. It's painful when you're under a lot of stress. When someone breaks their leg, are they not supposed to cry, even though it hurts? Or what about third degree burns? If someone gets one of those, are they not supposed to cry over that?
Though they might be feeling physical pain, emotional pain is just as relevant and you feel it just as much. So don't go saying to someone because they can't control it don't cry about it. I don't have a clue as to why you're so cynical but I suggest that you take it elsewhere, because making someone, male or female, feel guilty because they cried is extremely rude.
Though they might be feeling physical pain, emotional pain is just as relevant and you feel it just as much. So don't go saying to someone because they can't control it don't cry about it. I don't have a clue as to why you're so cynical but I suggest that you take it elsewhere, because making someone, male or female, feel guilty because they cried is extremely rude.
Yes lil_christian but if you shut away the emotion you don't have to deal with the pain. And if you say real men don't cry you can justify shutting the emotion away. I know some men who have been hurt so much that they turn into just that - men who have made such thick walls around their hearts that they can't really feel anything except cynicism and sarcasm. It's really sad.
The last time I cried (that wasn't caused by a song) was when my cat died. I usually don't cry over pets, but this was different. She had been sleeping on the motor of a car and her lower body got caught in the fan belt when she tried to bail out. What got to me was how she was meowing in pain, and meowing directly at me, turning her head as best she could to look at me, because she wanted me to do something about it, because she always looked to me to take care of her... and I couldn't do anything for her. It just tore me up.
I dunno, maybe there's something to the whole walling your heart off thing. Pain sure ain't fun.
The last time I cried (that wasn't caused by a song) was when my cat died. I usually don't cry over pets, but this was different. She had been sleeping on the motor of a car and her lower body got caught in the fan belt when she tried to bail out. What got to me was how she was meowing in pain, and meowing directly at me, turning her head as best she could to look at me, because she wanted me to do something about it, because she always looked to me to take care of her... and I couldn't do anything for her. It just tore me up.
I dunno, maybe there's something to the whole walling your heart off thing. Pain sure ain't fun.
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