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All I can add is, when you finally do find a guy that respects you for all of those beliefs, make sure he isn't choosing you because he wants a girl that will walk whatever fine line he lays before her.
Make sure there's no whip in his back pocket, or you'll quickly go from "perfect" to "not good enough" in his mind.
Makes it even harder to find "him", I know, but continue to be careful.
Make sure there's no whip in his back pocket, or you'll quickly go from "perfect" to "not good enough" in his mind.
Makes it even harder to find "him", I know, but continue to be careful.
B
For my defense I never said I "chased" this guy at all. In fact I almost always ignored him so that he would look for me. He was the one texting and calling me. I never even initiated conversation with him. I always waited for him to talk to me first. I am extremely shy and if anything he probably thought I disliked him. I was always quiet around him and never looked for him.
Anyways I posted this question because I was feeling down. I "thought" I was a good girl. I "thought" I was being humble and doing the right thing but apparently I wasn't. I have a very low self-esteem and I always thought, "well at least I'm a good person" but I guess I'm not. I'm not sure of anything anymore.
Anyways I posted this question because I was feeling down. I "thought" I was a good girl. I "thought" I was being humble and doing the right thing but apparently I wasn't. I have a very low self-esteem and I always thought, "well at least I'm a good person" but I guess I'm not. I'm not sure of anything anymore.
B
Thank you for being so kind! Elaborate on that? Well I'm very shy and I find myself afraid of people and social situations. I used to joke a lot in childhood before school started but once I started I was made fun of for being loud and obnoxious. So I took it that I was acting foolish and I grew up afraid to speak up because I didn't want to make a fool of myself.
Old habits die hard and even though I'm almost 24 I have a hard time making friends and talking to others. I have come a long ways from high school, like I can hold conversations with people at church and I have helped with several outreach programs there. I am slowly becoming more confident with myself. One of the things I like about me is that I at least try to be virtuous. I know a lot of people on here said I wasn't being noble or that I need maturity but I really am happy about where I am at right now. I know it's a lifelong process of growing and I think I'm on the right track.
It's just hard sometimes when people say bad things about me because my self-esteem is growing slowly and when someone says something harsh it goes down quickly and I get thoughts in my head about wanting to kill myself. My church does deliverance and I have been delivered but I guess I still need faith that everything will be alright. I do love God more than anyone or anything but it would be nice to have a friend especially a boyfriend. I guess I just got too excited when I met this guy at church. I really thought he was going to break up with his gf soon and he did but it took a while. Either way he still doesn't like me. He left the church and I'm done weeping I just leave it in God's hands.
I would like to apologize to anyone for anything I might have said or taken too seriously. Right now I am on prescription medications and my hormones are out of whack. LOL Add me as a friend nuns n roses, I would really appreciate friendship right now.
Old habits die hard and even though I'm almost 24 I have a hard time making friends and talking to others. I have come a long ways from high school, like I can hold conversations with people at church and I have helped with several outreach programs there. I am slowly becoming more confident with myself. One of the things I like about me is that I at least try to be virtuous. I know a lot of people on here said I wasn't being noble or that I need maturity but I really am happy about where I am at right now. I know it's a lifelong process of growing and I think I'm on the right track.
It's just hard sometimes when people say bad things about me because my self-esteem is growing slowly and when someone says something harsh it goes down quickly and I get thoughts in my head about wanting to kill myself. My church does deliverance and I have been delivered but I guess I still need faith that everything will be alright. I do love God more than anyone or anything but it would be nice to have a friend especially a boyfriend. I guess I just got too excited when I met this guy at church. I really thought he was going to break up with his gf soon and he did but it took a while. Either way he still doesn't like me. He left the church and I'm done weeping I just leave it in God's hands.
I would like to apologize to anyone for anything I might have said or taken too seriously. Right now I am on prescription medications and my hormones are out of whack. LOL Add me as a friend nuns n roses, I would really appreciate friendship right now.
C
I think I know exactly what your going through because I am currently going through it. I personally know of someone who didn't get married until her mid forties and she remained a virgin until her wedding night. Do you remember Green Acres? The guy who played the farmhand Eb Dawson, he was open about remaining his sexual innocence until he got married in 07. There are very many people in the entertainment industry that we may not even know of that have that same virtue. If you remain following what God has for you, the perfect man will come along eventually.
