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Maybe this is all my fault and maybe I overreacted ..like i just thought also its not fair that not just him but other people are cheating non stop like in that geometry class because our teacher isnt the greatest and they end up getting As while i get a C or something. Thats what i thought isnt fair because the dont deserve that A.. I know cheating is bad, but maybe I shouldnt have reacted like that...like it wasnt like my guy friend was caught doing drugs or something...He probably views me now was weird or someone he really doesnt want to be around much anymore...i dont know how to rekindle our good friendship again..today i just ignored him at school and he ignored me too and didnt say hi. Its like he cared to talk to me about it, he was just all happy and hanging with his other friends.
You are right, it isn't fair that half the class are cheating and getting away with it. You are also right that they are not doing drugs but I wouldn't say it was better. Cheating is a character flaw. It is deceptive and manipulative and can lead to a lot worse.
I personally would suggest that unless this guy changes his attitude he is not a suitable person to associate with, and while I see ugly's point and taking into account your age I understand it will be difficult for you to do something about it but know that it doesn't matter what your peers think of you when you know in your heart that you are right with God. Good luck Sweetie. xx
I personally would suggest that unless this guy changes his attitude he is not a suitable person to associate with, and while I see ugly's point and taking into account your age I understand it will be difficult for you to do something about it but know that it doesn't matter what your peers think of you when you know in your heart that you are right with God. Good luck Sweetie. xx
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cheating is wrong and in the end it hurts the people cheating more than anyone else because when you get into the real world and are unable to handle the situation because you can't copy off someone else or don't have the answer key to steal, you'll get fired.
Rather you choose to tell someone or not, I would make it hard for him to cheat off of you. Its not fair and you should type an note to your teacher (you don't have to put your name on it) that he or she should do something about the cheating: move students, have them clear their desk, have different forms of the tests.
there are many tactics to keep people from cheating that teachers should use.
You have a crush on the boy, but you have to realize the guy you liked is not who he really is. its hard to be so wrong about someone. breaks your heart.
He's not a devote Christian with upright morals. He is a teenage hypocrite just looking for a good time and enjoying the "benefit" of going to church but not really believing what is being taught.
You are young, hold out for the real deal. A man who looks to God and holds higher standards. You deserve someone who is strong enough not to be pressured by his peers to cheat or mock you.
You will have people who don't like you because you refuse to let them use you and cheat off of you, or because you expect better from them. however, its their lose and God will bring people into your life who will be true friends and not just users who want to hang around when you have something they want. True friends are there even when you have nothing to give them but a shoulder to cry on and they offer the same to you.
Rather you choose to tell someone or not, I would make it hard for him to cheat off of you. Its not fair and you should type an note to your teacher (you don't have to put your name on it) that he or she should do something about the cheating: move students, have them clear their desk, have different forms of the tests.
there are many tactics to keep people from cheating that teachers should use.
You have a crush on the boy, but you have to realize the guy you liked is not who he really is. its hard to be so wrong about someone. breaks your heart.
He's not a devote Christian with upright morals. He is a teenage hypocrite just looking for a good time and enjoying the "benefit" of going to church but not really believing what is being taught.
You are young, hold out for the real deal. A man who looks to God and holds higher standards. You deserve someone who is strong enough not to be pressured by his peers to cheat or mock you.
You will have people who don't like you because you refuse to let them use you and cheat off of you, or because you expect better from them. however, its their lose and God will bring people into your life who will be true friends and not just users who want to hang around when you have something they want. True friends are there even when you have nothing to give them but a shoulder to cry on and they offer the same to you.
Sorry if I sound skeptical about the " friends" part, but I believe you like him more than that. That's why it hurts so much. Any other general friend's remarks would also hurt, but not nearly as bad. From what you said, I don't believe he's a Christian at all.
He may have a Christian family and go to a Christian school, but that doesn't mean anything concerning him. Note what the Scripture says:
Matthew 7:20[SUP]20[/SUP] Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
1 Corinthians 5:11[SUP]11[/SUP] But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
The Bible teaches that we are not to fellowship with such people. That was the mistake that led to you being hurt by a " friend" that was neither a Christian or a friend. The best you can do now is learn from your experience and from studying the word concerning it to make you a better Christian.
