What Happens When One's Sex Drive Is In The Driver's Seat?

cmarieh · Jun 5, 2015

About seven months ago, a guy that was wanting to go out with me and I did go out on a first date, BIG mistake. Anyway, he sent me a text asking me if he turns me on. Lets just say he got told by me to lose my number and not to contact me ever again. I do not want to ever be asked that question because it is completely inappropriate.

ServantStrike · Jun 5, 2015

Roh_Chris said:

Good idea. Do you think we need to learn to tuck and roll in case the car is moving? I'm not sure I'm up to jumping out of a moving vehicle, but it might be a useful skill to have.

Plus, chicks dig bad boys right? If we could jump from moving cars, we should totally be able to score some phone numbers right?

cmarieh said:

Did he offer any other words of insight into his mindset other than this?

I'd like to know how an idiot thinks so I don't come across as one by accident.

Utah · Jun 5, 2015

Shannon50 said:

I'm getting off the subject a little, but your post reminded me of the following:

Many years ago I went to a pub with my brother and we sat next to two attractive women because the only available seats were the ones next to them. The woman next to me became enraged with a guy for being inappropriate and she starting screaming at him.

When the guy walked away, she turned and started yelling at me, demanding to know why a woman can't go out and just be left alone and not be hit on all the time. I told her I completely understood, and that just once I would like to go out and not be bothered by women wanting to take me home.

With that, she smiled and asked if she could buy me a drink. I asked her if she heard a single word I said, that I wanted to be left alone. That was the best line of my life.

cmarieh · Jun 5, 2015

ServantStrike said:

I kind of like guys with a touch of bad boy in them, just not too much

All he did was apologize and say that he was going to go slower and I was like forget it because I already knew what he was after and he wasn't going to get it from me. I don't think you could ever come across that way. Looking back, I am so thankful that I stood up for myself as that is not really an easy thing for me to do.

Rosesrock · Jun 5, 2015

What happens when your sex drive is controlling you or your thoughts and actions? Clarifying cause I'm slow and old....if you don't commit that to prayer, ask God to control your weaknesses, set limits for yourself for protection and even seek an accountability partener...then you could end up unpure by the end of the day or actually by the time i stop typing this.
Sexual sin is easy to fall into and a stronghold many have, but covered in prayer in prayer is like any other stronghold.....conquerable, through the blood of Christ.

But whatever you do, don't wreck the car

ServantStrike · Jun 5, 2015

cmarieh said:

I sometimes have to wear fire retardant clothing for my job. Is bad boy enough?

If so, then you wouldn't be the first woman to tell me that's actually kind of hot. It is actually hot - literally. Well, when I'm not behind a desk grinding numbers, which is most of the time.

cmarieh · Jun 5, 2015

ServantStrike said:

I am kind of thinking bad boy like in an orange jumpsuit and handcuffs. Lol. Just kidding I would never go that far. I would say so and I bet wearing that stuff would get a little warm.

Do guys like girls that are a little bad or what?

AsifinPassing · Jun 5, 2015

That surprising or excited moment of joy brought forth from the message you've been sent or were waiting on...

...and that heart-sore/breaking, disappointing feeling when nothing's there...

ServantStrike · Jun 5, 2015

cmarieh said:

A bad girl makes you feel like you're in heaven. A nice one might actually help you get there.

To be honest, I can't speak for all guys, but I like shy quiet girls with a penchant for Christianity. If she's got some fire inside and I think she might actually be able to inflict serious bodily harm on me, that's a nice plus, but I don't require it. The shy ones are always the most fun though because when they let their guard down it's fun to watch. Unless they're so shy that they don't talk to you, in which case the silence is maddening.

The clothing can get a bit warm, but I don't get to play out in the field that often so I don't mind it. I got nervous when I went inside battery limits the first few times, but now I'm pretty at home there. Mechanical equipment just calms me down and makes me smile. I might feel differently when the dead of summer arrives, but I'll deal with that when it happens.

