Lord, we need to fix this, huh?

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Jullianna

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This is LightningClap's idea:
What about "what trait(s) do you think you most need to improve upon to be the person you wish to be in a marriage"?

So, what changes do you know you need the Lord to help you make?

Mine:

- #1 would definitely be that I need to stop hiding behind my work and work less, which is undoubtedly why I'm still single. I'm reeeally working on this one. Stop laughing. I AM :)
- Learn to chill more so I could spend more time with whoever he might be rather than thinking I need to be doing something constructive every single minute of my life. Even in CC I feel like I need to be doing more. Maybe if I would slow down, God could teach ME more..
- Be more trusting rather than having concerns that I will repeat my mistakes; maybe even be more trusting of men in general.
-Try to figure out why guys keep telling me that I'm scary. :rolleyes:
 
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Bornfromabove

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One flaw that I know I have is that when someone ask me to do them a favor that causes me inconvenience, though I may do the favor, I don't do it with a happy attitude. I do it with more of an aggravated attitude.

I also like having time to myself just a little too much. I mean I like having alone time a lot, to the point where I just don't devote as much time as I should to others.
 
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Bornfromabove

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Something else I struggle with is not being talkative. I'm very quiet, I usually don't have a lot to say....and when I do talk I'm short and to the point. Some people might find that boring.
 
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Jullianna said:
#1 would definitely be that I need to stop hiding behind my work and work less, which is undoubtedly why I'm still single.
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Hahahahaha, oh how I can relate, Jullianna. I will have to be less of a workaholic, though I must say that it has been a convenient excuse for staying away from people I detest.

I should probably tone down my rater snide and irreverent sense of humor.

My proclivity to read rather than pay attention to someone five feet in front of me doesn't help. Yes, even if the girl is really pretty, an interesting book still trumps her.
 
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CatWoman

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I get what your saying, but at this point I just want to improve myself for me. I made up my mind Im going to be happy with my life married or not.

You did start a great thread here. I think people need to ask themselfs " Do I want a spouse who wants someone like me?"I mean if your a disfunktional person your going to attract a disfunktional partner.
 
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I wonder if this will turn into one of those "what is your greatest weakness?" questions posed in job interviews.

"I invest too much time in relationships."

"I just really want my partner to be happy. I don't think of myself enough."
 
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Jullianna

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I get that, Catwoman. Love your attitude. :)
Truthfully, the things I listed are things I need to change whether someone ever comes into my life or not. :)
 
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Jullianna

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Ritter said:
Hahahahaha, oh how I can relate, Jullianna. I will have to be less of a workaholic, though I must say that it has been a convenient excuse for staying away from people I detest.

I should probably tone down my rater snide and irreverent sense of humor.

My proclivity to read rather than pay attention to someone five feet in front of me doesn't help. Yes, even if the girl is really pretty, an interesting book still trumps her.
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Don't you dare!!! :D
 
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Jullianna

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Ritter said:
I wonder if this will turn into one of those "what is your greatest weakness?" questions posed in job interviews.

"I invest too much time in relationships."

"I just really want my partner to be happy. I don't think of myself enough."[/quote]

Gag... and the next sentence would be about collecting cats...

My answer to that interview question is that if I'm not kept busy, I will start cleaning stuff :)
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Jullianna

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Ummm...after wandering around the forum a bit, I'm thinking the thing I really need to change is my strong desire to type:


NO! YOU WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER FIND A WOMAN/MAN IF YOU DON'T STOP MAKING THESE SAME WHINEY THREADS OVER AND OVER!
 
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My proclivity to read rather than pay attention to someone five feet in front of me doesn't help. Yes, even if the girl is really pretty, an interesting book still trumps her.
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Challenge accepted! :D
 
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Jullianna said:
This is LightningClap's idea:
What about "what trait(s) do you think you most need to improve upon to be the person you wish to be in a marriage"?

So, what changes do you know you need the Lord to help you make?

Mine:

- #1 would definitely be that I need to stop hiding behind my work and work less, which is undoubtedly why I'm still single. I'm reeeally working on this one. Stop laughing. I AM :)
- Learn to chill more so I could spend more time with whoever he might be rather than thinking I need to be doing something constructive every single minute of my life. Even in CC I feel like I need to be doing more. Maybe if I would slow down, God could teach ME more..
- Be more trusting rather than having concerns that I will repeat my mistakes; maybe even be more trusting of men in general.
-Try to figure out why guys keep telling me that I'm scary. :rolleyes:
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I actually feel like I'm spiritually and mentally ready to be a loving husband. I think I have enough patience, wisdom and humility to overcome most problems that might come up between a husband and wife (I know this doesn't sound very humble at all hehe). I don't get jealous, I don't get over-protective, I don't desire to have power over a woman, and I'm not afraid to admit when I'm wrong.

