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I can just guess the 7% that think its ok (69 out of a 1000 or so) are using the 'got go see if he/she is sexually compatible with me.'
Well, that's a sucky excuse, it's clear in scripture NOT to sex before marriage. Period.
The Lord leads, beeee in tune with His leading. I just can't imagine wantig to do.it, having the Lord say its ok, in ANY situation. I am not judging, just go with God wherever you go, you WILL know. God will never leave you nor forsake you. And, if you have had sex before marriage, just oath and vow with God you are waiting .
It's a personal relationship God wants with you and inviting sex into your relationship with another before marriage will defile the wedding bed, IF you ever get that far. By doing the premarital sex, you are injuring yourself and making your guilt of yourself almost unbearable. Yes, you can throw that guilt away., as I alliluded earlier, and, your confession and oath to change WILL make you white as snow, WHITE as the virgins
God bless you, all. And, YES! I told God at young age I would wait until marriage and He has definitely protected me from it as I have been courted by many attractive girls, and God's intervened to keep me waiting, as HARD as that truly IS, with Him and my knowing His plan for me it has been easy , and, fruit of waiting is one (of the many) great way that's deepened my faith in Him .
I can just guess the 7% that think its ok (69 out of a 1000 or so) are using the 'got go see if he/she is sexually compatible with me.'
Well, that's a sucky excuse, it's clear in scripture NOT to sex before marriage. Period.
The Lord leads, beeee in tune with His leading. I just can't imagine wantig to do.it, having the Lord say its ok, in ANY situation. I am not judging, just go with God wherever you go, you WILL know. God will never leave you nor forsake you. And, if you have had sex before marriage, just oath and vow with God you are waiting .
It's a personal relationship God wants with you and inviting sex into your relationship with another before marriage will defile the wedding bed, IF you ever get that far. By doing the premarital sex, you are injuring yourself and making your guilt of yourself almost unbearable. Yes, you can throw that guilt away., as I alliluded earlier, and, your confession and oath to change WILL make you white as snow, WHITE as the virgins
God bless you, all. And, YES! I told God at young age I would wait until marriage and He has definitely protected me from it as I have been courted by many attractive girls, and God's intervened to keep me waiting, as HARD as that truly IS, with Him and my knowing His plan for me it has been easy , and, fruit of waiting is one (of the many) great way that's deepened my faith in Him .
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Hi there
I would like to say that sex before marriage could go either yes or no depending on the individual. For example, if you were a couple and one said yes and the other said no, then what? Let's look at adam and eve for example, were they married before their first born?
For me, if my partner to be(wherever she may be) wanted to wait for our wedding night, then I would respect her for that, as we would both want it to be special.
I think this would make a great debate topic
Thank-you and have a great day
God bless
I would like to say that sex before marriage could go either yes or no depending on the individual. For example, if you were a couple and one said yes and the other said no, then what? Let's look at adam and eve for example, were they married before their first born?
For me, if my partner to be(wherever she may be) wanted to wait for our wedding night, then I would respect her for that, as we would both want it to be special.
I think this would make a great debate topic
Thank-you and have a great day
God bless
J
Sex before marriage is immoral. That is not an opinion, but instead stated in Scripture. 1 Thessalonians 4:3, Colossians 3:5, 2 Corinthians 12:21, etc. There is a problem with it and that is that it goes against what God desires for each of us. It may be your choice, but God outlines everything for us in the Bible
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I am not agree!!
... on Biblical scripture,.. sex out of marriage is sin..So, as christian, believing on the Words God.We must not compromised our faith to this sinful world..We must walk accordingly to the will God, according to the leading of the Holy Spirit and not through the flesh...
What a beautiful marriage will have to a young single christian waiting to the perfect will and right time of God for his life..
God bless us all!!!
pray,
july
... on Biblical scripture,.. sex out of marriage is sin..So, as christian, believing on the Words God.We must not compromised our faith to this sinful world..We must walk accordingly to the will God, according to the leading of the Holy Spirit and not through the flesh...