B
Nothing but pure truth? Whatever. If you would have read my earlier posts you would see that I never chased this guy. I hardly talked to him. In fact I prayed for God to take him out of my heart because I knew he was with someone else.
I come on here for support and comfort and instead I get told I'm not noble for "chasing" the guy, that I'm spiritually immature and that I'm not a good girl at all. I have no self-esteem and being a "good girl" was all that I had. How do you think I feel now that everyone is telling me that I'm not good? But you know what? Maybe your right. Maybe I'm not good maybe I am bad. I'm gonna go cut myself now so that I could at least feel the joy of seeing my blood drip down to the floor.
I come on here for support and comfort and instead I get told I'm not noble for "chasing" the guy, that I'm spiritually immature and that I'm not a good girl at all. I have no self-esteem and being a "good girl" was all that I had. How do you think I feel now that everyone is telling me that I'm not good? But you know what? Maybe your right. Maybe I'm not good maybe I am bad. I'm gonna go cut myself now so that I could at least feel the joy of seeing my blood drip down to the floor.
I'm sorry that this has been your experience. Unfortunately, it has been my experience that church guys talk about the Godly wife they want and go out to find a girl to train to be one. The men that I have met have a great talk, but still just want a quiet, small, virginal type they can mold into who they are really looking for. Those of us who are already pursuing God are often overlooked. And heaven forbid that you are smarter than they are (not bragging or arrogant, just measured by our grades in the same theology classes): I think that is truly the kiss of death.
But I will not apologize for who God created me to be or change to fit a male's definition of what Biblical womanhood truly is. I have learned to find my contentment and my identity in the Lord and to fully believe that I can have a great life with or without a man. I truly believe that good, Godly unmarried men exist, even if I have not met them recently.
But I will not apologize for who God created me to be or change to fit a male's definition of what Biblical womanhood truly is. I have learned to find my contentment and my identity in the Lord and to fully believe that I can have a great life with or without a man. I truly believe that good, Godly unmarried men exist, even if I have not met them recently.
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Hello everyone this is my first thread! I wanted to ask a quick question. See I'm 24 and I consider myself to be a good girl. I hardly go out, I've never been inside a club, don't drink, smoke or do any drugs and I'm a virgin. I try to hold myself accountable for my actions and I know that anything I say and do is reflected on God because when nonbelievers see and talk to me, I have to represent Christ to them. If they were to see me drink for example, that wouldn't be a great reflection of our heavenly Father.
Anyways, I am humble about all this. I'm actually very shy and have always had a hard time making friends. I just find it kinda upsetting that most guys seem to not like me as more than a friend. I am fit and I try to look my best but it still doesn't work. I don't mean to sound proud but I do feel I am a good person. At least I try to be. It's just so disheartening when I meet a Christian guy who is sweet with me but never takes it further than friendship.
Like I got really close to this one guy we'll call him David at church. He had a girlfriend at the time and he was always complaining about how she was materialistic, a non-believer and very selfish. But then he would talk about how pretty she was and how he knew he was going to change her someday. I on the other hand tried to show him that maybe he could be happy with me. But it never worked. I even opened up to him about me saving myself for marriage and he didn't even care! I never told him I liked him but I did become his friend, hoping that maybe he would see what a great girl I am
lol yeah right!
Later on I found out he was sleeping with this girlfriend of his and that he would go clubbing and drinking. I really cared about this guy. I just don't know what to think anymore. I'm so hurt that the Christian men that I have found are not really living the Christian life. Are there any real Christian men out there who would really cherish a virtuous wife? Because to me it doesn't seem that way.
But of course I will always stick to my morals even if I remain single for the rest of my life. I just find it hurtful to think it might not happen.
Anyways, I am humble about all this. I'm actually very shy and have always had a hard time making friends. I just find it kinda upsetting that most guys seem to not like me as more than a friend. I am fit and I try to look my best but it still doesn't work. I don't mean to sound proud but I do feel I am a good person. At least I try to be. It's just so disheartening when I meet a Christian guy who is sweet with me but never takes it further than friendship.
