I'm a good girl but guys don't like me

[MissCris]

How can I delete my profile? Is it possible for that to happen? I'm just done with this. I'm so numb already I don't even care anymore. If I can't delete the profile, just forget I posted this question. I don't want to hear it anymore. I can see why nonbelievers say Christians are so judgmental. Some of you all were harsh. Yes, I asked for advice but you all did not need to deliver it in such a cold way especially like "Ugly". Let me give you advice, if you ever want to help someone, be nice to them! People like me, the "unstable" ones, are not going to listen to those who are harsh. In fact by being harsh it makes things A LOT worse. And in case anyone cares, I didn't cut last night. I decided against it because I haven't cut since December of 2012 and I plan on overcoming this.

If you really want to be deleted, you can message a moderator and ask them to do this for you.

However, I hope you stay- nobody that commented here was trying to make you feel bad, nobody was intentionally being mean or cold towards you. Telling somebody what they want to hear isn't helpful. It might soothe your pain momentarily, but when the fluff and compliments and happy feelings from them wear off, you're still YOU, you're still in this situation, you're still hurting. Would it not be worth it to at least consider some of the things that have been said to you here? Would it not be better to increase the pain a bit for just a little while, in order to really look at yourself and see what the true problem is, thereby giving yourself the ability to SOLVE the problem and make the pain go away, rather than living with the same hurt for years and years?

Truly, nobody here was trying to run you off or hurt your feelings. The fact that you can't handle the truths that have been pointed out to you speaks far louder to me than anything you said in your original post. It might be time to seek professional counseling, if you won't allow others to try to help.

 

[wisebeardman]

you wanted advice and you got many advice opinions.

I wouldn’t look at some of these posts as harsh. it may seem harsh but in fact it could be what you need to hear. im sure everyone that posted here is not trying to mean. sometimes the answer is right in front of ya, but hard to see.

 

[cmarieh]

You should write again because you did have a good point to make. Some people may not see it that way. Next time though be just a little more sensitive.

 

[Tavinho]

Balletlover, I'm young and single like you. I understand you, I feel like this sometimes too. But what you have to understand, is that God has a plan in all of our lives, some will meet their husbands when they're 15, 18, 25, 30 and this goes. He knows what's best for your life. Would you rather meeting a husband right now, if it's agaisnt God's will, and having to divorce him after a looot of trouble since it wasn't a part of God's plan in your life????

You remind me of a friend (girl) of mine, who used to go to church young adults group. She was single, and she would see the boyfriends and girlfriends so happy together, while she felt lonely, because she didn't have a partner. She did the same as you did, she told God: "Hey look at me, I'm a good girl, why dont you give me a boyfriend?". The main point here is that she didn't wait for God's answer, she simply gave up church, and now basically lives on clubs and bars, trying to seek her boyfriend, who still hasn't appeared (that happened 5 years ago). I hope you be pacient girl .

And remember that being a "good girl" is atributed to God's grace alone, and not because we deserve.
I finish with the words os Jesus on Matthew 8:26

He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm.

God's in control, don't you worry!!!! If you ever wanna talk to me, that's alright, just message me

 

[respekt]

Hello everyone this is my first thread! I wanted to ask a quick question. See I'm 24 and I consider myself to be a good girl. I hardly go out, I've never been inside a club, don't drink, smoke or do any drugs and I'm a virgin. I try to hold myself accountable for my actions and I know that anything I say and do is reflected on God because when nonbelievers see and talk to me, I have to represent Christ to them. If they were to see me drink for example, that wouldn't be a great reflection of our heavenly Father.

Anyways, I am humble about all this. I'm actually very shy and have always had a hard time making friends. I just find it kinda upsetting that most guys seem to not like me as more than a friend. I am fit and I try to look my best but it still doesn't work. I don't mean to sound proud but I do feel I am a good person. At least I try to be. It's just so disheartening when I meet a Christian guy who is sweet with me but never takes it further than friendship.

Like I got really close to this one guy we'll call him David at church. He had a girlfriend at the time and he was always complaining about how she was materialistic, a non-believer and very selfish. But then he would talk about how pretty she was and how he knew he was going to change her someday. I on the other hand tried to show him that maybe he could be happy with me. But it never worked. I even opened up to him about me saving myself for marriage and he didn't even care! I never told him I liked him but I did become his friend, hoping that maybe he would see what a great girl I am lol yeah right!