What a beautiful marriage will have to a young single christian waiting to the perfect will and right time of God for his life..
God bless us all!!!
pray,
july
Some of you are going to keep trying to justify having sex outside of marriage. The Bible clearly disagrees with you though, period.
If you try to convince someone here it's okay and not sin, etc. that is on YOU. You get to answer to God for that one. So try to think about that before you potentially help lead someone down the wrong path.
I'm going to once again post some scripture I posted in another thread recently:
Matthew 18:6-10
New International Version (NIV)
Causing to Stumble
6 “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. 7 Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come! 8 If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire. 9 And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.
10 “See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.
Why there even needs to be 36 pages of discussion here on something that is so clearly outlined in the Bible is beyond me. Actually, it's quite sad. I wish one of the mods would say a final word on it and just shut it down. Obviously God is THE final authority, but someone here in a position of authority could step in and end this thing. Otherwise this is probably going to go on for another 36 pages. At least consider it, please.
I kind of look at it like this: If people came into most of the churches I know and started telling people it's okay to have premarital sex, they'd be shut down in a hurry. Do we not have the same obligation here to push out false teaching? Just putting that out there.
If you try to convince someone here it's okay and not sin, etc. that is on YOU. You get to answer to God for that one. So try to think about that before you potentially help lead someone down the wrong path.
I'm going to once again post some scripture I posted in another thread recently:
Matthew 18:6-10
New International Version (NIV)
Causing to Stumble
6 “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. 7 Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come! 8 If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire. 9 And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.
10 “See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.
Why there even needs to be 36 pages of discussion here on something that is so clearly outlined in the Bible is beyond me. Actually, it's quite sad. I wish one of the mods would say a final word on it and just shut it down. Obviously God is THE final authority, but someone here in a position of authority could step in and end this thing. Otherwise this is probably going to go on for another 36 pages. At least consider it, please.
I kind of look at it like this: If people came into most of the churches I know and started telling people it's okay to have premarital sex, they'd be shut down in a hurry. Do we not have the same obligation here to push out false teaching? Just putting that out there.
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Yes. nicest guy, and, I'll add to the authority of what we should put our authority, so to speak, sorry for confuzion, but....
Churches need to base their presence on God's Word. Pure and simple. That is THE only problem in the church today, churches go away from a FAITH in the gospel and it outpours to the SEVEN deadly sins, so to speak. Everything from good (God) becomes good , Everything from bad (Satan) becomes bad.
Sex before marriage? It's bad. It will hurt you won't it? I just don't want to seem like its OK to do it, but, at the same time, I understand, and, have compassion for those that have, and, God specifically says to NOT judge your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. So.......
Here is the good news, if you dun it, you can overrun it with confession and pure-hearted change. This goes for ANY sin and it is simply what God wants us to do to get over it, whatever 'it' is.
So get over it !! God will forget it the moment you GIVE it to Him and NEVER EVER NEVER want it back. May His power be in you, I know it is, too (hey, that's more good news ) . And, it's THIS power of Him (His 'Holy Spirit' namely) that will CHANGE your life into waiting for God's purest gift given mankind and most consequential for healthy God-made, glorifying marriage. And, we want to do EVERYTHING, don;t we, to glorify Him. Glory should go to God for whatever we do, scripture is pointedly clear of this fact
Yes. nicest guy, and, I'll add to the authority of what we should put our authority, so to speak, sorry for confuzion, but....
Churches need to base their presence on God's Word. Pure and simple. That is THE only problem in the church today, churches go away from a FAITH in the gospel and it outpours to the SEVEN deadly sins, so to speak. Everything from good (God) becomes good , Everything from bad (Satan) becomes bad.
