Shallow? Que?
Alright, I think we need a reality check in this room. I understand that weight is a sensitive issue with a lot of women, but there's no reason to abandon rational discourse and revert to slinging words like shallow and rude around at people who are just speaking simply and honestly.
Let's face it, short of a few physically blind women with angelic souls everyone is shallow, as the word is being used here. Judging someone on their weight, how they dress, and how much money they have are all totally fair, and almost universally done. These are some of the precious few outward things that an individual can change about themselves, and as such reveal a great deal about their personality! Things like intelligence, height, upbringing, and race, on the other hand, are all impossible to change, yet I guarantee that each and every woman (and man) in this room would have a hard time thinking about dating someone who had an unfavorable combination of these traits. As a matter of fact, I'm certain that a majority of women in this room have ruled out a man because he wasn't tall enough, smart enough, was of a race you didn't fancy, or had an unsuitable upbringing.
Choosing people based on traits they can't control is something we've all done, and it's perfectly fine. People have different tastes, and are wired in different ways. This part of the beautiful way that God made us, which helps ensure that we pick healthy and able spouses, thus enabling humanity to continue to be fruitful and multiply. Being upset at this whole setup is like being angry with gravity. It won't get you very far.
Now, everything I've written thus far treats weight as if it's something like height or intelligence -- something out of the control of the individual. This is a subtle fallacy that necessitates only a quick glance at the world to see its flaws. You know how many overweight young local women I saw while traveling in Ireland, Romania, and Switzerland? None. Yep! Not a one. That doesn't mean they don't exist, just that encountering a fluffy, big-boned, chubby, or otherwise overweight woman is a rare event indeed. Seeing as how most of us are descended from immigrants from European countries like the ones above, it can't be that oodles of American females all have problems with their biology. The more probable answer is then that it's simply a matter of diet, and disposition. What aspect of a person rules these two factors? Ah, I do believe it's personality.
- Christopher