Later on I found out he was sleeping with this girlfriend of his and that he would go clubbing and drinking. I really cared about this guy. I just don't know what to think anymore. I'm so hurt that the Christian men that I have found are not really living the Christian life. Are there any real Christian men out there who would really cherish a virtuous wife? Because to me it doesn't seem that way.

But of course I will always stick to my morals even if I remain single for the rest of my life. I just find it hurtful to think it might not happen.

Hey dear balletlover, I'm so proud of you fiercely . You are such an awesome woman with a great moral. I can say you are 1 : 10,000 which is a good thing. Let me share you a story of a friend of mine who was in your shoes.

She was 27 year before she got married. Back to few months ago before she got married, this woman had never been into any relationships. She kept praying that God would find her a right husband, not a boyfriend. She used to ask the same things as you explained above, but it never stopped her to keep the standard of finding a Godly man. So, she met this guy at work, he served God in remote areas and helped the unreached people group. Short story, this guy proposed to her few weeks after the hook up. That made her like "my long time prayer has been answered!" She was extremely happy and finally few months ago they held the marriage and until today, they both are still the coolest couple for me

So, do not worry about that. God has prepared "the right one" for you. Just wait for His perfect timing. God bless

 

[Chezz]

you wanted advice and you got many advice opinions.

I wouldn’t look at some of these posts as harsh. it may seem harsh but in fact it could be what you need to hear. im sure everyone that posted here is not trying to mean. sometimes the answer is right in front of ya, but hard to see.

I agree on this

 

[alehandra]

You are not alone balletlover, I'm also a girl who is still a virgin, I've never been in the dating scene, not drinker, nor smoke,
I was born and raised in a Christian family. but as you get older, my female friends also have a lifestyle change-replace pairs, and sometimes makes me think whether the value that I hold in my life right now or is too high.
but this year, I got the answer. that I believe God brought me this far so that I can be a light for future generations specially with my future KIDS,
and that sex-free life will not bring us into the wholeness of life or into maturity,
Only in Him we become whole, in Him we feel the love that's true. And these days I, maximum in my life, live the passion that God gave to me, and certainly the Ballet. I so love ballet, ballet as its own energy to me, I am grateful for in that I currently have.

keep growing sist... God be with you

be blessing
-cilla-

Hello everyone this is my first thread! I wanted to ask a quick question. See I'm 24 and I consider myself to be a good girl. I hardly go out, I've never been inside a club, don't drink, smoke or do any drugs and I'm a virgin. I try to hold myself accountable for my actions and I know that anything I say and do is reflected on God because when nonbelievers see and talk to me, I have to represent Christ to them. If they were to see me drink for example, that wouldn't be a great reflection of our heavenly Father.

Anyways, I am humble about all this. I'm actually very shy and have always had a hard time making friends. I just find it kinda upsetting that most guys seem to not like me as more than a friend. I am fit and I try to look my best but it still doesn't work. I don't mean to sound proud but I do feel I am a good person. At least I try to be. It's just so disheartening when I meet a Christian guy who is sweet with me but never takes it further than friendship.

Like I got really close to this one guy we'll call him David at church. He had a girlfriend at the time and he was always complaining about how she was materialistic, a non-believer and very selfish. But then he would talk about how pretty she was and how he knew he was going to change her someday. I on the other hand tried to show him that maybe he could be happy with me. But it never worked. I even opened up to him about me saving myself for marriage and he didn't even care! I never told him I liked him but I did become his friend, hoping that maybe he would see what a great girl I am lol yeah right!

Later on I found out he was sleeping with this girlfriend of his and that he would go clubbing and drinking. I really cared about this guy. I just don't know what to think anymore. I'm so hurt that the Christian men that I have found are not really living the Christian life. Are there any real Christian men out there who would really cherish a virtuous wife? Because to me it doesn't seem that way.

But of course I will always stick to my morals even if I remain single for the rest of my life. I just find it hurtful to think it might not happen.

 

[jimmydiggs]

Maybe your right. Maybe I'm not good maybe I am bad. I'm gonna go cut myself now so that I could at least feel the joy of seeing my blood drip down to the floor.