Sex before marriage? It's bad. It will hurt you won't it? I just don't want to seem like its OK to do it, but, at the same time, I understand, and, have compassion for those that have, and, God specifically says to NOT judge your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. So.......
Here is the good news, if you dun it, you can overrun it with confession and pure-hearted change. This goes for ANY sin and it is simply what God wants us to do to get over it, whatever 'it' is.
So get over it !!
God will forget it the moment you GIVE it to Him and NEVER EVER NEVER want it back. May His power be in you, I know it is, too (hey, that's more good news ) . And, it's THIS power of Him (His 'Holy Spirit' namely) that will CHANGE your life into waiting for God's purest gift given mankind and most consequential for healthy God-made, glorifying marriage. And, we want to do EVERYTHING, don;t we, to glorify Him. Glory should go to God for whatever we do, scripture is pointedly clear of this fact Our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit, God's:
1 Corinthians 3:16,17; 6:19,20 Know you not that you are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him (YOU!) shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple you are... Know you not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which you have of God, and you are not your own? For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
1 Corinthians 3:16,17; 6:19,20 Know you not that you are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him (YOU!) shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple you are... Know you not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which you have of God, and you are not your own? For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
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Absolutely not.
There are very strong words from God about fornication which is ANY form of sexual activity outside of marriage
I Cor 6:9
9. Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10. nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
There IS hope though! When God corners your conscience on this subject, and you begin to question if it's right or wrong He has an answer!
11. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.
The rest of the chapter (I Corinthans 6) speaks about the real consequences of sexually immoral relations, and the treatment of our bodies. But like I said, there is HOPE! I know it's not easy, but the heart that longs for HIM and HIS presence experiences great times of peace and freedom from the thoughts and things that plague guys (and gals) day to day. Make up your mind that you will seek Him first. Everything will fall into place once you've made that decision.
Matthew 6:
33. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
There are very strong words from God about fornication which is ANY form of sexual activity outside of marriage
I Cor 6:9
9. Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10. nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.
There IS hope though! When God corners your conscience on this subject, and you begin to question if it's right or wrong He has an answer!
11. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.
The rest of the chapter (I Corinthans 6) speaks about the real consequences of sexually immoral relations, and the treatment of our bodies. But like I said, there is HOPE! I know it's not easy, but the heart that longs for HIM and HIS presence experiences great times of peace and freedom from the thoughts and things that plague guys (and gals) day to day. Make up your mind that you will seek Him first. Everything will fall into place once you've made that decision.
Matthew 6:
33. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
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yeah, though, Liamsnotonlately, hey, I don't see you on here lately, Liam, you just get bored with this repetitive ingraining not to do bad things before marriage, or do bad things during marriage, or, do bad things with another, like control them, in a pre-marriage relationship, girlfriend/boyfriend, etc. or, I think I saw you answer a 'what song you like as a single' thread post a week ago but that's it, not that I pay total attention to you, Christ bro
Hmmm, these all seem like topics though that God will speak again and again (and again) on through people because there is NEVER going to be complete agreement. Just won't, it's human nature. Some will say:
It's OK for sex before marraige because I learn if I am compatible with them sexually and, if not, I'm going.
It's OK to commit to no sex before marriage because I am being pure and scripture states this right way.
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So, those are the choices, broken down to brass tacks, so, we need not say another thing aboutt this, except that.... the Lord leads and you should FOLLOW Him in your life as best you can and you will KNOW that what you are doing is WRONG by His Love, and, sometimes that Love will be TOUGH (Love) too. But, I assure you BRETHREN, you will know
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And, I concur with Catty, because whatever she says goes, because it came from God. She is a God-blessed gal that's made the choice to stay pure until she quits meeting Mr. Wrong and God provides her with Mr. Right, if it be His will. Right, Catty, or am I wrong ?
