Why would you want to marry someone like yourself?

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Stephanie

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I've noticed that a lot of people look for people with the same qualities as themselves.

Personally, I think it's important to marry someone who approaches life the same ways as you which, of course, includes their faith.

However, I think people are doing themselves and disservice by looking for someone who is like them but of a different gender.

What people need is someone to challange and grow them and you won't get that so much if you marry yourself. I also think it's a little egocentric.

Even similiar interests is okay, although I think it's good and healthy to have different interests as well. But if you're really into research and learning, it might be good for you to be with someone who's more interested in experiances rather than research. If you're someone who is very planed, maybe someone who is spontanious would be good for you. If you like to stay home and chill out most nights, it might be good to be with someone who likes to go out and do things.

See what I'm getting at here? What are your thoughts.
 
Liamson

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If I could clone a female version of myself, yeah, I'd marry me. ;)
 
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Flutteraritypiejackspark

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Hmm....

I don't think I would. I'd like to marry someone the exact opposite...someone big....and muscular...and tall....emotionally strong...sweet....
 
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BBhope

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I agree completely stephanie i think it would motivative for someone to be a better person if they are placed in a different kinda setting!
 
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Jullianna

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I wouldn't want to marry someone like me, but someone who is strong in areas where I am weak. I would hope to be the same for them.
 
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arwen83

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*Awaits Zaoman ego's response*
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Yeaaah someone like me, only hotter and taller ;)
 
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Hellooo

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Would I want to marry someone like myself? Not possible to find another me...the world couldn't handle it.



The relationship between myself (A) and guys I'm attracted to (B) is

where the intersection is the important issues, like faith and family.

I don't have any interest in this:


This can't exist, because we're all so wonderfully made, but it would be both creepy and exhausting:
 
Liamson

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I guess the question was not DO YOU WANT TO but, WHY?


Its actually not because... I like doing stuff. I like going Skydiving. I like Driving fast. I like Traveling.... etc blah Blah blah. Nope. Loads of folks like that kind of stuff.

I'll use Mary and Martha as Examples of why I want someone who is more like me than not like me.


"There can be no Disappointment where there is not Deep Love." -M.L.K.

Mary and Martha when Lazarus dies have very different reactions with Jesus even though they say the same thing.

Jesus sees Martha and Martha says, "If you had been here, my brother would not have died." And then they talk about the Resurrection and the fact that She believes that He is Christ, son of the Living God. She is right.

However... Mary sees Jesus falls to his feet weeping and says, "Lord, if you had been here my Brother would not have died." Jesus sees her tears is Moved and He Weeps. She is Deep.

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There is also The obvious difference between Mary and Martha, When Mary is Worshiping the Lord and Martha starts a Theological debate with Jesus about how Mary isn't helping her with the Dishes.


Once again, Martha is "Right"-ish (Probably has to be Right all the time.) But Mary is Deep. Jesus shoots down Martha's "Rightness" in favor of the time He is spending with Mary.


Not everyone has the capacity to express how moved they are, to be open to everything both Happy and Sad. To spend quality time, simply in the moment enjoying the company of the people they love. To seek out and attempt to grasp the complexity and the intricate depth found within Love. To experience such mysteries not with their mind but, with their heart.


Some people would rather do dishes and pay bills and take life too seriously. They watch crime dramas and fulfill their duty to be a good citizen. They can't see the Forest for the Trees. They might enjoy art because its pretty, not because it actually imparts any greater meaning. If they study it is not for effect upon themselves, it is to be found correct.


There is more to life than doing what you are suppose to do or what you are told. I don't want to live with someone who doesn't feel it the way I do. If they don't get it, they probably won't get me. I will seem to them: illogical, impulsive, unconventional and irrational. I would rather sit in a coffee shop and talk all day with someone like me, than spend a day surfing, skiing, driving or fishing with someone who doesn't feel it the way I do.

 
Newluke

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That's why 'gay marriage'is so popular nowadays: people wanting to marry someone like themselves. :D
 
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Hellooo

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Newluke said:
That's why 'gay marriage'is so popular nowadays: people wanting to marry someone like themselves. :D
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Lol, you make A LOT of posts about gay marriage
 
Oncefallen

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Newluke said:
That's why 'gay marriage'is so popular nowadays: people wanting to marry someone like themselves. :D
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Thank you for this attempt at derailing a serious thread. It does seem odd that you are so tired of seeing threads related to homosexuality that you suggested that this site create a specific forum for homosexual topics, yet you feel the need to interject the subject into a completely unrelated discussion. :rolleyes:
 
seoulsearch

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arwen83 said:
*Awaits Zaoman ego's response*
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Actually, I'm thinking that if Zao and Descyple both post in here, it would be a duel of egos (we could call it The Battle of the Best (In Their Own Pretty Minds.) :D

Why, with Descyple carrying mirrors wherever he goes and Zao making steam every time he's near a bathroom... :)

*Serious comment to make this post legit: I have to agree with Jullianna--I have many blind spots in my life and would hope the right person would have my back. In other words, there's going to be a lot he's good at that I'm not... and hopefully vice versa.*

If we think of ourselves as a fort, marrying someone exactly like us means all the weak places will still be there and this time, it's a danger for two people (maybe more if children are involved), not just one.
 
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Indubitably

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What people need is someone to challange and grow them and you won't get that so much if you marry yourself. I also think it's a little egocentric.
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I've found so many women that don't want to "challenge and grow me". They call that mothering in somes cases. It's difficult in today's culture to apply Christian dynamics to a relationship. I wonder what marriages would be like if we really invested in our spouse by challenging and nurturing and building them up in the Lord and in character? From my lips to God's ears!
 
Newluke

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Oncefallen said:
Thank you for this attempt at derailing a serious thread. It does seem odd that you are so tired of seeing threads related to homosexuality that you suggested that this site create a specific forum for homosexual topics, yet you feel the need to interject the subject into a completely unrelated discussion. :rolleyes:
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Well, i still am, but this was just an innocent little joke... :D

 
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cctmedic

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I have no desire to marry someone like myself. I do believe I have some great God given qualities, but God has ladies that has different God given qualities that will compliment mine and together we will be more complete.
 
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1still_waters

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OPINIONS

OPINIONS
 
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cctmedic

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I have no desire to marry someone like myself. I do believe I have some great God given qualities, but God has given a lady different qualities that will compliment mine and together we will be more complete.
 
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arwen83

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seoulsearch said:
Actually, I'm thinking that if Zao and Descyple both post in here, it would be a duel of egos (we could call it The Battle of the Best (In Their Own Pretty Minds.) :D

Why, with Descyple carrying mirrors wherever he goes and Zao making steam every time he's near a bathroom... :)
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hahaha duel of egos, sounds interesting, wonder who would win
 
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Jullianna

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1still_waters said:
OPINIONS
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Stilly? Opinionated??? :eek: Surely not :p


zaoman and Descyple vain??? I am SHOCKED at you people! *snicker* :D


LIAMSON: I get what you are saying. Sometimes the person you are with will ask what's on your mind and for a time you will say "nothing". Then, when you actually attempt to explain, they look at you like a doe in the headlights. It can be very frustrating, can't it? :)
 
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