Shouryu · Jun 5, 2015

cmarieh said:

Some guys do. I know I do.

A girl who's got a little mischievous streak in her sense of humor, someone who doesn't have to be serious and perfect all the time, that's great. That doesn't mean she has to have multicoloured-hair and a thousand piercings and talk like a sailor; that's well beyond a little bad.

A "little bad in a good woman" is (for me):
--wanting to find a deserted curvy road, put the top down, and drive a little crazy for a while with me
--once in a while, dressing slightly immodestly for MY benefit (not for others), someplace dark, like the symphony or movies
--takes full advantage of a Cheat Day and orders a stack of bacon AND a ludicrous dessert
--is not afraid to communicate clearly and fearlessly to her husband when she is in a state of desire and wants her needs met
--says things like, "let's drive to the beach this weekend," spontaneously when the mood strikes her
--is not ashamed or appalled to receive and give affectionate touches from/to her husband in public (not talking outright groping, hands-in-clothes stuff...more like arm-around the waist, standing-spoons when in line at the movies or the like)

Little things that would make Puritans and Quakers rage, but the types of things that really, to me, seem healthy and normal in a happy, content marriage. I dunno, I could be wrong...happened before, bound to happen again. But Lord knows I would certainly welcome these sorts of little things from a good, God-fearing, Christian wife, because these things would be reserved for the two of us. The subtle bad streak is for us, and us only.

cmarieh · Jun 5, 2015

ServantStrike said:

A bad girl makes you feel like you're in heaven. A nice one might actually help you get there.

To be honest, I can't speak for all guys, but I like shy quiet girls with a penchant for Christianity. If she's got some fire inside and I think she might actually be able to inflict serious bodily harm on me, that's a nice plus, but I don't require it. The shy ones are always the most fun though because when they let their guard down it's fun to watch. Unless they're so shy that they don't talk to you, in which case the silence is maddening.

The clothing can get a bit warm, but I don't get to play out in the field that often so I don't mind it. I got nervous when I went inside battery limits the first few times, but now I'm pretty at home there. Mechanical equipment just calms me down and makes me smile. I might feel differently when the dead of summer arrives, but I'll deal with that when it happens.

What do you mean by the shy girls can be fun to watch?

cmarieh · Jun 5, 2015

It is refreshing to hear these type of men are out there because it is a true response

pwrnJC · Jun 5, 2015

Do we need to know this? "I kind of like guys with a touch of bad boy in them, but not too much." Does this exemplify CHRIST in this forum? This is not a judgement call, but..it surely ranks as UNNECCESARY. If an actual vote were taken...and a million people voted here...guess what percent would actually stand beside you and support your sexual opinion. I rest my case.

seoulsearch · Jun 5, 2015

pwrnJC said:

Aw yes, no thread in Singles would be complete without your completely unneeded judgments, but thanks anyway, Pwrn.

I always wonder if your wife knows how much time you spend here in Singles.

Please bring her along next time, I'd really like to meet her.

cinder · Jun 5, 2015

pwrnJC said:

Since you like the Bible so much let's talk about the things that exemplify Christ like the fruit of the spirit. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, self-control. You're scoring 0 out of 9 in your online interactions there. Oh and you have been told before, as a married person with nothing edifying to add to our discussions, you aren't welcome here and your input is not helpful.

Oh and I did find a list that sounds more like you in Galatians 5, it's under acts of the sinful nature and includes: hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division…

We're known by our fruit and all. We can all see which list you match up to.

gypsygirl · Jun 5, 2015

pwrnJC said:

pwrn:

please exercise more restraint before judging the value and necessity of threads like this, and the singles forum as a whole. your comments are unhelpful and extremely dismissive of us, as singles. i've read some of your posts in other areas/forums and i've witnessed that you DO know how to contribute in a caring and edifying way. if you insist upon coming here and posting, i wish you would share something helpful, and of godly use. we have a few couples here, and they are welcome additions because they share wisdom, lovingly and with respect.