God bless you, too, for your commitment to doing that, milady, as this is but ONE more of many great ACTS that, believe it or not, GLORIFIES Him
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Yeah, liam, it is a thread that's run a long course but the preacher preaches over same topics too and we are too gladingly accept the Word of God for us as from Him And, planned into our life even, so, don't take it as a 'guilty' thing but IF this thread keeps goinig and you keep reading then maybe God to you is something saying and may I add that thing is YOU ARE FORGIVEN and been PURIFIED through confession and following NOW the blood of Christ in your life, ACCEPTING His forgiveness for your impure acts done ago that are gone, gone, gone, forevermore into God's mind that has forgotten.
God can do anything, even forget .
Where you been
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yeah, though, Liamsnotonlately, hey, I don't see you on here lately, Liam, you just get bored with this repetitive ingraining not to do bad things before marriage, or do bad things during marriage, or, do bad things with another, like control them, in a pre-marriage relationship, girlfriend/boyfriend, etc. or, I think I saw you answer a 'what song you like as a single' thread post a week ago but that's it, not that I pay total attention to you, Christ bro
Hmmm, these all seem like topics though that God will speak again and again (and again) on through people because there is NEVER going to be complete agreement. Just won't, it's human nature. Some will say:
It's OK for sex before marraige because I learn if I am compatible with them sexually and, if not, I'm going.
It's OK to commit to no sex before marriage because I am being pure and scripture states this right way.
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So, those are the choices, broken down to brass tacks, so, we need not say another thing aboutt this, except that.... the Lord leads and you should FOLLOW Him in your life as best you can and you will KNOW that what you are doing is WRONG by His Love
, and, sometimes that Love will be TOUGH (Love) too. But, I assure you BRETHREN, you will know _______
And, I concur with Catty, because whatever she says goes, because it came from God. She is a God-blessed gal that's made the choice to stay pure until she quits meeting Mr. Wrong and God provides her with Mr. Right, if it be His will. Right, Catty, or am I wrong ?
God bless you, too, for your commitment to doing that, milady, as this is but ONE more of many great ACTS that, believe it or not, GLORIFIES Him
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Yeah, liam, it is a thread that's run a long course but the preacher preaches over same topics too and we are too gladingly accept the Word of God for us as from Him And, planned into our life even, so, don't take it as a 'guilty' thing but IF this thread keeps goinig and you keep reading then maybe God to you is something saying and may I add that thing is YOU ARE FORGIVEN and been PURIFIED through confession and following NOW the blood of Christ in your life, ACCEPTING His forgiveness for your impure acts done ago that are gone, gone, gone, forevermore into God's mind that has forgotten.
God can do anything, even forget
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Why, SolD?
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Rhetorical.
The reason marriages fail miserably with those waiting for marriage b4 sex is because they did not Go(d) about (Spir) it the right way. Gone the right way I have 100% God-certainty , it is anything but miserable and that is literally speaking. When the marriage is just about 'us,' it will stink, but, ahhh, add a J-E-S to the 'us' and now, peeps, that is a winner, winner chicken dinner way to go about things.
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I can guarantee YOU what God made for good will not be bad IF done right. Case closed
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Where's your scripture, green?
I got none, and, I don't need none neither. You 'no' what I mean. Just throwing things around, LOL, but I am deadly serious too. God made the act of marriage a most beautiful thing and being miserable means Satan hath been allowed in Keep in God and keep the faith that your bond is right and committing to purity before marriage is WHERE that bond begins
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Why, SolD?
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Rhetorical.
The reason marriages fail miserably with those waiting for marriage b4 sex is because they did not Go(d) about (Spir) it the right way. Gone the right way I have 100% God-certainty , it is anything but miserable and that is literally speaking. When the marriage is just about 'us,' it will stink, but, ahhh, add a J-E-S to the 'us' and now, peeps, that is a winner, winner chicken dinner way to go about things.
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I can guarantee YOU what God made for good will not be bad IF done right. Case closed
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Where's your scripture, green?
