The Tights! The Shorts! The Skirts! Aaaagh!

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Jorina

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I dont want to get involved in this discussion (allthough i love discussions ;) ). I just think that everyone here who is reading this topic and especially the ones who are reacting, should decide to wear modest clothes from now on. Eventhough it makes the people around you looking weird at you, or asking questions, telling stupid things 'bout you. And not only the women, but the women ánd the men. We girls have to listen to you guys and when i hear what troubles it costs you when we wear the wrong clothes i just dont want to wear anything like that anymore. I dont want anybody to look at me like that and especially not to think about me like that. But you guys, you've got to listen to the comments of the women and realize that you can also cause us trouble with the clothes you wear (or dont wear). If we all do this, and do it with our heart, to honour our Lord, it WILL make a difference. Dont be scared for the reaction itll get on earth, but be happy with the reaction itll give in heaven.

Your Father will be so glad to see that you're not selling His body!
 
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PopClick said:
It is beyond human capability. :)

"For since He Himself was tempted in that which He has suffered, He is able to come to the aid of those who are tempted."

He'll give you a way out. Will it be easy to take that way out? Heck no. But it will get easier, the longer you resist temptation.
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Does he give the way out? Yes. But as I said in my post, it grows tiring fighting the desire to look. Surely you understand what I mean.
 
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PopClick

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shawntc said:
Does he give the way out? Yes. But as I said in my post, it grows tiring fighting the desire to look. Surely you understand what I mean.
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I do understand. That's why I said it wouldn't be easy to take the way out. But it will get easier, as time goes by and you keep resisting. I know it will. And I hoped that would be at least mildly encouraging... maybe? Maybe not. :D
 
onlinebuddy

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AsifinPassing said:
I hear you. I used to feel like/say this too, and still do believe people should dress more modestly. I have found, however, in my now 6th year of college, that you don't have to look. Sometimes a girl pops in front of you and there is that sudden moment of noticing, but every second after that is up to you! Initial reactions are more or less nothing to be ashamed of. We respond to stimuli. It's human nature. It is your choice, though, for everything after that initial reaction. For me...

I've become quite well aquainted with the floor/ground and ceiling/sky actually...
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This reminds me of the well known phrase: The first look is unavoidable, but the second is inexcusable!

Furthermore, 1 Timothy 5: 1-2 tells us to treat "younger women as sisters, with absolute purity." (NIV)

Shawntc, If you have any godly church friends at your campus, I would advise you to hang around and move around with them. Many youngsters of your age find this helpful in warding off unnecessary distractions and staying focused on academics.
 
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Jorina said:
I dont want to get involved in this discussion (allthough i love discussions ;) ). I just think that everyone here who is reading this topic and especially the ones who are reacting, should decide to wear modest clothes from now on. Eventhough it makes the people around you looking weird at you, or asking questions, telling stupid things 'bout you. And not only the women, but the women ánd the men. We girls have to listen to you guys and when i hear what troubles it costs you when we wear the wrong clothes i just dont want to wear anything like that anymore. I dont want anybody to look at me like that and especially not to think about me like that. But you guys, you've got to listen to the comments of the women and realize that you can also cause us trouble with the clothes you wear (or dont wear). If we all do this, and do it with our heart, to honour our Lord, it WILL make a difference. Dont be scared for the reaction itll get on earth, but be happy with the reaction itll give in heaven.

Your Father will be so glad to see that you're not selling His body!
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Jorina, I appreciate your attitude, and your willingness to do what is right, especially in this age when even god-loving youngsters want to imitate the way the world dresses. The standard has fallen so much. Just look at what Christians wear to proms, their own weddings, etc. Style and trends are given more importance over modesty.
 
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Powemm

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My whole life I've been modest... In
My youth when I tried not to be before I knew Christ, I got physically ill to my stomach and couldn't do it.
 
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Catlynn

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w00t for modesty. I think a lot of times younger women have no idea how to dress cute and fashionably without dressing skimpy. :/ It's cool when more modest young ladies can show them otherwise. Besides, most people in the world look soooo much better with more clothes on anyway. :p
 
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PopClick said:
I do understand. That's why I said it wouldn't be easy to take the way out. But it will get easier, as time goes by and you keep resisting. I know it will. And I hoped that would be at least mildly encouraging... maybe? Maybe not. :D
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Yes, that does clarify things. Thanks!

onlinebuddy said:
This reminds me of the well known phrase: The first look is unavoidable, but the second is inexcusable!

