Tiresome things people assume about older singles...

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Bridget_Left_China

Bridget_Left_China

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1. People assume that you are divorced/widowed. "What?? 38 and never married? How is that possible?"

2. You must be ridiculously picky/unattainable standards/Unicorn Hunter. (See question above.)

3. You cannot be a virgin and be as old as you are. (Living proof right here.)


These are only a few of the questions/assumptions I get bombarded with on a daily basis. Anyone get any others that you don't mind sharing?
 
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Perk

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I don't know what your standard for old is, but people who know me don't believe that I am a virgin, seeing the past lifestyle I lived. With drugs/alcohol, etc. Somehow in God's grace, I was kept pure in that aspect.

When I see a Christian single that is considered "Old." I often think of them as extremely strong individuals. Particularly if they haven't strayed into sexual sin. I am reminded of what Paul wrote in Corinthians book 1 chapter 7 about it being better to remain single... At least in His viewpoint. And I see what he is writing about. There are opportunities that single Christians have that married Christians do not have. And the grace from God for those who have the strength to remain single may be all the more satisfying... I am not sure, but when I see someone who is single and pure and godly, I say to myself, "THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS PERSON! THANK YOU FOR THE EXAMPLE OF PURITY THEY REPRESENT. THANK YOU FOR THEIR CHRISTLIKE ATTRIBUTES AND THE STRENGTH THEY HAVE"
 
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1still_waters

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Bridget_Left_China said:
1. People assume that you are divorced/widowed. "What?? 38 and never married? How is that possible?"

2. You must be ridiculously picky/unattainable standards/Unicorn Hunter. (See question above.)

3. You cannot be a virgin and be as old as you are. (Living proof right here.)


These are only a few of the questions/assumptions I get bombarded with on a daily basis. Anyone get any others that you don't mind sharing?
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I'm single because I've been too fickle to commit to a perfectly compatible person/persons in their good and bad. That's what I tell people now when they bombard me.
 
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BrittanyJones

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The one I hate the most is: you are too pretty to be single.
 
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Ugly

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Perk said:
I don't know what your standard for old is, but people who know me don't believe that I am a virgin, seeing the past lifestyle I lived. With drugs/alcohol, etc. Somehow in God's grace, I was kept pure in that aspect.

When I see a Christian single that is considered "Old." I often think of them as extremely strong individuals. Particularly if they haven't strayed into sexual sin. I am reminded of what Paul wrote in Corinthians book 1 chapter 7 about it being better to remain single... At least in His viewpoint. And I see what he is writing about. There are opportunities that single Christians have that married Christians do not have. And the grace from God for those who have the strength to remain single may be all the more satisfying... I am not sure, but when I see someone who is single and pure and godly, I say to myself, "THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS PERSON! THANK YOU FOR THE EXAMPLE OF PURITY THEY REPRESENT. THANK YOU FOR THEIR CHRISTLIKE ATTRIBUTES AND THE STRENGTH THEY HAVE"
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Actually she said 'older' not 'old'. There can be a distinction. 38 is not 'old'.
 
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GRA

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Ugly said:
Actually she said 'older' not 'old'. There can be a distinction. 38 is not 'old'.
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True. Very true. I am 50 - and I do not consider myself to be 'old'... ;)

:)

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Stuey

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God bless you Bridget, you seem like a Godly woman. Hope God brings you a Godly husband and if he doesn't he'll marry you himself! ;)
 
sanglina

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Bridget_Left_China said:


2. You must be ridiculously picky/unattainable standards/Unicorn Hunter. (See question above.)


These are only a few of the questions/assumptions I get bombarded with on a daily basis. Anyone get any others that you don't mind sharing?
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No.2 is very true. I think most people (including friends) tend to assume that and even dont hesitate to voice out their advice based on that.

People also assume that you must have been terribly bitten by love once upon a time (and unable to recover from that) to get back into another relationship and marry.
 
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FireWire

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It is always assumed I'm married with kids or at least married. Actually very much the opposite by as much as pluto is from the sun.
 
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GRA

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Bridget_Left_China said:
1. People assume that you are divorced/widowed. "What?? 38 and never married? How is that possible?"

2. You must be ridiculously picky/unattainable standards/Unicorn Hunter. (See question above.)

3. You cannot be a virgin and be as old as you are. (Living proof right here.)


These are only a few of the questions/assumptions I get bombarded with on a daily basis. Anyone get any others that you don't mind sharing?
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'daily'? Really? Wow!!

4. .................................................. ????

Bridget - you pretty well have it covered.

:)

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GRA

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General Assumption:

"There must be something wrong with you..."

:rolleyes:

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rachelsedge

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I'm not what I would consider "old" or even "older", but I'm 22 and have never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never even been asked on a date.

When people find this out, they're always incredulous: "What? Why not?!"

I don't know. How about you ask God and then tell me what He says. :D I didn't know I had to have a reason for something that is somewhat out of my control. Even if it was in my control, I'm not sure why I'd still need a reason.
 
