Yes I agree with others. A man with too many female friends and no solid friendships with other men were a deal breaker for me when I was dating with the exception being that the man was at LEAST pursuing male led friendship or social involvement. Some men, of course are quite natural around women and that could be because they grew up with a lot of sisters or still maintain a fantastic relationship with his mother and sisters like my husband.
The friends with opposite sex should have boundaries. Obviously they are more flexible when single but it becomes more strict during the duration of a courtship and marriage, which is why it is important for the guy to have male friends to lean on primarily more than female friends.
Thank you for giving me some hope. Your husband sounds a lot like me. Well... in this case at least.
The two women cheating on you and Them being insanely jealous doesn't surprise me a bit. In my experience it's normally the crazy jealous one's that are the cheaters.
This has proven true far too many times to just be coincidence... I agree.
You know, I think I must have a bit of a different view on this than I've seen from others so far. I have some very close female friends. I have spent a lot of time thinking about what would happen if I were to get back into a serious relationship. In my first one I didn't cut out my close female friends and it ended in disaster. In my second I did cut out all of my close female friends. After the relationship ended I found that I realized how hurt some of them had been. Seems kind of like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place if I get into another relationship.
I can honestly say that I love my female friends deeply. I had a friend who used to talk about how bad dating was because each time you gave out a piece of your heart. In the end, you got some back each time, but lost a bit until you had very little to give to your eventual wife. I'm not sure I really buy into this idea, but I can say that I have without a doubt given each of my close female friends a part of my heart. I refuse to ask for it back. But that leaves me stuck again; how can I love my wife enough if I also refuse to love my female friends less?
Does God pour out enough love to do this? Is it fair to your wife to know that you love her deeply, but also another 3 women? I would love to claim that there would still be another level of love involved, but I don't really know. Is the commitment and the intimacy enough to elevate your wife above the others? In truth, I want to get married, I do really desire a family, but I'm afraid that maybe God is leading me down a different path.
Anyone care to share thoughts or experiences?