This is so ridiculous.

 

[CHRISTENE]

First , please don't hurt yourself.

Dear, God made you to be a daughter, for His praise and His glory.

God knows all the desires of our hearts. Desiring to marry and to live a married life isn't sin. I don't believe God is against marriage but there is a time for every thing.

God loves you and He sees your every attempt to choose what is good and right.He will surely reward you for all your right decisions and choices.

Speaking about men, they are not God! They won't be able to see you as God sees you.Your good deeds are before God and
God is the only person who will appreciate your attempt to choose what is good.Continue to choose the good ways and the right path, don't let any person cause you to cease walking in the good ways.

Our identities are from Heaven, God calls us His children and He pours His goodness in us. No one can rob you of your identity.

Sis, I can tell you from my own experience, its best to pray for the right God chosen man to come into your life, least wolves who destroy and tear down our lives come. It can be very dangerous to trust people God didn't send in our life. Keep this matter in prayer's and believe in God to bring the right person in your life.God is our Father and He is the one who has been with you from the time you were conceived till today,

Jeremiah 1:5 Before I formed thee in the womb I knew thee; ............
God knows us even before we were born,His love is the real treasure for all who know Him.

Matthew 6:33
6:33
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

Believe in God and ask God to prepare you for the life he intends to lead you in.Pray to God to prepare you for marriage and for the life partner He has chosen for you.

Be blessed in the Lord.

 

[JimJimmers]

This is for everyone: We are all commanded to speak the truth in love. Paul said: To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak; I have become all things to all men, so that I may by all means save some. 23I do all things for the sake of the gospel, so that I may become a fellow partaker of it.

When someone who posted in this thread posted a few months ago about how he was afraid of dying alone, I didn't post a bunch of stuff about how God has us here for His purposes, and he shouldn't worry about finding someone. I didn't do that because it would have been rude and unappreciated. This person seems to be very self-centered and insensitive to the feelings of others.

And to Ballet Lover, I hope you stick around. I think you could really benefit from a friendship with Nuns & Roses.

 

[Nuns_n_roses]

Thank you for being so kind! Elaborate on that? Well I'm very shy and I find myself afraid of people and social situations. I used to joke a lot in childhood before school started but once I started I was made fun of for being loud and obnoxious. So I took it that I was acting foolish and I grew up afraid to speak up because I didn't want to make a fool of myself.

Old habits die hard and even though I'm almost 24 I have a hard time making friends and talking to others. I have come a long ways from high school, like I can hold conversations with people at church and I have helped with several outreach programs there. I am slowly becoming more confident with myself. One of the things I like about me is that I at least try to be virtuous. I know a lot of people on here said I wasn't being noble or that I need maturity but I really am happy about where I am at right now. I know it's a lifelong process of growing and I think I'm on the right track.

It's just hard sometimes when people say bad things about me because my self-esteem is growing slowly and when someone says something harsh it goes down quickly and I get thoughts in my head about wanting to kill myself. My church does deliverance and I have been delivered but I guess I still need faith that everything will be alright. I do love God more than anyone or anything but it would be nice to have a friend especially a boyfriend. I guess I just got too excited when I met this guy at church. I really thought he was going to break up with his gf soon and he did but it took a while. Either way he still doesn't like me. He left the church and I'm done weeping I just leave it in God's hands.

I would like to apologize to anyone for anything I might have said or taken too seriously. Right now I am on prescription medications and my hormones are out of whack. LOL Add me as a friend nuns n roses, I would really appreciate friendship right now.

I'm so glad that you have found strength in the Lord after all that you've faced. You're a good soul because God is working through you to help with many projects for the betterment of humanity! With God on your side you will change somebody's world and maybe more than just one persons. However, I believe if we can help even one person through this trying life it was very worthwhile and God surely sees our efforts and if we're trying our hardest. I believe that you are.

Honey, you don't need to explain anything to me about that boy or your hormones LOL I'm not going to judge you! God loves you and so do I! I will definitely add you as a friend this very moment and I really hope to PM (private message) you some time as suicidal thoughts and feelings are a very scary thing. You can always vent to me.

