saying I LOVE YOU

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cris_danao

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ahhmmm.. i never dated, never kissed (and of course never had sex) and never had boyfriend ever since.. because when i was young i decided not to do this until the right time has come and only for the right guy that God will give me.. but just recently i just gave my "I love you" to a guy for the first time because i really fell in love with him so intensely (even though I just know him recently…but we chose to be just friends).. im not yet ready to have bf (until i finish my schooling = which is my commitment) and im hoping that the first bf that ill have would be my last one and only (im talking about the right guy).... but im somehow worried.. since i already told a guy those words.... but im still praying that God will let me fall out of love for this guy if he is not the right man for me,,,and also i pray that ill never fall in love with other guy if this guy is the right man for me... i dont know how to manage this feelings,,, but one thing i know.. i will still not date, or kiss (and of course do sex) and have bf until the right time has come,,, (with the right guy for me)... but i want to hear advices (from married/ unmarried/separated/ those who are in relationship/ even those not in relationship, both female and male) about saying i love you to a guy (esp its so awkward since im a girl) <sorry>
 
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nukreation

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Hi Cris, Sounds like you've set some wise boundaries that will set you up for a great marriage one day. I wouldn't worry about telling your friend that you love him - I'm sure he was quite flattered. When you do one day meet the right person, he won't be concerned that you told someone else that you loved them.
 
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Rachael82

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If he's not the one for you, trust that God will help you to see it and he will make an escape for your feelings. Anytime I've ever had feelings for someone that the Lord clearly didn't want me to be with he's given me escape and put obstacles in my way that seemed to be urging me towards cutting my emotional ties with that person. Unfortunately I was young, stubborn and often put my own wants before what God wanted for me. This caused me a lot of heartache. A LOT of heartache. I'm thankful because it ultimately brought me closer to God but it wasn't easy. Almost all of us I think have had feeling of love for someone who wasn't intended for us and many of us have told that person that we love them, and it's okay to still have love for them. God knows your hearts desires and I'm sure you telling this young man that you love him won't stop God from placing the right young man in your life. Just try to be patient and continue to pray. I commend you for being so strong at your age. You're very wise for 18. I wish I could have been so wise at that age :)
 
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Ugly

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Chances are you will have feelings for others. Its just human nature to connect to others and sometimes feel a strong emotional connection to them.

Life is full of trials, we just have to do our best.
 
happyinhisway

happyinhisway

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Its hard to express the way you feel to some one when everyone uses a word so loosly. The meanning to I Love You has lost its affectiveness casue manny love lots of things. But to share the true feeling with another should affect the heart of the person, and a true respondce will come back if the feeling is the same.
Just saying
 
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shirley

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im married 35 yrs i dont what i want i got married to young 16 i say leave it in gods hands when the right man comes along you will know it and telling your friend you love him is ok too trust me wait for that special man my marriage isnt good i love my husband but im not in love wth him i never had a chance to date so take your time make sure its right for you and your partner
 
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cris_danao

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thanks alot brothers and sisters in Christ for reading and responding to me :D
i felt release after reading your messages .... thanks a lot :D
well, one thing i always pray about is that I wont regret my past and present decisions when im already in my future life.. and i pray that i wont fail in this commitment,, coz its getting harder as time goes by.. especially because of the temptations around, i might give-in but i pray that wont happen.. and i pray too that the right guy for me has the same commitment as mine if ever.. but if not ill still accept him for who he is if he is really the guy that God wants me to grow old with physically and spiritually (if there is)..
again thanks a lot for all of you.. its really a great help.. because i reread your advice several times before responding again so that i can really absorb it and i can respond in right way.. thanks!!! and God bless!!!
 
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Lucy68

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cris_danao said:
thanks alot brothers and sisters in Christ for reading and responding to me :D
i felt release after reading your messages .... thanks a lot :D
well, one thing i always pray about is that I wont regret my past and present decisions when im already in my future life.. and i pray that i wont fail in this commitment,, coz its getting harder as time goes by.. especially because of the temptations around, i might give-in but i pray that wont happen.. and i pray too that the right guy for me has the same commitment as mine if ever.. but if not ill still accept him for who he is if he is really the guy that God wants me to grow old with physically and spiritually (if there is)..
again thanks a lot for all of you.. its really a great help.. because i reread your advice several times before responding again so that i can really absorb it and i can respond in right way.. thanks!!! and God bless!!!
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You have a lot of commonsense and a close relationship with Christ so I think you'll do just fine in navigating these rough waters :)

I think worldly temptations have gotten harder with each generation...you're facing harder stuff than I did. Praying for strength and guidance for you little sister :)
 
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rainacorn

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I've never regretted telling someone I love them.

It was the stuff I did after that I needed forgiveness for.
 
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