Single Mothers in 20s Everywhere at My Church

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GreenNnice

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Catlynn said:
Well Mr. Green, I am, in the words of Ruby Rhod, super green!!! It's God's job to deal with people's heart, not mine. I greatly appreciate you taking such a strong stance for us single moms. I do have to agree with Jullianna on the point that I don't feel as though arguing our points will really do much at all any longer. We won't all agree. I do think though that we should show love. Pray for them (which I'm sure you already are) and pray for healing for those other ladies who may have been hurt. Trust God to work in others. He can and will. :)
I hold no grudges nor am I angry with anyone on this matter.
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Snackersmom said:
^^^^ Thanks for your story Mr. Green, it brought tears to my eyes. I had suspected that there was something behind your protectiveness, but I understand it a little better now, and I hope others do as well. The words and attentions of other people (especially men) can really affect us girls, even those of us who try to act tough. For some reason, ladies seem to be more susceptible to being swayed by what other people say about them, and I am not excluding myself from this (although, with Jesus' help, it becomes less of a factor, because I know He loves me regardless).

And, not to drag apologies back to the forefront, because it's none of my business, but I have a hard time continuing friendship with someone who knows they have hurt my feelings, but refuses to give me a decent apology. Don't get me wrong, I will readily forgive them in my heart, and not hold the offence against them. But, to really want to be friends again, I need a heartfelt apology.

Apologizing isn't always easy, but it is important, for both my growth and the growth of the person I offended. So, when I hurt someone's feelings, even if I didn't mean to, I do try to apologize, so that the air will be clear between us. Forgiveness is important, but so is repentance.

Anyway, this wasn't directed at anyone in particular, just the ramblings of a nosy little busybody who should probably butt out before she accidentally re-ignites the tinderbox.............Love y'all. Peace out.
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Jilly81 said:
Ed, I love you :). I'm sure your sister does, too......I bet she asked "Ryan" to leave because of the way you reacted.....I suspect that you saved her tons of heartache by your tears and urgent prayers. If you'd pulled him out of the house with you and locked both of you out, I would've cheered, BTW. I was going to ask you in the thread in which we can ask questions we wouldn't normally ask, if you had always been protective of the ladies, and what made you this way; I suppose that I have at least part of my answer here. I realize that you said that you wouldn't jump back in the thread, but....:). I appreciate your treatment of the "pink names" partly because some of the guys here in our own forums make me feel uncomfortable even though they're just talking to the CC community in general. It's nice seeing a voice of kindness, chivalry, and true love (hugs her big-brother-in-the-Lord Green and nice :)). It makes me feel awfully good to know that you understand...... even the ones of us who haven't done things that would make people whisper and raise eyebrows still had to fight certain thoughts and feelings, and if I didn't have Jesus as my best friend.....I kinda hate thinking about where I would be :(. Also, some of the guys don't acknowledge that men are simply easier able to run and hide from a baby (okay, I admit that that sounds funny :)). It's not usually obvious that guys are single parents if they don't take the responsibility of marrying their child's mother. Being unable to become pregnant doesn't mean that men are better than women.
I should probably add, Green, that yours is one of the few posts in this thread that I've read; from the beginning of it it looks like there was a disagreement; I tried to find all of the posts involved, but I realized that reading everything was going to take longer than I have time for, so I'll have to hope that what I said here was enough :).
One more thing. I understand wanting to have a spouse who is following Jesus in every way (as I also want, if God does have a husband for me some day), but I've encountered men fairly often who mainly care about a woman not having done certain things, even if the lady in question wasn't a Christian yet at the time of the specified sin. Not only does it put too much emphasis on sex as opposed to forgiveness, healing and the Gospel, but knowing that a man cares so much about marrying a virgin totally turns me off, making me think "I'm glad to know that. I'll leave you alone; we can be friends at best". Partly because it makes me wonder if they'd want a divorce if their wife got raped, like a few men I've heard of. Just sayin'.........
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God bless all you, ladies, elizzy, catty, julieannie, jilly, snackersmommy, and, others, it's a long list and sorry if I forget you: lizzytheone, relselena, Iwanttruth, POP!clickt!, noerr, KayM, Nods, kiwica, Vkat, Chichy, Bridge...

I read touching words from all of you on c.c., this thread included, God bless you all for what you do console those in need, in your life here, and, everywhere. Go with God, ALWAYS, He is your strength, He should be the treasure that you keep. Keep Him your all and all, never go anywhere in your life without God in you, just say His name, that is all :)
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Malby

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SocialArtist said:
I wait 4-5 weeks (which translates to 4-5 .. 1 night a week young adults services) before really beginning the getting to know a woman on a higher level process for a reason.. because in 4-5 weeks you're gonna either find dirt or not on a woman of interest. If I don't see any bare minimum reasons to not continue moving forward, I start finding things to do with them outside of church.

Well, most of the women I'm meeting.. are striking out with me off the first at bat.. let me say first: I've been seeing a lot of attractive women my age arrive at my church.. very good looking, very personable and great women in general. However, they're all shattering RULE #1: Being Single without Kids.

I'll be sitting there, talking and all of a sudden her kid arrives from care.. and then another who starts talking to me... the same thing. Met another girl last week: I won't shy away from admitting.. I decided to see if I could find her on facebook: I did.. read her profile: she's a single mother.. end of story. Time saved.

This is a huge disappointment really.. I don't like to judge people, especially single mother's but it's like all of these women were apart of some secret group within the church and all decided to join our young adults group in a herd.. reason for believing is that they all seem to know one another.. WELL.

What happened to the days where when I was 22-25.. the women 27-33 were single without kids.. I feel like I'm being robbed of dating opportunities in droves..
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Hiya there SocialArtist

Is it really complex brother, They are your sisters in the Lord, Love them see them as a blessing there are many single parents, both men and women in the church who need to be reassured.

Remember who they are.. they are Son's (and daughters) of the living God' ...just like you :)

Malby
 
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