Furthermore, 1 Timothy 5: 1-2 tells us to treat "younger women as sisters, with absolute purity." (NIV)

Shawntc, If you have any godly church friends at your campus, I would advise you to hang around and move around with them. Many youngsters of your age find this helpful in warding off unnecessary distractions and staying focused on academics.
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Believe me, I'm tryin' to find them. There are a few around here. I get frustrated with Christian young women who will even go to church and youth meetings, yet somehow find it permissible to wear tights and/or low-cuts all the time.
 
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lost1972

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I think if it's young single guys noticing, I dont think it's going to hurt anything, but if you are older and married, God will turn your eyes away from them and to your spouse if you ask him to, being 40 now most of these young women are my daughters age, and I dont feel it's appropriate to be watching
 
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Ariel82

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personally i would like to live in a world where everyone could walk around naked and have no problems like Adam and Eve did before eating from the Tree. however in this fallen world one can't do that.

typically I dress modestly because I don't really like attention but sometimes I'll wear shorts and tank tops not to get attention but because they are comfortable.

I prefer bikinis to one pieces because you get dry faster. In Europe you have nude beaches and there are not the same kind of issues.

yes we should strive not to make people stumble but it can be taken to an extreme. people need to make the distinction between comfort and attention seeking.

shirtless guys don't really bother me. I don't really care how anyone dresses because my first thought is "I wonder if this is a child of God and how they looked when they were little children and who will they be when they are older?"

I would teach my kids societal norms and what is acceptable and what is not. I don't like baggy pants on boys, i could care less how many layers of underwear or shorts you have.

try explaining to a toddler why its ok for her big brother and dad to go shirtless and not for her to copy them.

I just think people should look beyond the flesh and see others as God does by their hearts. as some have said they dressed in an inappropiate manner because they were calling out for someone to say they were beautiful. sometimes if you see the brokenness of their hearts you can reach out and show them there is more to them as a person then their bodies. that if you can overcome your own lusts and self centeredness you can help show the world that there is more to being a child of God then how you look but how you look at others. sometimes the WHY someone does something is just as important as the What.

fashion changes with the wind. a few hundred years ago showing your ankles was considered slutty. only whores shaved their legs.

in the end the important part is not how the world acts but how you respond to those around you.

even single men need to learn self control because why lust after someone you don't plan to marry?

even before I was married I didn't look at men in that way unless there was a possibility of us getting married. they were my brothers and dating your brothers is just gross.

perhaps i am naive, my husband says I am, but i always thought the same as a sister in Christ.

I guess i never had the problem with my clothes because my mom would never buy me things that were not modest. she wouldn't even let me own a tank top and even in college my brothers would still throw away any clothes they didn't like when i wasn't looking. kind of annoy but after reading this thread I see why its a blessing.

never really thought clothes were that important, just where what you have and thank God that it keeps you warm. it just seems to be more vanity then anything to expect clothes to do anything but function as added covering for warmth.

What i find troubling is Christians who would judge a young girl who goes to church in "hooker" clothes and not bother to find out she ran away from home and had to sell herself to live. that God had finally called her from off the street into His house and that those were the only clothes she owned. instead of love she gets lustful looks and prideful sneers.

that I find truly sad.
 
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OFM

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Jorina said:
I dont want to get involved in this discussion (allthough i love discussions ;) ). I just think that everyone here who is reading this topic and especially the ones who are reacting, should decide to wear modest clothes from now on. Eventhough it makes the people around you looking weird at you, or asking questions, telling stupid things 'bout you. And not only the women, but the women ánd the men. We girls have to listen to you guys and when i hear what troubles it costs you when we wear the wrong clothes i just dont want to wear anything like that anymore. I dont want anybody to look at me like that and especially not to think about me like that. But you guys, you've got to listen to the comments of the women and realize that you can also cause us trouble with the clothes you wear (or dont wear). If we all do this, and do it with our heart, to honour our Lord, it WILL make a difference. Dont be scared for the reaction itll get on earth, but be happy with the reaction itll give in heaven.

Your Father will be so glad to see that you're not selling His body!
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Jorina,nice well said well shared i agree with you totally.
 
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sonofmax

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I did a course called Valient Man and in it we lernt to bounce our eyes which ment when somebody attractive came past we looked away until they were gone you still are aware of their presence but after a number of weeks doing this i started to do it with out thinking it was just the reaction to seeing an attractive woman .you should check it out its Called valient man from careforce lifekeys written by Dr allan Myer his web site is Lifekeys International and email [email protected] It was the starting point God used to turn my life around and into a Mighty Man of God .
 
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