He may have a Christian family and go to a Christian school, but that doesn't mean anything concerning him. Note what the Scripture says:
Matthew 7:20[SUP]20[/SUP] Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
1 Corinthians 5:11[SUP]11[/SUP] But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
The Bible teaches that we are not to fellowship with such people. That was the mistake that led to you being hurt by a " friend" that was neither a Christian or a friend. The best you can do now is learn from your experience and from studying the word concerning it to make you a better Christian.
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I do like him more than a friend of course, thats why it hurts me a lot. If it was a mutual friend, yeah I would be diisapointed, etc., but not stress about it. Then a week ago in class during prayer, out of all the time in class he decided while the teacher was praying to fart in his friends face and they all laughed...How disrespectful. Instead of being respectful and actually praying, he does something disgusting like that. Then today in class he started to burp. The first time he burped, I didn't say anything about it, but the 4th time he did it in a row, I just simply said in a fed up tone, can you stop?? Then he gives me attitude because I just tell him to stop burping and says, No, I cant stop with an attitude. You know, after all Ive done for him I wouldn't expect such immaturity and attitude. I know all teen guys can be pretty immature. I dont mind silliness, but what he did was beyond immature and very disrespectful. I started to tear up in class. Not cry, but got teary eye and I tried to control my tears..Im just upset towards him. hes always been silly but this is just ridiculous..
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Haha I know you were messing 
and thats what Im going to do. Im just waiting for the right time where I feel comfortable because right now I feel kind of scared because of his attitude at times. Im always the one having to confront him about stuff but he never asks me to talk to him and never confronts me. If hes upset with me, he should confront me. Thats what Ive been waiting for but I guess Im the one that has to confront him as usual.
and thats what Im going to do. Im just waiting for the right time where I feel comfortable because right now I feel kind of scared because of his attitude at times. Im always the one having to confront him about stuff but he never asks me to talk to him and never confronts me. If hes upset with me, he should confront me. Thats what Ive been waiting for but I guess Im the one that has to confront him as usual.
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I just dont know what to do..he apologized for his actions to me but continuously acts immature a lot of times..Like In school today I found him with a bunch of dark and nasty hickies on his neck that were obviously from his gf..and his guy friends confronted him about it and were like congratulating him while he was just smiling embarrassingly like he was proud of his hickies. Well he seemed proud to show them off if he got that many on his neck..is it wrong to get hickies? idk I just find it immature and if youre a christian wearing a purity ring and waiting till marriage like he is doing that kind of stuff is like foreplay and idk I think its wrong. I would never do that to my boyfriend if i had one. Should I continue my friendship with him and just talk things out? or just stay away? then he was asking why im upset and down and obviously that was the reason why and he later figured that was it from asking one of my friends and now I heard from my friend he might talk to me later about all this.who knows what hes going to say. I have a feeling hes going to say I apologize you had to see that but shes my girlfriend and i only like you as a friend likes hes all ready said that to me like a thousand times and im trying to avoid him saying that to me again.
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I guess the irony is that you said it's saddening that he has a girlfriend who is 'not really a Christian', but it seems as though you yourself like someone who is not really committed to being a Christian.
If you didn't like him, would you be so eager to help him? Are you also this eager to help other Christians who cheat?
I think you should forget about the guy (easier said than done) and just wait to meet a guy who takes it seriously... I know at your age that seems impossible, and like you'll never meet someone as nice as him etc, but the reality is that you will. If you just wait it out and trust God, you'll meet someone you like far more, and who is a more committed Christian, and you will be glad you never ended up with the other guy.
This guy will probably continue to string you along to make himself feel good- he probably knows you like him and is arrogantly stringing you along for his own egotistical benefit (trust me, this is what guys do).
Sending you the card "I know how you feel but I just don't care" was arrogant. He doesn't care if you are bothered by those hickies- in fact he LIKES it, cos it makes him feel desirable to see you jealous You should move on and don't let yourself get pulled into any silly games where he tries to use your feelings as leverage to string you along and make himself look good.
God bless, hope things work out for you
If you didn't like him, would you be so eager to help him? Are you also this eager to help other Christians who cheat?
I think you should forget about the guy (easier said than done) and just wait to meet a guy who takes it seriously... I know at your age that seems impossible, and like you'll never meet someone as nice as him etc, but the reality is that you will. If you just wait it out and trust God, you'll meet someone you like far more, and who is a more committed Christian, and you will be glad you never ended up with the other guy.
This guy will probably continue to string you along to make himself feel good- he probably knows you like him and is arrogantly stringing you along for his own egotistical benefit (trust me, this is what guys do).