I got none, and, I don't need none neither. You 'no' what I mean. Just throwing things around, LOL, but I am deadly serious too. God made the act of marriage a most beautiful thing and being miserable means Satan hath been allowed in
Keep in God and keep the faith that your bond is right and committing to purity before marriage is WHERE that bond begins -----
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No sex before marriage!!. save you virginity. It is a precious gift from God. How does God feel when people decide to have sex before marriage? well, imagine that you've purchased a gift for a friend. But before you give it to that friend, he or she-out of sheer curiosity-opens the gift! wouldn't you upset? Imagine, then how God would feel if you were to engage in premarital sex. He wants you to wait until you are married to enjoy the gift of sexual relation-Genesis 1:28
if anyone..has made this decision in his own heart, to keep his own virginity, he will do well-1 Corinthians 7:37
by retaining your virginity, you protect your health, your emotional well being, and the most important of all your relationship with God
if anyone..has made this decision in his own heart, to keep his own virginity, he will do well-1 Corinthians 7:37
by retaining your virginity, you protect your health, your emotional well being, and the most important of all your relationship with God
Ok, this is going to get me yelled at, but here we go.
This is how I honestly feel about it.
I think men get jealous when they are with a girl that has been with other guys, and what better way to get girls to stop having sex before marriage? Say people will go to hell for it.
Almost every religion says no sex before marriage, be faithful to your husband, blah blah. But it is totally cool for a man to have sex slaves and mistresses. Including the OT.
So, I think that whole 'remain pure' about sex thing is a old way to establish control over women. Just how I personally feel.
This is how I honestly feel about it.
I think men get jealous when they are with a girl that has been with other guys, and what better way to get girls to stop having sex before marriage? Say people will go to hell for it.
Almost every religion says no sex before marriage, be faithful to your husband, blah blah. But it is totally cool for a man to have sex slaves and mistresses. Including the OT.
So, I think that whole 'remain pure' about sex thing is a old way to establish control over women. Just how I personally feel.
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Why, SolD?
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Rhetorical.
The reason marriages fail miserably with those waiting for marriage b4 sex is because they did not Go(d) about (Spir) it the right way. Gone the right way I have 100% God-certainty , it is anything but miserable and that is literally speaking. When the marriage is just about 'us,' it will stink, but, ahhh, add a J-E-S to the 'us' and now, peeps, that is a winner, winner chicken dinner way to go about things.
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I can guarantee YOU what God made for good will not be bad IF done right. Case closed
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Where's your scripture, green?
I got none, and, I don't need none neither. You 'no' what I mean. Just throwing things around, LOL, but I am deadly serious too. God made the act of marriage a most beautiful thing and being miserable means Satan hath been allowed in Keep in God and keep the faith that your bond is right and committing to purity before marriage is WHERE that bond begins
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Why, SolD?
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Rhetorical.
The reason marriages fail miserably with those waiting for marriage b4 sex is because they did not Go(d) about (Spir) it the right way. Gone the right way I have 100% God-certainty , it is anything but miserable and that is literally speaking. When the marriage is just about 'us,' it will stink, but, ahhh, add a J-E-S to the 'us' and now, peeps, that is a winner, winner chicken dinner way to go about things.
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I can guarantee YOU what God made for good will not be bad IF done right. Case closed
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Where's your scripture, green?
I got none, and, I don't need none neither. You 'no' what I mean. Just throwing things around, LOL, but I am deadly serious too. God made the act of marriage a most beautiful thing and being miserable means Satan hath been allowed in
Keep in God and keep the faith that your bond is right and committing to purity before marriage is WHERE that bond begins -----
The Spirit speaks Truth. I don't, sometimes I WONDER what I'm saying, but when I don't wonder its because, like marriage, God has spoken through me. Great marriages have God speak through them and Corinthians I and II scripture state the great blessing marriage is and having sex before it won't send you to Hell but its just not what bible says is right.
May God speak to you in Love and Truth
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