God bless you as God has crowned you with favor! As I type this I get teary-eyed from God's love for you through Him. God bless and hugs~<3

 

[Balletlover]

Good evening yall! I just wanted to say thank you for all these replies. I guess I do understand where some of you are coming from in the sense that you were giving me advice. I should have taken it and plugged it into my life, however I am human and I do make mistakes. Sometimes I take things to heart and very personally. I can't handle any criticism and I know that's bad but I'm working on it. Just so you guys know I'm usually not like this. I am on medication right now and my hormones are driving me a little crazy. haha But I'll be alright. Thank you all and I hope to continue making friends on here.

In case your are wondering how I calmed down, I talked to God this morning. I was having a hard time with all this but He did calm me down and it was really nice spending time with Him alone. Sometimes just pondering in his presence is all we need. But yeah I do apologize if I have said anything hurtful too. Be blessed!

 

[MaranathaSoonQuick]

Don't fall for joe cool, the right John Doe hasn't yet set his searching eyes upon you.

 

[Chezz]

Good evening yall! I just wanted to say thank you for all these replies. I guess I do understand where some of you are coming from in the sense that you were giving me advice. I should have taken it and plugged it into my life, however I am human and I do make mistakes. Sometimes I take things to heart and very personally. I can't handle any criticism and I know that's bad but I'm working on it. Just so you guys know I'm usually not like this. I am on medication right now and my hormones are driving me a little crazy. haha But I'll be alright. Thank you all and I hope to continue making friends on here.

In case your are wondering how I calmed down, I talked to God this morning. I was having a hard time with all this but He did calm me down and it was really nice spending time with Him alone. Sometimes just pondering in his presence is all we need. But yeah I do apologize if I have said anything hurtful too. Be blessed!

Trust in the lord and you will be just fine! God Bless..oh and if u ever need anything you can PM. I am always on here

 

[Rev_Brandon_2013]

Wow!!! Sounds to me like your a great catch. Listen, there are guys out there that will hurt you. I hate it, but it's true. So sorry to hear that you've been hurt. As a Youth Pastor, the best advice I can give you is to keep your morals. You never know how many people you may help change becasue of it. I think its so amazing that a bright young lady like yourself has so much to offer a guy. Don't you let stuff like that get you down. God has a plan for you. You'll meet your guy one day and it will be an amazing adventure that God will send you on. Trust me, I've always been the exact same way as you are now. ONly difference is I'm a guy and your a girl. I stand for the same morals, same belief, and love for Christ. One day God showed me my girl. We've lived happily ever after since. So, you keep your head up, and you keep serving God. I promise you'll find His will for you. God Bless. Praying for you.

 

[colalella2891]

Haha i'm the same exact way... I'm shy and I have a hard time talking to girls. If a really pretty girl touches me somewhere (like on my shoulder), hugs me, or even talks to me, I turn red... Lol it makes me feel pathetic... -_-

I was once told that I would be a treasure to my wife, she would be a treasure to me, and we would be each others' perfect match. God has that for you too. The thing is though, we have to accept His timing and we have to trust Him to lead us to them. He knows best.

My advice??? Stop looking for a boyfriend. Just trust God to bring the right guy to you.

 

[kaytyndy]

if you keep on searching, you will always end-up with the wrong ones-reason-God does not want you to search for a partner rather, concentrate on his will in your life.When the time come for you to meet the right person, you wont need any strategy to win their hearts. otherwise, know that by keeping yourself pure, God i preserving for you a pure man

 

[Balletlover]

I don't mean to be rude but I really want this thread to die down. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE just ignore it. I'm really just embarrassed by it all. So try not to reply on it so that it won't pop up first on the forum. Thanks!

 

[respekt]

I don't mean to be rude but I really want this thread to die down. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE just ignore it. I'm really just embarrassed by it all. So try not to reply on it so that it won't pop up first on the forum. Thanks!

Contact RoboOp to delete this thread.

 

[wisebeardman]

I don't mean to be rude but I really want this thread to die down. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE just ignore it. I'm really just embarrassed by it all. So try not to reply on it so that it won't pop up first on the forum. Thanks!

I dont know why anyone would be embarrassed for a post on the internet. we dont know who you are or anything.

But i really starting to think maybe people should have to take some kind of class with tests just to get on the internet. so they will know. what you post on the net stays on the net.