sex before marriage?

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sex b4 marriage

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alices

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Bible is clear its just for Marriage...so as christians we should fallow the words ,as human definately is not easy ,we are meat and God created us as sexual persons, but its something need be keep until the moment when we find that right person and that we can share our love,life and intimacy after marry him/her ,so its no easy but either impossible,God is our strenght ......
 
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Relena7

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I probably would if I were engaged. Just being honest.

Though even if I didn't know about God or religion or what the bible says, I still think I would prefer to wait until a serious commitment before going that far. Cause I'm weird like that. Something just wouldn't feel right and it would ruin the mood.
 
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niceguyJ

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Relena7 said:
I probably would if I were engaged. Just being honest.
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The engagement could end though without ever getting to the marriage. Then you would've had sex outside of marriage still. I know that has happened to some people that were so sure they were going to marry the person and used that as their reasoning to go ahead with it. Then they regret it later, since the marriage never happened.
 
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LightningClap0002

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niceguyJ said:
The engagement could end though without ever getting to the marriage. Then you would've had sex outside of marriage still. I know that has happened to some people that were so sure they were going to marry the person and used that as their reasoning to go ahead with it. Then they regret it later, since the marriage never happened.
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When I was 17 I took this to an extreme... I had been dating my then girlfriend for about 2 years. I had given her a promise ring, being in high school still, I definitely didn't have the financial means to get her a real ring. We spent almost all of our free time together. Lots of time alone and the idea that heck, it's practically like we're married; we will be as soon as the opportunity arises. We were both curious and as I learned, both pretty physical people. We started having sex; 2 years later our relationship ended. We had drifted apart over the years as I went through college and she stayed "behind" in high school.

I honestly think that the "just being honest" comment needs to really be re-thought. It sounds almost defeatist. Maybe I've misunderstood, but it seemed like you were saying "Well, it's not good, but I'd probably do it anyways." Or maybe "yeah it's bad, but I couldn't resist doing it." If I read too much into the post, I apologize.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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LightningClap0002 said:
When I was 17 I took this to an extreme... I had been dating my then girlfriend for about 2 years. I had given her a promise ring, being in high school still, I definitely didn't have the financial means to get her a real ring. We spent almost all of our free time together. Lots of time alone and the idea that heck, it's practically like we're married; we will be as soon as the opportunity arises. We were both curious and as I learned, both pretty physical people. We started having sex; 2 years later our relationship ended. We had drifted apart over the years as I went through college and she stayed "behind" in high school.

I honestly think that the "just being honest" comment needs to really be re-thought. It sounds almost defeatist. Maybe I've misunderstood, but it seemed like you were saying "Well, it's not good, but I'd probably do it anyways." Or maybe "yeah it's bad, but I couldn't resist doing it." If I read too much into the post, I apologize.
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Yeeeeeeah i had something similar happen as well...
 
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Relena7 said:
I probably would if I were engaged. Just being honest.

Though even if I didn't know about God or religion or what the bible says, I still think I would prefer to wait until a serious commitment before going that far. Cause I'm weird like that. Something just wouldn't feel right and it would ruin the mood.
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I can cognitively say, "NO"

I can believe that "No" is the right answer.

I can try to teach my Children that "No" is the right answer.

I believe that "No" is the right answer.

I have never been in a position where I didn't know what I was doing. I have never lost control. I know what the rules are.

With all of that said. I was engaged once and with what seemed like an inevitable marriage, yeah...............
 
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Relena7

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niceguyJ said:
The engagement could end though without ever getting to the marriage. Then you would've had sex outside of marriage still. I know that has happened to some people that were so sure they were going to marry the person and used that as their reasoning to go ahead with it. Then they regret it later, since the marriage never happened.
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True, and fair enough.
People can also divorce after being married for a year though. It's no different in my eyes.
I have nothing else to say really. I'm not engaged right now so it's not like I have to think about it now anyway.
 
