I find it is best to find any small character flaw which they posses and isolate it. Then after I've found this flaw, it must be the reason for the offense.
Nah, I actually removed the answer to your from my original post on purpose. I already knew how I would respond before I clicked the "Submit" button on the OP. I hope for now simply answering by saying "with God's help" gives you any reassurance you need. :S
it's important to understand too, lightnin,' that everyone is different, sometimes we don't even understand those differences until it's too late. But God is there, and, He will help us understand, perfectly, it's been said a 100 times but you might think you will get along with everybody, that you can love everybody but this is not true, at least, it is not true of your own doing. Ahhh....
But with God, comes the revelation of understanding and promise from God that we can love others, He gives us the strength to do this, and, there is Scripture too that says we must love God or we do not really know God.
In order to truly love God, all bitterness must be rooted from our heart and understanding of wronging others and how do we understand that? By jove !
Oh, of course not, by God, He shows us the way to reconciliation, and, that way is through the person you wronged, green? Maybe. I dunno, that's between YOU and God
But I do know this as Scripture tells us, God forgave ALL of us, when we were ENEMIES of God. He did this forgiveness through the grace of giving us His Son and now all the past sins we've done are COVERED by the blood. So, all the things you think you've done to wrong others, lightnin'bro, are covered by 'His shed blood.'
And, living in His will for our life , sure, we will make mistakes in the PRESENT and the FUTURE (that's sin, people !
) , and, God WILL cover that sin too. He does WANT us to confess when we DO sin, we don't just get to confess once and then just go on sinning. Oh no !! Just because God's grace gives us a nullification of our sin, we are NOT to do it. Paul puts it clearly: God forbid!
God bless ya, and, just keep on keeping on living in His grace, we MUST all do this, NONE of us, even, GASP!, the people you think you MAY have wronged on here. They TOO are just like you, none of us are good, but THROUGH the blood of Christ, the PRECIOUS blood of Jesus, we are freee, indeed, for believing and following and living in Him and He is us and walking in His ways, and, with Him, He is your Helper, His Spirit is with you, who is also, just as He was for His disciples, your 'friend,' lightningbuddy
So, others should forgive you, they then are forgiven, just as the Matthew 5 Lord's prayer says, Christbro
Judging Others
37“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
Don't condemn others who believe a little different than you, in fact, I would go so far as to NOT judge anyone who IS claiming to follow Him and you see it with their heart, even if their doctrine is not the same as your own. Powerful Sciripture.
So is this:
12My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. 14You are my friends if you do what I command. 15I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.16You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit—fruit that will last. Then the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. 17This is my command: Love each other.
I love ya, lightningbrother, fellow follower of Christ 