yet, here you come, to judge and criticize our attempts to discuss relevant issues that apply to single christians, as well as the threads that are basically designed for fellowship and fun. there is value in all of that.

from what i recall, you are not only married, but have been married a long time to a woman that you love. however, many of us lack the fellowship, companionship, and other benefits that come from having a marriage. you do not know what it is like to walk in my shoes, as a woman who's never married, or so many of the other men and women who experience being without a mate.

further, your comments are not helpful, not edifying, and certainly not encouraging. if it's your attempt to offer some insight, i'd prefer to find another, more insightful and respectful way of sharing it. as an older, christian, married man, i would like to look to you as someone who is an example of loving truth, and godly behavior. not someone who is popping up in threads just to condemn and judge something that seems "unnecessary" to you.

frankly, sir, this SHOULD look unnecessary to you. you're married, and you're 20 years older than me. but it's important to us, and many of us seek to eagerly glorify God here, regularly, often, and proudly with our lives as living sacrifice.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. 1 thessalonians 5:11

respectfully,
gypsy

p.s. guess how many of us care about the "percentage" of support we'd receive for our threads? i don't think any of us do. we read the bible here, and God has warned us not to expect neither majority, nor "an easy, wide path". we're okay with the few, and the path that is rocky, and narrow. we'll choose to walk it with one another, bearing each others' burdens. : )

seoulsearch · Jun 5, 2015

Unfortunately, I think he simply pops in, waves his magic wand of condemnation, and leaves. As if what he has to say is Almighty Important, and I've never seen him reply to or acknowledge posts that people make to him.

For example, he swooped in and made a comment about in a prayer request thread without reading that the situation had already resulted in a major conclusion and did not respond to any of the posts that told him how it ended.

The oddest thing of all is that he blasted us in Streams, saying that we were all wasting our time on fruitless things but yet, the Speak Your Mind thread is the exact same thing, and even faster-moving, and he just complimented someone's sense of humor there.

Maybe it's because the Speak thread is in Bible Discussion, where he seems to post most frequently.

Obviously, it's us in the Singles Forum who need to be constantly corrected with fire and brimstone.

I report his most offensive judgments to the mods. It might not do any good but I don't think he should be allowed to insult people whenever he feels like it and then just leave.

kenthomas27 · Jun 5, 2015

pwrnJC said:

cinder said:

But he is welcome here tho huh? I mean if he's not i'm not for sure.

ServantStrike · Jun 5, 2015

cmarieh said:

It's like the floodgates open and they start saying what they really think. It's just fun to watch

gypsygirl · Jun 5, 2015

seoulsearch said:

seoulsearch,

i've seen that he does post to several forums, including young adults and teens. i don't think he is picking on us. more likely, he is just roaming around the site and posting where threads catch his eye and a snap judgment.

however, i am going to send him a copy of my post.

but further, i do think we need to pray for prwn. unfortunately, i think there comes a point where we often lose touch with what is of value, both because of our own situation, as well as our generation (what we grew up with).

i remember my grandparents being extremely unhappy when their church carried in musical instruments, ie. drums, bass, etc. and they struggled to understand how "rock music" could be worship to God. to be fair, they grew up in a pretty conservative mennonite church. yet today, most christians recognize that 'up tempo music played with a drum kit and full rock band' isn't anti-christian, even if they prefer worship with something different.

while they were a lot more respectful with their opinions, they were very unhappy and worried. and yet, they were among the most godly i knew. it was a cultural thing, and it was a generation thing. often, older people get in their mind that what is being done by younger folks is out-and-out wrong.

and while i didn't appreciate the manner in which he expressed his opinion, i'm pretty confident that with a thread with this title, prwn is handicapped by some of the generational differences (not to mention lacking an ability to express his opinion with love and respect) as this thread title alone would be considered to be rather scandalous and decidely un-godly about 30-40 years ago. : )

anyway, he is responsible for his actions, and we our responsible for ours. : )

love, gypsy. : )

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