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Relena7

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LightningClap0002 said:
I honestly think that the "just being honest" comment needs to really be re-thought. It sounds almost defeatist. Maybe I've misunderstood, but it seemed like you were saying "Well, it's not good, but I'd probably do it anyways." Or maybe "yeah it's bad, but I couldn't resist doing it." If I read too much into the post, I apologize.
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No apologies. :)
I meant just being honest as in - I know some others will probably disapprove of my answer, but that isn't going to stop me from being honest with myself in public.
 
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Catlynn

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So, I haven't read through this whole thread because it's stinkin long, so excuse me if I'm repeating what anyone has already said.

As a single mother and some who's "been there done that" I urge people to PLEASE listen to people who have and learn from our mistakes. I wouldn't trade my daughter for the world but apart from the bible saying anything about it, sex is so hurtful and harmful outside of marriage, and more importantly, outside of God. He created us to love and to be loved. I don't think that He wants us to wait until the covenant of marriage just for kicks. He is not arbitrary. He is a good God. He knows that anything, when used or abused and outside of His design can hurt us. And because of His love and the lawlessness of man, He had to put those limitations in place.
Know that He isn't a cosmic cop and that within His design, sex can be a fantastic joining of two to become one flesh. And I believe that it's completely worth your wait. :)
 
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GreenNnice

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Catlynn said:
So, I haven't read through this whole thread because it's stinkin long, so excuse me if I'm repeating what anyone has already said.

As a single mother and some who's "been there done that" I urge people to PLEASE listen to people who have and learn from our mistakes. I wouldn't trade my daughter for the world but apart from the bible saying anything about it, sex is so hurtful and harmful outside of marriage, and more importantly, outside of God. He created us to love and to be loved. I don't think that He wants us to wait until the covenant of marriage just for kicks. He is not arbitrary. He is a good God. He knows that anything, when used or abused and outside of His design can hurt us. And because of His love and the lawlessness of man, He had to put those limitations in place.
Know that He isn't a cosmic cop and that within His design, sex can be a fantastic joining of two to become one flesh. And I believe that it's completely worth your wait. :)
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Yeah, what she said.....OH, it's Catty. Hi, Catty, long time no see, she :D
 
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Kooper

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I voted "No."

I'm not perfect. I'm no one to be preachy. But when it comes to my life, I'd like to at least try and follow what the bible says.
 
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Andymac2324

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heck no.i am only 13 but i will wait
 
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koalabear

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sex before marriage is not good. It is lack of self control and indulgence in pleasure. sex before marriage is like meth, not even once.
 
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roc

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As Christians we are not to have sex before marriage but us being human of flesh and blood fall to fleshly things.marriage is mandatory for us because its when we get our true powers and be able to us them! The male and female become one again and the male gets his rib back.
 
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niceguyJ

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roc said:
As Christians we are not to have sex before marriage but us being human of flesh and blood fall to fleshly things.marriage is mandatory for us because its when we get our true powers and be able to us them! The male and female become one again and the male gets his rib back.
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Are you saying marriage is mandatory for Christians? If so, I strongly disagree with you. So does Paul (1 Cor 7:8). Some will remain single and fulfill God's purpose for their lives.
Maybe It's just your wording that is throwing me off, and that's not what you meant to say. I don't know. Hmm.
I don't feel any single person is incomplete either.
 
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Catlynn

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GreenNnice said:
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Back (wards) at ya !
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I'm going to further derail this thread with a !H!i!i!i!i!i!ii XP

But yeah, good topic. Interesting to see other people's perspectives and reasoning on the matter. ^_^
 
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delive

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niceguyJ said:
Are you saying marriage is mandatory for Christians? If so, I strongly disagree with you. So does Paul (1 Cor 7:8). Some will remain single and fulfill God's purpose for their lives.
Maybe It's just your wording that is throwing me off, and that's not what you meant to say. I don't know. Hmm.
I don't feel any single person is incomplete either.
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agreed. :)
 
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