My biggest problem is probably that I am a pushover. When I love a woman, I'll pretty much agree with her on everything and do whatever she wants. That might sound like a good thing, but she'd probably get bored with me quickly and fall out of love. Why? Because I think women would rather have a man who is a bit of a challenge than a man who is always nice to them. Well, I can always take up writing. ;)
 
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kayem77

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I need to improve my age, maybe in 2 or 3 years I will see a difference, but I won't do any promises..
 
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My friend and I have talked about this at length, both under the heading of why I'm holding myself back and why God might be holding someone back from me.

Personally:
- I want to be healthier and build on my self esteem, my confidence = zero 70% of the time
- I need to learn to stand up for myself and say no when its nessisary

Heavenly:
- I dont trust in God enough, live rather fearfully. I can see why he wouldn't want to give me someone until I fixed that. My trust should be first and formost in God, and then in my husband/fiance
- God sadly tends to get left on the back burner when my life goes crazy. I can see why he wouldn't want to give me someone until He is my main focus, so that an earthly relationship doesn't drown him out.

These are all things I obvs need to work on to achieve, and am learning to trust that God will get me there when he gets me there.
 
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Crossfire

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Jullianna said:
Ummm...after wandering around the forum a bit, I'm thinking the thing I really need to change is my strong desire to type:


NO! YOU WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER FIND A WOMAN/MAN IF YOU DON'T STOP MAKING THESE SAME WHINEY THREADS OVER AND OVER!
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Way too funny! True but funny! :D
 
brokenheart69

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I have been told that my standars are to high for any man to reach. I refuse to take anyone that is not Mr. Right. I can't settle for Mr. Rightnow, thats foolish. There is no sutch thing as Mr. Perfect for we all have faults.

I dont trust men, witch makes me keep and eye for the amergency exit. Just in case.

I want a man that puts Jesus above all, takes care of himself, physicly,spiritually, and emotional.
For I know this man will be able to take care of me. Its that to mutch to ask for?

So i guess I will have to drop my standars and trust men. (scary)
 
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Crossfire

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Jullianna said:
-Try to figure out why guys keep telling me that I'm scary. :rolleyes:
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Maybe they've been frisked before by a female officer who was a little rough? *lol*

My first cousin is a police officer in the Chicago area. She's also a very attractive female and is not afraid to knock someone's teeth down their throat. I asked her a few years back what it was that made her decide to become a cop. She replied "I love to fight and this was the only occupation I could think of that would allow me to push people around and not get arrested myself." Of course we both got a good laugh out of her response but to be completely honest, I have no doubt she was telling me the truth.
 
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Sorry for the ramp.

I can only say be yourself at all times. Be nice but be your self and this way it will not be a sruprice when the real you comes out. For every one always seems to put their best foward. After datting awhile the real person comes out and we wonder if we ever knew them at all.
So I say be your self and be happy and let him/her see who you really are up front and they may LOVE you more for it, or just become friends :)
 
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brokenheart69 said:
I have been told that my standars are to high for any man to reach. I refuse to take anyone that is not Mr. Right. I can't settle for Mr. Rightnow, thats foolish. There is no sutch thing as Mr. Perfect for we all have faults.

I dont trust men, witch makes me keep and eye for the amergency exit. Just in case.

I want a man that puts Jesus above all, takes care of himself, physicly,spiritually, and emotional.
For I know this man will be able to take care of me. Its that to mutch to ask for?

So i guess I will have to drop my standars and trust men. (scary)
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Yeah, without trust you will never get anywhere. And even if you did marry, it wouldn't work because no one likes the sense that you always think the worst of them.

Really the balance is trusting them enough to not always think the worst, yet still being smart enough to notice when there's a reason to actually wonder if there is a real problem.
 
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Ice00Man

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brokenheart69 said:
I have been told that my standars are to high for any man to reach. I refuse to take anyone that is not Mr. Right. I can't settle for Mr. Rightnow, thats foolish. There is no sutch thing as Mr. Perfect for we all have faults.

I dont trust men, witch makes me keep and eye for the amergency exit. Just in case.

I want a man that puts Jesus above all, takes care of himself, physicly,spiritually, and emotional.
For I know this man will be able to take care of me. Its that to mutch to ask for?

So i guess I will have to drop my standars and trust men. (scary)
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Don't drop your standards !! Keeping Jesus in the picture is awesome - He is the one that will provide for you the man of your dreams.

Be faithful in the only man you can trust " JESUS"
 
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