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NukePooch

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I'm attending a new church, and I'm just waiting for the inevitable "So, are you married?" conversation from some of the well-meaning ladies of the church. This will invariably be followed by the "well, my next-door neighbor's cousin's sister's dog's playmate's owner's brother has a lady pen pal who is flying in from Chile next week, we told her all about you, we think you'd be perfect for each other" conversation. ~rolls eyes~ Oh, man, I just LOVE that one...

I've actually had women chase me down in the parking lot to try and sell me on someone they hardly know...and a Mom who tried to get me to date her daughter while we were standing in the Walmart checkout line...she said I must be a nice guy based on what I had in my basket...
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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NukePooch said:
I'm attending a new church, and I'm just waiting for the inevitable "So, are you married?" conversation from some of the well-meaning ladies of the church. This will invariably be followed by the "well, my next-door neighbor's cousin's sister's dog's playmate's owner's brother has a lady pen pal who is flying in from Chile next week, we told her all about you, we think you'd be perfect for each other" conversation. ~rolls eyes~ Oh, man, I just LOVE that one...

I've actually had women chase me down in the parking lot to try and sell me on someone they hardly know...and a Mom who tried to get me to date her daughter while we were standing in the Walmart checkout line...she said I must be a nice guy based on what I had in my basket...
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*Glances at Nuke's basket* ALL POWER TOOLS. Not even any food.

*Decides she will not fix him up with any of her friends.* :D
 
Descyple

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NukePooch said:
I've actually had women chase me down in the parking lot to try and sell me on someone they hardly know...and a Mom who tried to get me to date her daughter while we were standing in the Walmart checkout line...she said I must be a nice guy based on what I had in my basket...
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It's a good thing no one looks into my Walmart basket to see if I'd be a potential spouse, because in my basket would be six boxes of microwaveable Kraft Dinner, a dvd of Christian Bale's movie "American Psycho" (that character had a slight behavioral problem around women), and a copy of Oprah's "O" magazine (I buy it for the coupons, yeah that's it, for the coupons!!!).
 
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NukePooch

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seoulsearch said:
*Glances at Nuke's basket* ALL POWER TOOLS. Not even any food.

*Decides she will not fix him up with any of her friends.* :D
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Actually, Miss Thang, I had just moved into a new apartment, so my basket had a microwave, cookware set, silverware, cups/bowls/plates, etc. Maybe she was impressed with the color of the rug I bought to go in front of the toilet.

...and who wouldn't want a guy who can fix stuff?
 
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NukePooch

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Descyple said:
It's a good thing no one looks into my Walmart basket to see if I'd be a potential spouse, because in my basket would be six boxes of microwaveable Kraft Dinner, a dvd of Christian Bale's movie "American Psycho" (that character had a slight behavioral problem around women), and a copy of Oprah's "O" magazine (I buy it for the coupons, yeah that's it, for the coupons!!!).
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I've got a background in theatre/concert/etc tech and backstage...I was on the crew for a community theatre's production of Steel Magnolias, which takes place primarily in a hair salon, so I was sent to the store to buy some magazines for props. Imagine the looks I got when I came through the line with copies of Cosmo, Essence, Ebony, Women's Day, Bridal Something-or-other, and about 20 other similar magazines.

(edit) Funny...No one tried to set me up with anyone that day...Wonder why?
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Descyple said:
It's a good thing no one looks into my Walmart basket to see if I'd be a potential spouse, because in my basket would be six boxes of microwaveable Kraft Dinner, a dvd of Christian Bale's movie "American Psycho" (that character had a slight behavioral problem around women), and a copy of Oprah's "O" magazine (I buy it for the coupons, yeah that's it, for the coupons!!!).
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NukePooch said:
I've got a background in theatre/concert/etc tech and backstage...I was on the crew for a community theatre's production of Steel Magnolias, which takes place primarily in a hair salon, so I was sent to the store to buy some magazines for props. Imagine the looks I got when I came through the line with copies of Cosmo, Essence, Ebony, Women's Day, Bridal Something-or-other, and about 20 other similar magazines.

(edit) Funny...No one tried to set me up with anyone that day...Wonder why?
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You two obviously buy those magazines for the beauty product reviews.

"Tiresome things people assume about older singles..."

Nuke and Descyple are obviously worried about the phrase "OLDER" singles -- when y'all figure out which wrinkle cream works best, be sure to pass it on.

Seriously. I had to take back a set of pillows at the store today from a lady who was probably 70 but looked 95, and while she claimed they were "the wrong color", I think I contracted lung cancer just from a slight whiff of the bag, which, by itself could have set off our smoke detectors.

I'm gonna need that cream, just as soon as you two figure out which one will restore me to the 25-year-old fountain of youth!
 
Descyple

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seoulsearch said:
Nuke and Descyple are obviously worried about the phrase "OLDER" singles -- when y'all figure out which wrinkle cream works best, be sure to pass it on.
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Actually Seoulsearch, NukePooch and I don't use cream to get rid of our wrinkles, we use a Limited Edition Model W.B.G. Sand Blaster by Black N' Decker, which comes with special sand paper that has Brad Pitt's facial impression imbedded into it.

By the way, W.B.G. stands for either Wrinkles Be Gone, or Won't Be Growin'-Old!!!
 
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