How do I get out of the cult??

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ChristianGirlLivingLife

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Okay so I was unaware that the Church of Christ was a cult until just recently. I have attended their bible studies for several weeks now, and have felt convicted very much. How do I leave without being rude? Because several of my friends are members, and I don't want to hurt their feelings. I feel so bad to leave, but at the same time, their teachings are wrong interpretations of the Bible. I'm angry that I was tricked into this.
 
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ChristianGirlLivingLife said:
Okay so I was unaware that the Church of Christ was a cult until just recently. I have attended their bible studies for several weeks now, and have felt convicted very much. How do I leave without being rude? Because several of my friends are members, and I don't want to hurt their feelings. I feel so bad to leave, but at the same time, their teachings are wrong interpretations of the Bible. I'm angry that I was tricked into this.
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It's not being rudely personal against your friends to hold conviction from the Scriptures that any group calling itself the only way runs against John 14.6.

We need to be born again by the Spirit of God on believing on the Lord Jesus (John 3); we don't need so called baptismal regeneration, whereby their leaders only have the power to bring people supposedly to life in Christ.

I hope you will be guided by the Scriptures, Ms. Rachel.

Blessings.
 
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It's not rude. It's your life. People leave churches often for various reasons, but you do not have to give a reason why you are leaving.
 
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If they ask just say, "It's not for me." no explanation needed.
 
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If they are a cult, they will likely react by warning you that you will be lost if you leave their church and try to convince you to stay. If that is their response it will be easier to leave than you think. I don't envy your situation but you have to get out of there. Some might say that you should stay in hopes of changing their minds but I think only God can truly do that and perhaps by leaving you might have an effect.

Keep us posted and we can continue to pray for you.

God bless you :)
 
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If they are a cult, they will likely react by warning you that you will be lost if you leave their church and try to convince you to stay. If that is their response it will be easier to leave than you think. I don't envy your situation but you have to get out of there. Some might say that you should stay in hopes of changing their minds but I think only God can truly do that and perhaps by leaving you might have an effect.

Keep us posted and we can continue to pray for you.

God bless you :)
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At the risk of offending someone, Doesn't that sound a lot like every christian church??

Edit** I am speaking more broadly about leaving christianity not a building
 
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I actually have two churches. One with my family, which is a well-known, non-denominational church that has a pretty good reputation. The other church is the Church of Christ. That one, I think, is a cult. I am considering leaving that church and continue to attend the one with my parents.
 
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At the risk of offending someone, Doesn't that sound a lot like every christian church??
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I should hope not. In the case of the church in question, they literally equate their church with the ONE true Christianity. It is called the "Church of Christ" after all. :/ Most other protestant denominations wouldn't condemn you for leaving their building. At least I hope it is that way.
 
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ChristianGirlLivingLife said:
I actually have two churches. One with my family, which is a well-known, non-denominational church that has a pretty good reputation. The other church is the Church of Christ. That one, I think, is a cult. I am considering leaving that church and continue to attend the one with my parents.
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Sounds good... :)

Blessings.
 
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There is your answer. "I am going to go worship with my family." Be assertive they will get over it.

When we turn to the New Testament, fathers are given the command to bring their children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Eph. 6:4).

Eph. 6:2" Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise

Kefa
 
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That is so true. Go and worship and be fed the word of the Lord with your family. The blessings it will bestow upon you will be overfilling. Maybe not currently but when you have your own family with your own children you will experience the blessings from it. It is so hard to leave a church or belief that is a cult. I personally had to leave the Mormon church and that was difficult and I ended up getting the police involved because of the manipulation and threatening behavior that I had to endure from them. Stay strong and keep studying the word of the Lord everyday. It will help you through the difficulties and strengthen your walk. Remember to also lean on your parents experience. You may not like what they say, but they so have knowledge and experience that will be so beneficial to help you through this as well. Good luck. You are in my prayers.

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First, stop kicking yourself because they tricked you. And second, no matter what they say or do, you have the right to leave. If they call you names or tell you that you are going to hell, just walk away.

And definitely get more involved at your parents church. Tell them you really just want to worship and grow with your family. If they give you something about "loving Christ more than father or mother" just put them on ignore. When you are firmly out, I would recommend you print up info or send links to your friends who are still in the Bible study.

There is an ignore button in real life, and the world would be a better place if people would use it!

And isn't God good that he led you here where you learned the truth, before it got really hard to leave. Praying for you!
 
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ChristianGirlLivingLife said:
Okay so I was unaware that the Church of Christ was a cult until just recently. I have attended their bible studies for several weeks now, and have felt convicted very much. How do I leave without being rude? Because several of my friends are members, and I don't want to hurt their feelings. I feel so bad to leave, but at the same time, their teachings are wrong interpretations of the Bible. I'm angry that I was tricked into this.
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See, this is the problem with modern Christianity. We're more worried about 'being rude' and 'not hurting feelings' than we are with truth. Why not just quit going, and when asked, explain 'i've felt God convicting me of this'. Do you think God was worried you might hurt their feelings when he convicted you of going there? You need to step back and reassess your priorities and find out what is more important, truth or the perception of rudeness?
Why are you putting the idea of rude in a higher position than truth and following the conviction of Gods spirit? Try reading your bible, because when it came to false teachers, Jesus was known for being rude. What do you think the concept of 'pick up your cross and follow me' is? Its not because things will be easy. You're taking a stance to follow truth first and foremost, and when that happens you end up stepping on toes and being rude sometimes. It may cost you relationships with family and friends at times, as the bible says will happen.
I suggest stop being caught up in this secularized concept of Christianity where feelings and politeness trump truth.
 
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I don't totally disagree with their doctrine. I think the average evangelical in the US has gone way too far in the other extreme when it comes to water baptism. Ananias did tell Saul of Tarsus to arise and be baptized, and calling upon the name of the Lord, wash away your sins.

That movement's doctrines on musical instruments, spiritual gifts, and certain other topics seem to be quite unscriptural to me. And trying to argue that other people's baptisms aren't valid based on Acts 2 is quite a stretch. Is there any more evidence of grace in their lives than Christians in other churches that sincerely seek to follow the word of God?
 
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She said she was convicted, and made her choice. I don't think she came here to debate, but seek help for the decision God has put on her to make.
 
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I'm just amazed how much of a difference there is between the Churches of Christ (America) and Church of Christ (Australia etc.).
 
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If they ask just say, "It's not for me." no explanation needed.
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Well, exactly.

In fact, they would probably wish for a more specific response, in order to try to counter it; whereas there is no answer to someone voting with his or her feet, as it were.
 
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I am currently awaiting my mentor and friend to call me. It will be then when I let them know that I won't be continuing the bible studies. Please pray for me and that I don't become weak in their presence.
 
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ChristianGirlLivingLife said:
I am currently awaiting my mentor and friend to call me. It will be then when I let them know that I won't be continuing the bible studies. Please pray for me and that I don't become weak in their presence.
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Just say no. Period. Say I gotta go and hang up.
 
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