Ok, I think I need to make it clear that I'm NOT saying that you won't get anything lasting and/or fruitful out of having loved someone..
What I am saying is that someone who loved and lost probably feels more pain and sorrow (languishing over the love that they miss) than someone who has never loved and only experiences loneliness and frustration (
which can often be overcome quickly with a good movie or something).
See, this is why I usually stay out of serious discussions (and semi-serious ones too)
"I've got news for you..."
("I am not angry - I just want to make my point very clearly...")
No movie or any other 'activity' that I know of can/will "answer" the
pangs of loneliness due to the [severe] lack of a good honest close relationship with someone of the other gender.
Someone who "has never loved" - but who has the
will and the
want "to love" -
who has a lot of love to give, but is unable to give it - may
still feel the
pangs of loneliness because they cannot give the love that they want to give. (And I am talking about the
many various ways to love - and to
express that love - physical and otherwise - as a
collective whole.)
A woman "feels the need" '
to be loved'. A man "feels the need" '
to love'. It is "the natural order of things" that God put into existance. It is the way He made us. Yes - in a "surface level" general sense - we ALL "need to be loved" - male and female alike. What I am describing here exists at a deeper physiological/psychological level within us where male and female operate differently
with regard to identity - "it is in the chromosomes"... (In other words, this is
really the way it works ["based on my understanding of things"]. We just generalize it for simplicity.)
Do you believe that a person can "miss" something they have never ["really and truly"] had?
I do.
I am
not saying that one cannot be
distracted away from it - with an 'activity' such as watching a movie - so that they "feel it less" at those moments in time; however,
it is still there and
demanding to be "answered"...
The question:
Is it truly better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all?
There is obviously no indisputable "correct" answer -- because of the many variables involved in each person's idea of what 'better' means to them in this context. A person's
focus on the positive or negative "will make all the difference in the world"...
Personally -- in the context of this question -- I believe that I would rather focus on the positive -- because
something is a whole lot less *empty* than
nothing -- and therefore,
better...
.