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cmarieh

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I am so glad that there guys out there that still believe in opening doors up for women. Sometimes I even open a door for a man whose hands are full. It is not an expectation of mine, I was brought up in a family where the men took responsibility and offered to open the door for the women. I just find it really sweet.:)
 
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Shouryu

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cmarieh said:
Why don't most men open the doors for women anymore? Now, I realize some do and it is very well appreciated and Thank You. I was right behind a guy walking in the store and he shut the door on me. I don't understand why they don't think it isn't necessary or at least polite.
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I don't think that's even a man/woman issue anymore. That was just something EVERYONE did for someone else when I was growing up. I saw women hold open doors for other people all the time; everyone was just more polite to everyone, even strangers, in general, when I was a child. Now we're all self-centered and paranoid...so wrapped up in our own thoughts or our cellphones that we haven't even noticed that there was someone walking literally four steps behind us for the last half-block when we let the door go into their face. Or the whole, "Ew, I'm not holding the door open for her, she's not even pretty, so why bother?" We are, as a whole, a far more selfish society, sadly. :/
 
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Shouryu said:
I don't think that's even a man/woman issue anymore. That was just something EVERYONE did for someone else when I was growing up. I saw women hold open doors for other people all the time; everyone was just more polite to everyone, even strangers, in general, when I was a child. Now we're all self-centered and paranoid...so wrapped up in our own thoughts or our cellphones that we haven't even noticed that there was someone walking literally four steps behind us for the last half-block when we let the door go into their face. Or the whole, "Ew, I'm not holding the door open for her, she's not even pretty, so why bother?" We are, as a whole, a far more selfish society, sadly. :/
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Yea, a lot of people are so wrapped up in their own little worlds now thanks to smartphones and free messaging that they are oblivious to everyone and everything around them. This is part of what I was referring to in my 'everything is 99% drivel' post in the streams thread.
 
Lynx

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I dunno... I can understand not being aware someone is behind you, and yet I can't. Or rather I can observe this fact but cannot understand it.

I used to walk to school, a bit more than a mile. If it rained I rode the bus, but if the sky was clear I would rather walk. I read a book while I was walking. And I still was aware of my surroundings - I never ran into anything, stepped out in front of a car, cut anyone off because I was reading a book and was not aware of their presence.

I am still aware of my surroundings when I'm walking somewhere. That's what peripheral vision is for. So yeah, I can observe that some are not as aware of what is around them when they are composing a text message, but I cannot understand it.

If you're walking behind me you won't get the door shut in your face.
 
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MollyConnor

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cmarieh said:
Why don't most men open the doors for women anymore? Now, I realize some do and it is very well appreciated and Thank You. I was right behind a guy walking in the store and he shut the door on me. I don't understand why they don't think it isn't necessary or at least polite.
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I've heard that because of feminism, some men are afraid to do so. Sometimes women complain that they are just as capable of opening their own doors and/or get offended when men do it. It's really sad for us ladies who do like it though :(

I remember the first time a guy opened the door for me. I instantly had a crush on him! LOL So men, if you like a girl, open the door for her and she will most likely respond positively, unless of course she's a feminist!

"Okay, can I just say something crazy?
Love is an open door!"
 
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MollyConnor said:
I've heard that because of feminism, some men are afraid to do so. Sometimes women complain that they are just as capable of opening their own doors and/or get offended when men do it. It's really sad for us ladies who do like it though :(

I remember the first time a guy opened the door for me. I instantly had a crush on him! LOL So men, if you like a girl, open the door for her and she will most likely respond positively, unless of course she's a feminist!

"Okay, can I just say something crazy?
Love is an open door!"
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haha. That was clever :rolleyes:
 
Lynx

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Um... you two are dripping all over the forum again... :rolleyes:
 
JesusLives

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Lynx said:
Um... you two are dripping all over the forum again... :rolleyes:
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It's o.k. to drip a little - I promise we won't come in soaking wet....

in other news because of you sir we are eating chili tonight with butter cornbread and apple butter....Yummmm!!
 
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JesusLives said:
It's o.k. to drip a little - I promise we won't come in soaking wet....

in other news because of you sir we are eating chili tonight with butter cornbread and apple butter....Yummmm!!
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Honey, do we have any clean towels? Slipped in a puddle outside...
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Some men still open and hold the door. I say thanks whether if a man or woman holds the door for me, though it seems like some men still hold the virtue of holding the door for a woman and some women take it offensively.

It's a mix of feminism and men that weren't brought up in a 'traditional' household. If a man feels obligated to hold the door then that's fine and I appreciate it and let them know, but I don't feel the entitlement that all men should be doing so or hold them accountable if they don't since the fault lies with how society perceives and allows the stigmas of gender roles that has been around and ever changing for centuries anyway. What we're seeing now is the result of very complex issues and thus it's creating a revolution of how we view society as a whole.
 
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I've never seen or heard about a women getting angry because a door was opened for her. It's possible but I wonder if it's common enough that men have stopped doing it.
 
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Tintin

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I've never seen or heard about a women getting angry because a door was opened for her. It's possible but I wonder if it's common enough that men have stopped doing it.
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Oh, I've experienced it in the past.
 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I've never seen or heard about a women getting angry because a door was opened for her. It's possible but I wonder if it's common enough that men have stopped doing it.
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I've had a woman snap back at me "I don't need you to open a door for me", and she waited until I closed the door before she opened it and walked through. Perhaps she was having a bad day or something, but it won't deter me from doing the same for others. I see it as common courtesy and I shall not stop :)
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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Tintin said:
Oh, I've experienced it in the past.
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ardchoille said:
I've had a woman snap back at me "I don't need you to open a door for me", and she waited until I closed the door before she opened it and walked through. Perhaps she was having a bad day or something, but it won't deter me from doing the same for others. I see it as common courtesy and I shall not stop :)
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Wow... that's insane. What is this world coming to? Everyone needs to move to Texas where doors are held open and people smile at you when they walk past, like you are a human being. :)
 
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ardchoille

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
Wow... that's insane. What is this world coming to? Everyone needs to move to Texas where doors are held open and people smile at you when they walk past, like you are a human being. :)
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Wowsers, small world! I lived in Texas (Copperas Cove/Killeen) through Junior High and High school.
 
Lynx

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Or move to Tennessee. We're polite here too, at least for the most part. We have a few rude people but we don't like to talk about them... or to them... much at all.


ardchoille said:
I've had a woman snap back at me "I don't need you to open a door for me", and she waited until I closed the door before she opened it and walked through. Perhaps she was having a bad day or something, but it won't deter me from doing the same for others. I see it as common courtesy and I shall not stop :)
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That kind of person I'd just look at her kind of odd and say, "Well bless your heart" and move on.
 
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psychomom

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That kind of person I'd just look at her kind of odd and say, "Well bless your heart" and move on.
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uh-oh, a southern 'bless your heart'. ;)
 
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