Sending you the card "I know how you feel but I just don't care" was arrogant. He doesn't care if you are bothered by those hickies- in fact he LIKES it, cos it makes him feel desirable to see you jealous You should move on and don't let yourself get pulled into any silly games where he tries to use your feelings as leverage to string you along and make himself look good.
God bless, hope things work out for you
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You can seldom change someone with telling him, he does things wrong all the time, to tell him once is enough.
Just be yourself, yes make it clear, what you would do and not do but do most of it by just being different.
You are not resposible for your friends actions and he is no good rolemodel for you.
You showed him you are dissapointed, and that is right, because that is what you are.
But you also have to forgive yourself and him, for the things that you can not change at the moment.
Give god time and stay true to your belief.
Not everyone is in the same boat, some people are not so strong in the faith.
Just show him by example, that you are a fun godloving person, that takes her commitment to god seriously.
At some point in the future, he might say, you helped him a lot, by being there and showing him
(by example) that cheeting, lying, making fun of everything is not the only way to get recognision.
Because you are happy, even if you do not do those things.
Just be yourself, yes make it clear, what you would do and not do but do most of it by just being different.
You are not resposible for your friends actions and he is no good rolemodel for you.
You showed him you are dissapointed, and that is right, because that is what you are.
But you also have to forgive yourself and him, for the things that you can not change at the moment.
Give god time and stay true to your belief.
Not everyone is in the same boat, some people are not so strong in the faith.
Just show him by example, that you are a fun godloving person, that takes her commitment to god seriously.
At some point in the future, he might say, you helped him a lot, by being there and showing him
(by example) that cheeting, lying, making fun of everything is not the only way to get recognision.
Because you are happy, even if you do not do those things.
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Wow I feel so stupid. So I was talking to his sister about the hickeys and stuff that her brother got and she said that he broke up with his girlfriend about a month ago and those so called hickeys was an allergic reaction from the metal of chain necklace he was wearing. Boy do I feel stupid. And his sister said he broke up with her because they weren't feeling it and felt their relationship wasn't going anywhere. He even changed phone numbers so she wont contact him. I prayed a while back to God that if its His will for me to one day be with him even though he has a girlfriend, give me a sign. Then just previously finding out he broke up with his girlfriend for good. I don't know if that was a sign from Him to me but it seems like it. Or maybe I'm wrong? I don't know. Even with his immature side, he has his good qualities too. Like I said before one time I was upset and crying late and night and needed someone to talk to, and he was willing to stay up with me late till like 3 to help me calm down. He then told me no matter how late it is, hell always be there to help. I found that very sweet of him and then 2 days ago when I was having a bad day at school and got in trouble for something I shouldn't have gotten in trouble in and I was at my bottom locker, he kneeled down and gave me a hug. How can I know from God that he can possibly be a future mate? Should I just pray more about it to receive more signs? Ugh Sometimes Im just confused with my feelings. Lately, Ive just been so confused about my feelings and I don't know why.
Miss Swagglestar, the best thing I can tell you is that you don't need to know right now. I was 16 once, and I know how it can be, but don't sweat it!
It is possible that he is your future mate, but you will have plenty of time to concentrate on that down the road. Right now, it sounds like you and he are mutually beneficial friends, and that is enough. If God wants you two together, don't worry about him getting a new gf or anything. Just give it some time. He may mature in time, it sounds like right now you don't want to date him.
Love in Christ, -JIM
It is possible that he is your future mate, but you will have plenty of time to concentrate on that down the road. Right now, it sounds like you and he are mutually beneficial friends, and that is enough. If God wants you two together, don't worry about him getting a new gf or anything. Just give it some time. He may mature in time, it sounds like right now you don't want to date him.
Love in Christ, -JIM
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you are still crushing on him
but it sounds like God still has some work on having him grow up and become more mature before he is really ready for a committed relationship. at 16 people will change a lot in the next 5 years.
I would stop looking for "signs" if you like him be honest and tell him.
From the sound of it, it sounds like you already have and he doesn't like you as more than a friend. Either that has to be enough for you or you should stop being "friend"s with him because you want more than he is willing to give you.
but it sounds like God still has some work on having him grow up and become more mature before he is really ready for a committed relationship. at 16 people will change a lot in the next 5 years.
I would stop looking for "signs" if you like him be honest and tell him.
From the sound of it, it sounds like you already have and he doesn't like you as more than a friend. Either that has to be enough for you or you should stop being "friend"s with him because you want more than he is willing to give you.