Like I got really close to this one guy we'll call him David at church. He had a girlfriend at the time and he was always complaining about how she was materialistic, a non-believer and very selfish. But then he would talk about how pretty she was and how he knew he was going to change her someday. I on the other hand tried to show him that maybe he could be happy with me. But it never worked. I even opened up to him about me saving myself for marriage and he didn't even care! I never told him I liked him but I did become his friend, hoping that maybe he would see what a great girl I am
lol yeah right! Later on I found out he was sleeping with this girlfriend of his and that he would go clubbing and drinking. I really cared about this guy. I just don't know what to think anymore. I'm so hurt that the Christian men that I have found are not really living the Christian life. Are there any real Christian men out there who would really cherish a virtuous wife? Because to me it doesn't seem that way.
But of course I will always stick to my morals even if I remain single for the rest of my life. I just find it hurtful to think it might not happen.
Man: God, can I ask You a question?
God: Sure
Man: Promise You won’t get mad …
God: I promise
Man: Why did You let so much stuff happen to me today?
God: What do u mean?
Man: Well, I woke up late
God: Yes
Man: My car took forever to start
God: Okay
Man: at lunch they made my sandwich wrong & I had to wait
God: Huummm
Man: On the way home, my phone went DEAD, just as I picked up a call
God: All right
Man: And on top of it all off, when I got home ~I just want to soak my feet in my new foot massager & relax. BUT it wouldn’t work!!! Nothing went right today! Why did You do that?
God: Let me see, the death angel was at your bed this morning & I had to send one of My Angels to battle him for your life. I let you sleep through that
Man (humbled): OH
GOD: I didn’t let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your route that would have hit you if you were on the road.
Man: (ashamed)
God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick & I didn’t want you to catch what they have, I knew you couldn’t afford to miss work.
Man (embarrassed): Okay
God: Your phone went dead because the person that was calling was going to give false witness about what you said on that call, I didn’t even let you talk to them so you would be covered.
Man (softly): I see God
God: Oh and that foot massager, it had a shortage that was going to throw out all of the power in your house tonight. I didn’t think you wanted to be in the dark.
Man: I’m Sorry God
God: Don’t be sorry, just learn to Trust Me…. in All things , the Good & the bad.
Man: I will trust You.
God: And don’t doubt that My plan for your day is Always Better than your plan.
Man: I won’t God. And let me just tell you God, Thank You for Everything today.
M
If being a "good girl" is all that makes you feel good about yourself, you're relying on the wrong thing and will only cause yourself intense pain if you ever slip up.
You seem...depressed and a little unstable. Perhaps guys aren't going for you because they can see that about you. I don't know of any healthy Christian men that would go for someone who resorts to threats of cutting themselves, or some of the excuses you've thrown out here, when faced with a little bit of criticism.
You seem...depressed and a little unstable. Perhaps guys aren't going for you because they can see that about you. I don't know of any healthy Christian men that would go for someone who resorts to threats of cutting themselves, or some of the excuses you've thrown out here, when faced with a little bit of criticism.
B
How can I delete my profile? Is it possible for that to happen? I'm just done with this. I'm so numb already I don't even care anymore. If I can't delete the profile, just forget I posted this question. I don't want to hear it anymore. I can see why nonbelievers say Christians are so judgmental. Some of you all were harsh. Yes, I asked for advice but you all did not need to deliver it in such a cold way especially like "Ugly". Let me give you advice, if you ever want to help someone, be nice to them! People like me, the "unstable" ones, are not going to listen to those who are harsh. In fact by being harsh it makes things A LOT worse. And in case anyone cares, I didn't cut last night. I decided against it because I haven't cut since December of 2012 and I plan on overcoming this.
K
You know - this is very frustrating for a lot of us. But Balletlover, if there's one thing I've learned here at CC it's that people are going to tell you the truth. You can count on that. You can run away from it too but I really hope you stay. It's painful, it's difficult, and many times very uncomfortable but Ugly is telling the truth and honestly trying to help, so is Chezz and MissCris reject-tech and Missachu and I hope you don't miss out on some people who could be genuine friends to you. Folks who actually care enough about you to go right to the sore place and try to fix it. Not just change bandaids.