"There is nothing you could've done for someone who was that far gone"

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
And about him trying to figure out what he's doing wrong, right now he is planning and trying to change things and has been specifically doing that for at least a month.
He has dedicated a month to this.
Like I said WE ARE TRYING
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If he doesn't know how to approach this yet, he needs to contact other pastors he trusts and start a inter-church support system. (There may already be one in your area.) Get 5-10 pastors together asking the important stuff, and that is 25-600 years of wisdom willing to share and pass on. He needs that.

As for you? If you are anything like you are on here, you already pass on the love and support. It seems to be your on-switch/go-to-move already ingrained in you. You already are that empathetic ear/heart. My fear is if you keep trying to help everyone who needs your empathy, there is nothing left. I became so overwhelmed with the problems around me I totally lost all emotions for about a month. I was a brand new Christian, a brand new 16 year old, (with 11 months, 29 days experience being 15 lol), and a month later Mom died. You needneedneed time to be you too.

You need time to smell the passionflowers, time to wipe off your nose and chin after licking a bowl of something delicious, time to watch sparrows fight over a bread crumb, and time to memorize We Didn't Start the Fire. (No particular reason, but I've always loved to try and keep up with very fast songs and try to catch all the references. lol)

Read Ecclesiastes 3. You. Need. That!
 
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If he doesn't know how to approach this yet, he needs to contact other pastors he trusts and start a inter-church support system. (There may already be one in your area.) Get 5-10 pastors together asking the important stuff, and that is 25-600 years of wisdom willing to share and pass on. He needs that.

As for you? If you are anything like you are on here, you already pass on the love and support. It seems to be your on-switch/go-to-move already ingrained in you. You already are that empathetic ear/heart. My fear is if you keep trying to help everyone who needs your empathy, there is nothing left. I became so overwhelmed with the problems around me I totally lost all emotions for about a month. I was a brand new Christian, a brand new 16 year old, (with 11 months, 29 days experience being 15 lol), and a month later Mom died. You needneedneed time to be you too.

You need time to smell the passionflowers, time to wipe off your nose and chin after licking a bowl of something delicious, time to watch sparrows fight over a bread crumb, and time to memorize We Didn't Start the Fire. (No particular reason, but I've always loved to try and keep up with very fast songs and try to catch all the references. lol)

Read Ecclesiastes 3. You. Need. That!
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He has gotten his pastor buddies together to talk.
He has even stepped down to let them teach the past few weeks so he could watch.
And they talk about whatever (I'm not there when they talk lol I've seen the guest pastors but don't know them personally :p)

Sigh....yeah yeah I know....
I take time to myself. I know when I need time to myself and I excuse myself from the situation if I do need that.



As for the "I didn't start the fire"
No I don't think I'll ever be able to memorize that song haha
 
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About the comment that said, usually blame the parents.

You can't really blame anyone. We don't know what's going on in someone else's mind, unless they tell us. In high school my brothers friend killed himself. The day it happened my Brother and him and another friend, went to the beach and had a great day. 2 hours later my brother gets a phone call that his friend killed himself. Should I blame my brother and the other friend? No, you can't. I worked with a man who was having financial problem's. He didn't show up for work one day, the next day his father found him dead in his apartment. None of us knew he felt that desperate.

Blaming doesn't help.
 
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Gonna start arguments
Lalala
Cuz that's what this thread was created for
(Rolls eyes)
People can't ever just get along
 
laura_charlotte

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blue_ladybug said:
It isn't about people growing backbones, Nate. Suicide is about feeling alone, hopeless, and helpless. It's about someone feeling like there is no other option. They may have been abandoned by everyone in their life and feel totally alone and worthless. They feel like even God doesn't hear them. Suicide is about pain, be it emotional, physical or mental pain. The person just wants the pain to STOP. Unless YOU have been in such agonizing physical or emotional pain, that it paralyzes and numbs every part of you, then you couldn't possibly understand what a person in that state of mind feels like, as they are holding a gun to their head, or a knife to their throat or wrist, or waiting for that bottle of pills they just swallowed, to kick in.. Don't demean the dead and say they didn't have the strength to stay here and live. It takes strength to kill yourself, just as it takes strength to change your mind and stay here and endure through..
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Totally different spin to this demeaning response not 6 days ago:

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Suicide is never an option. It is the coward's way out. Unfortunately many people don't see any other alternative, and have given up on God, or feel that He has given up on them. Been there, done that..
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Glad these posts have been learned from:

http://christianchat.com/bible-disc...-unpardonable-rcc-nonsense-3.html#post2735324

and there's now a much more learned, hopefully genuine, take on this serious issue that affects so many lives and the world at large.
 
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It's not a different spin. The unfortunate truth is, some people aren't strong enough to stop themselves, and thusly take the wrong way out. We aren't all brave enough to withstand the shadow of death. Some of us DO get cowardly and embrace it and go through with it. Sorry if that offends anyone, but it's true. It takes cowardice to follow through and it takes cowardice to chicken out and stay and realize that the problems are temporary but that solution isn't..
 
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The problems are temporary circumstances :)
 
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I saw my baby brother today ....:)
 
laura_charlotte

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If anyone wishes to explore the issue of suicide further and how damaging it can be, the following is an excellent thread that, minus a few hollow posts, has for the most part a substantial discussion that goes into some depth about the spiritual sanctity of life, why we should value God's gift to us so much and how we can inspire others who are struggling to do the same:

http://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/139819-suicide-unpardonable-rcc-nonsense.html
 
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TemporaryCircumstances said:
He has gotten his pastor buddies together to talk.
He has even stepped down to let them teach the past few weeks so he could watch.
And they talk about whatever (I'm not there when they talk lol I've seen the guest pastors but don't know them personally :p)

Sigh....yeah yeah I know....
I take time to myself. I know when I need time to myself and I excuse myself from the situation if I do need that.



As for the "I didn't start the fire"
No I don't think I'll ever be able to memorize that song haha
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I am a woman. (No duh, huh?) I always think the men, particularly right after service, have the better conversations. And it absolutely drives me nuts when they have men's meetings. I know what goes on in women's meetings. I want to know what the men talk about. Especially pastors. lol
 
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I am a woman. (No duh, huh?) I always think the men, particularly right after service, have the better conversations. And it absolutely drives me nuts when they have men's meetings. I know what goes on in women's meetings. I want to know what the men talk about. Especially pastors. lol
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Lol Yeahhhhh never really thought about it haha
 
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About the comment that said, usually blame the parents.

You can't really blame anyone. We don't know what's going on in someone else's mind, unless they tell us. In high school my brothers friend killed himself. The day it happened my Brother and him and another friend, went to the beach and had a great day. 2 hours later my brother gets a phone call that his friend killed himself. Should I blame my brother and the other friend? No, you can't. I worked with a man who was having financial problem's. He didn't show up for work one day, the next day his father found him dead in his apartment. None of us knew he felt that desperate.

Blaming doesn't help.
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He's a long term troll -- posts some junk, laughs at our reactions, goes back into the woodwork for a while until the mods stop wondering if they should ban him, and then returns to repeat. It works for him.
 
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He's a long term troll -- posts some junk, laughs at our reactions, goes back into the woodwork for a while until the mods stop wondering if they should ban him, and then returns to repeat. It works for him.
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Yea he made me explode.
Not very nice...
Lol
 
NateDaGrimes

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Where's your backbone? Because nothing need to hold up your brain, and it takes absolutely no spine to take pot shots online. Are all 420 of your posts this stupid?
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Are you always a belligerent old lady?
 
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Heyyy now....
 
Huglife

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Hey just Let it go. Please
 
NateDaGrimes

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He's a long term troll -- posts some junk, laughs at our reactions, goes back into the woodwork for a while until the mods stop wondering if they should ban him, and then returns to repeat. It works for him.
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You don't even know me, much less to even read some of my content. Your opinion from here on out is INVALID!

@hug

nah, this is most likely going to go on for a while
 
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