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I heard this said on here somewhere: some couple a friend of mine knew: who at the end of the day, when they're going to bed, they say if they like each other. They knew they loved each other because they got married. What was important to them was if they like each other as each day ends.
I can imagine that some days they don't, but eventually they do. lol
I like this. I was at a wedding a few years ago where they used the words "I chose" multiple times. The pastor said, "Jimmy, do you choose to take this woman to be..." and gave a sermon about how love is a choice. I didn't agree with it at first. But now I do. Decisions can't be based on feeling alone. Especially when it comes to romantic relationships. They need to be grounded with wisdom. And when things get hard, and the hurt or fear can be overwhelming, the choice to love can keep the romance thriving.
I have no problem starting a relationship without romantic feelings. lol I have actually been praying for a while that when the right guy would come along, I would be asking God like... "Huh? Him? REALLY? Why?" And then God would tell me YES.. and I would question.. and God would say yes, and tell me to trust Him. That way I would know it was GOD'S will and not my own being like "But I want him..." because that never worked before. lol And little be known to me, such a thing has happened.
And then of course you "choose" to love your enemy, because Lord knows I don't feel love for them. But if I keep praying for them and choosing to love them, some degree of feeling should arise.
I can imagine that some days they don't, but eventually they do. lol
I like this. I was at a wedding a few years ago where they used the words "I chose" multiple times. The pastor said, "Jimmy, do you choose to take this woman to be..." and gave a sermon about how love is a choice. I didn't agree with it at first. But now I do. Decisions can't be based on feeling alone. Especially when it comes to romantic relationships. They need to be grounded with wisdom. And when things get hard, and the hurt or fear can be overwhelming, the choice to love can keep the romance thriving.
I have no problem starting a relationship without romantic feelings. lol I have actually been praying for a while that when the right guy would come along, I would be asking God like... "Huh? Him? REALLY? Why?" And then God would tell me YES.. and I would question.. and God would say yes, and tell me to trust Him. That way I would know it was GOD'S will and not my own being like "But I want him..." because that never worked before. lol And little be known to me, such a thing has happened.
And then of course you "choose" to love your enemy, because Lord knows I don't feel love for them. But if I keep praying for them and choosing to love them, some degree of feeling should arise.
Great poll. Some of my answers seem contradicting so I wanted to elaborate on the selections I made. These are the checks I made and why:
I want my love with me all of the time.
I love her being near. I love her smile and her laugh. I love to hear her thoughts. I love sharing every experience. I want to enjoy the excitement of the good times, to lift one another up through the bad times; to take care of one another when we are sick, and to enjoy our strength when in health; to be excited and discuss what to do with our wealth, and to know that even when we are poor, we always have each other.
I need some alone time.
There is time that I think we both need to spend alone with God. We need to give Him His time and keep Him first. However, I am in agreement with Apostle Paul on this. It is by consent. It is a time period that we have discussed and agreed upon respectfully; not demanded from one another despite the others feelings or thoughts
I want my love to share all of my interests.
I want us both to share these. Sure we might not do them all together, but I want to bask in the enjoyment that she receives from her interests as well as have her to share the joy I have in mine.
If you love me, you will change for me.
People change people. There is no denying that. When you hang around someone for long enough, they WILL change you. I want us both to grow together and change as we grow together in the Lord. I love the Lord and therefore I am willing to change for Him. I believe this should be the same for a man and wife.
If you love me, you will love me for me.
Absolutely. Through EVERYTHING. You don't love them for who they COULD be and who they MIGHT be if they would change a bit, or even for who they used to be. You love each other for who you are... where you are. Knowing and trusting that the two of you will grow together in the Lord. This means that the two of you love one another for who each person is; not for who you think they might become because of your influence. That is just selfish.
Lasting relationships = the husband and wife compliment one another
Agreed. The man and woman will balance each other and bring out the best in one another. This is how God designed it to be.
Lasting relationships = the husband and wife are alot alike
This might not be the case in the beginning, but it should grow to be that way. More so than it happens in any other relationship.
True, lasting love is a holy bond
'Nuff said.
If it's just a feeling, it's probably just infatuation or a crush
Just flesh; no spirit. No word. No commitment. Just words without the actions that back it up. It usually ends up very opposite to the description given in 1 Corinthians 13.
Love is also a choice
Yes, and a commitment to a choice. Just like with God.
Sorry this was so lengthy. Awesome thread!
I want my love with me all of the time.
I love her being near. I love her smile and her laugh. I love to hear her thoughts. I love sharing every experience. I want to enjoy the excitement of the good times, to lift one another up through the bad times; to take care of one another when we are sick, and to enjoy our strength when in health; to be excited and discuss what to do with our wealth, and to know that even when we are poor, we always have each other.
I need some alone time.
There is time that I think we both need to spend alone with God. We need to give Him His time and keep Him first. However, I am in agreement with Apostle Paul on this. It is by consent. It is a time period that we have discussed and agreed upon respectfully; not demanded from one another despite the others feelings or thoughts
I want my love to share all of my interests.
I want us both to share these. Sure we might not do them all together, but I want to bask in the enjoyment that she receives from her interests as well as have her to share the joy I have in mine.
If you love me, you will change for me.
People change people. There is no denying that. When you hang around someone for long enough, they WILL change you. I want us both to grow together and change as we grow together in the Lord. I love the Lord and therefore I am willing to change for Him. I believe this should be the same for a man and wife.
If you love me, you will love me for me.
Absolutely. Through EVERYTHING. You don't love them for who they COULD be and who they MIGHT be if they would change a bit, or even for who they used to be. You love each other for who you are... where you are. Knowing and trusting that the two of you will grow together in the Lord. This means that the two of you love one another for who each person is; not for who you think they might become because of your influence. That is just selfish.
Lasting relationships = the husband and wife compliment one another
Agreed. The man and woman will balance each other and bring out the best in one another. This is how God designed it to be.
Lasting relationships = the husband and wife are alot alike
This might not be the case in the beginning, but it should grow to be that way. More so than it happens in any other relationship.
True, lasting love is a holy bond
'Nuff said.
If it's just a feeling, it's probably just infatuation or a crush
Just flesh; no spirit. No word. No commitment. Just words without the actions that back it up. It usually ends up very opposite to the description given in 1 Corinthians 13.
Love is also a choice
Yes, and a commitment to a choice. Just like with God.
Sorry this was so lengthy. Awesome thread!
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