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seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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My soul mate was aborted.

(With 1.32 million legal abortions the year I was born, it's entirely possible.)
I liked this post because:

1. I enjoyed the raw honesty.

2. I'm adopted. For whatever reason, my mother chose to carry me to term and give me away--so many others never get that chance.
 
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I liked this post because:

1. I enjoyed the raw honesty.

2. I'm adopted. For whatever reason, my mother chose to carry me to term and give me away--so many others never get that chance.
her comment makes me wonder, if maybe the reason some are "forced" single is cause the one they should have been with were murdered via abortion.
 

Desdichado

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her comment makes me wonder, if maybe the reason some are "forced" single is cause the one they should have been with were murdered via abortion.
Interesting question. Wouldn't their death be an equally foreseeable outcome though?
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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Interesting question. Wouldn't their death be an equally foreseeable outcome though?
It IS a very interesting question.

If God has designed me to be a certain man's wife... and if my mother had chosen to abort me...

Would God simply choose another woman for him? Or would he then be destined to be alone for the rest of his life? (Or vice versa, seeing as I survived and maybe my intended husband did not.)

I thoroughly admit, I truly don't know.

Does anyone have any thoughts?
 
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It IS a very interesting question.

If God has designed me to be a certain man's wife... and if my mother had chosen to abort me...

Would God simply choose another woman for him? Or would he then be destined to be alone for the rest of his life? (Or vice versa, seeing as I survived and maybe my intended husband did not.)

I thoroughly admit, I truly don't know.

Does anyone have any thoughts?
The comment really made me think. But does anything surprise God? His plans are always carried out. So while our abortion toll is devastating and tragic, I don't believe that God's plans for two "soul mates" could be thwarted by humans this way.
 

Lynx

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You must remember God created time. Before God created this universe time literally did not exist. It's hard for us to imagine because all we have known is a life with time. But when the Bible says time will be no more, it means it.

If God created time, God cannot be subject to what He Himself created. As the Bible says, God knows the end from the beginning. That is also how God knows what to tell His prophets to prophesy... because God already knows what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, 3,000 years from now (if He waits that long before coming back.)

So if God planned someone for you, that someone will be with you.
 

Lynx

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It's easier if you have watched Star Trek. Lots of fiddling around with time in Star Trek. =^.^=
 

Tinkerbell725

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It's easier if you have watched Star Trek. Lots of fiddling around with time in Star Trek. =^.^=

Or watch the rachel mc adams movie " about time". Somewhere in time, the time travelers wife etc. These movies are really mind boggling. If only we can understand the mystery of time. Einstein, in his quest to know God's thoughts, could be right that past, present and future all happen at once.
 

Desdichado

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So if God planned someone for you, that someone will be with you.
A big if. I'm of the opinion that soul mates do not exist. You find someone and choose to love them on the daily if you marry them.
 

Lynx

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A big if. I'm of the opinion that soul mates do not exist. You find someone and choose to love them on the daily if you marry them.
I was answering the question in situ, as it was posed. If one starts tacking on qualifiers and addendums to the question before answering it the answer becomes meaningless relative to the question that one is attempting to answer.
 

dliz

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Sometimes it kinda gets awkward when people ask if you have a boyfriend or not. Not that I'm embarrassed about being single but sometimes I try not to answer their question especially if they want to pair me up with someone. If I tell people that I don't have a boyfriend, they'll just laugh at me and tell me that I'm lying. Do I really look that I have lots of boyfriend? o_O Lately, my parents have been hinting that I should get a boyfriend and it annoys me when they ask about my love life. I just change the topic and they'll tease me like there's no end. I guess they only want the best for me. I sometimes tell them that they should be the one choosing my boyfriend so it would be more convenient and hassle-free for me. haha.
 

Lynx

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Get a flamethrower sister. Every time someone tries to pair you up with a guy they think "would be the perfect match for you, he's so handsome and intelligent and..." fire that sucker up.
 
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ServantStrike

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Sometimes it kinda gets awkward when people ask if you have a boyfriend or not. Not that I'm embarrassed about being single but sometimes I try not to answer their question especially if they want to pair me up with someone. If I tell people that I don't have a boyfriend, they'll just laugh at me and tell me that I'm lying. Do I really look that I have lots of boyfriend? o_O Lately, my parents have been hinting that I should get a boyfriend and it annoys me when they ask about my love life. I just change the topic and they'll tease me like there's no end. I guess they only want the best for me. I sometimes tell them that they should be the one choosing my boyfriend so it would be more convenient and hassle-free for me. haha.
Just set some man traps and check for results periodically.

If one of them strikes your fancy, then you found one, and you haven't had to expend very much effort on it.


Err, I should add these traps need to be non lethal. Otherwise you'll have other problems.
 

Pipp

Majestic Llamacorn
Sep 17, 2013
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I just tell people that when the sun goes down I turn into an ogre.
 

Pipp

Majestic Llamacorn
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Just in case anyone is interested... I like long walks in the forrest and eating small woodland creatures....

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ELECT

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It IS a very interesting question.

If God has designed me to be a certain man's wife... and if my mother had chosen to abort me...

Would God simply choose another woman for him? Or would he then be destined to be alone for the rest of his life? (Or vice versa, seeing as I survived and maybe my intended husband did not.)

I thoroughly admit, I truly don't know.

Does anyone have any thoughts?

Genesis 24:12-14King James Version (KJV)

12 And he said O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham.
13 Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:
14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.

What is to be with God is to be. nothing can be add nor take away from it

Some have appointed husbands and wives from God whereas others just chose hoping for the best without God guidance

it like taking a rib that does not belong in your side is either it is to big and has to be forced in or to small and very slack

Thus many have another mans rib thus all the confusion in the world
 
E

ELECT

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Sometimes it kinda gets awkward when people ask if you have a boyfriend or not. Not that I'm embarrassed about being single but sometimes I try not to answer their question especially if they want to pair me up with someone. If I tell people that I don't have a boyfriend, they'll just laugh at me and tell me that I'm lying. Do I really look that I have lots of boyfriend? o_O Lately, my parents have been hinting that I should get a boyfriend and it annoys me when they ask about my love life. I just change the topic and they'll tease me like there's no end. I guess they only want the best for me. I sometimes tell them that they should be the one choosing my boyfriend so it would be more convenient and hassle-free for me. haha.
Why do you think God choose to create Adam first and left him alone for a while ?

Why did God not create Adam and eve together at the same time ?
 
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ELECT

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You must remember God created time. Before God created this universe time literally did not exist. It's hard for us to imagine because all we have known is a life with time. But when the Bible says time will be no more, it means it.

If God created time, God cannot be subject to what He Himself created. As the Bible says, God knows the end from the beginning. That is also how God knows what to tell His prophets to prophesy... because God already knows what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, 3,000 years from now (if He waits that long before coming back.)

So if God planned someone for you, that someone will be with you.
[h=1]Ecclesiastes 3:14King James Version (KJV)[/h]14 I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it, that men should fear before him.