what the qualities that GUYS looking for in a woman?
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Oh yeah, I forgot one thing... A lady who doesn't gossip. Gossip caused damage in my family, some of whom are no longer in church because of gossip.
Also I know a few ministers who will never preach at our church again - not because of them but because of their wives with destructive tongues.
Actually I believe I mentioned this in the last "what is a guy looking for in a woman" thread...
Also I know a few ministers who will never preach at our church again - not because of them but because of their wives with destructive tongues.
Actually I believe I mentioned this in the last "what is a guy looking for in a woman" thread...
I see and expected to see many comments here about the woman loving God/Jesus............and that is as it should be. But I believe that just being a believer isn't enough to assure a harmonious relationship/marriage.
It seems to me that it would also be very beneficial if both parties were of the same mind concerning the teachings they grew up with/or have come to believe. In that they need to be from the same church/denomination/whatever.
Not to throw stones at any particular church/denomination.........but if the man grew up in, and still attends a church who teaches the theology of denomination "a", and the woman grew up in, and still attends a church who teaches the theology of denomination "b," and those differences are substantially in conflict with each other, I would expect these differences to have an adverse effect on any possible relationship/marriage being harmonious.
Hope that makes sense. Did not want to get too specific so as to not unduly ruffle any feathers.
It seems to me that it would also be very beneficial if both parties were of the same mind concerning the teachings they grew up with/or have come to believe. In that they need to be from the same church/denomination/whatever.
Not to throw stones at any particular church/denomination.........but if the man grew up in, and still attends a church who teaches the theology of denomination "a", and the woman grew up in, and still attends a church who teaches the theology of denomination "b," and those differences are substantially in conflict with each other, I would expect these differences to have an adverse effect on any possible relationship/marriage being harmonious.
Hope that makes sense. Did not want to get too specific so as to not unduly ruffle any feathers.
That is a very optimistic view. 
However... if you have very different views on how to spend or save money, on how to raise children, on spiritual matters, on ways of communicating, or on ways of showing and receiving love... these are not minor details. These are things that can and often do tear marriages apart, even Christian marriages between partners who love one another. Otherwise the Christian divorce rate would not be so woefully high.
Let's say for example that you love her, and she loves you, but the way you communicate is different. She may not be able to adapt to your way of communication due to how she was raised or her general personality. (She is naturally private and quiet.) You may not be able to adapt to her way of communication because of how you were raised, or your personality. (You are naturally expressive and curious.) Her quiet avoidance of intimate conversation frustrates you and leaves you feeling locked out emotionally. Your inquisitive nature in wanting to talk about everything leaves her feeling threatened and harassed.
You can see where this could be a major issue in a marriage. Is it the instant death of a marriage? Of course not... with counseling and open minds and the ability to pinpoint the problem and desire to work on the issue, it can be overcome.
But I don't know that it's wise to overlook something like this when forming an attachment to someone. Choose someone that you are compatible with, whose personality compliments yours. You'll save yourself and your wife a lot of grief in the many years to come.
However... if you have very different views on how to spend or save money, on how to raise children, on spiritual matters, on ways of communicating, or on ways of showing and receiving love... these are not minor details. These are things that can and often do tear marriages apart, even Christian marriages between partners who love one another. Otherwise the Christian divorce rate would not be so woefully high.
Let's say for example that you love her, and she loves you, but the way you communicate is different. She may not be able to adapt to your way of communication due to how she was raised or her general personality. (She is naturally private and quiet.) You may not be able to adapt to her way of communication because of how you were raised, or your personality. (You are naturally expressive and curious.) Her quiet avoidance of intimate conversation frustrates you and leaves you feeling locked out emotionally. Your inquisitive nature in wanting to talk about everything leaves her feeling threatened and harassed.
You can see where this could be a major issue in a marriage. Is it the instant death of a marriage? Of course not... with counseling and open minds and the ability to pinpoint the problem and desire to work on the issue, it can be overcome.
But I don't know that it's wise to overlook something like this when forming an attachment to someone. Choose someone that you are compatible with, whose personality compliments yours. You'll save yourself and your wife a lot of grief in the many years to come.
That is a very optimistic view.
However... if you have very different views on how to spend or save money, on how to raise children, on spiritual matters, on ways of communicating, or on ways of showing and receiving love... these are not minor details. These are things that can and often do tear marriages apart, even Christian marriages between partners who love one another. Otherwise the Christian divorce rate would not be so woefully high.
Let's say for example that you love her, and she loves you, but the way you communicate is different. She may not be able to adapt to your way of communication due to how she was raised or her general personality. (She is naturally private and quiet.) You may not be able to adapt to her way of communication because of how you were raised, or your personality. (You are naturally expressive and curious.) Her quiet avoidance of intimate conversation frustrates you and leaves you feeling locked out emotionally. Your inquisitive nature in wanting to talk about everything leaves her feeling threatened and harassed.
You can see where this could be a major issue in a marriage. Is it the instant death of a marriage? Of course not... with counseling and open minds and the ability to pinpoint the problem and desire to work on the issue, it can be overcome.
But I don't know that it's wise to overlook something like this when forming an attachment to someone. Choose someone that you are compatible with, whose personality compliments yours. You'll save yourself and your wife a lot of grief in the many years to come.
However... if you have very different views on how to spend or save money, on how to raise children, on spiritual matters, on ways of communicating, or on ways of showing and receiving love... these are not minor details. These are things that can and often do tear marriages apart, even Christian marriages between partners who love one another. Otherwise the Christian divorce rate would not be so woefully high.
Let's say for example that you love her, and she loves you, but the way you communicate is different. She may not be able to adapt to your way of communication due to how she was raised or her general personality. (She is naturally private and quiet.) You may not be able to adapt to her way of communication because of how you were raised, or your personality. (You are naturally expressive and curious.) Her quiet avoidance of intimate conversation frustrates you and leaves you feeling locked out emotionally. Your inquisitive nature in wanting to talk about everything leaves her feeling threatened and harassed.
You can see where this could be a major issue in a marriage. Is it the instant death of a marriage? Of course not... with counseling and open minds and the ability to pinpoint the problem and desire to work on the issue, it can be overcome.
But I don't know that it's wise to overlook something like this when forming an attachment to someone. Choose someone that you are compatible with, whose personality compliments yours. You'll save yourself and your wife a lot of grief in the many years to come.
Take communication for instance. If the woman loves me then she would talk to me and not avoid me.
Or for example raising children. If the woman loves God, then she would raise our chidlren with me.
Me thinks divorce is so common today because people make complicated what is actually rather simple.
I wouldn't lose sight of the fact that the success of your marriage is dependent on you as much as it is on the person you are married to. When two sinful people join their lives together, there is going to be conflict. Things aren't always going to be puppies and roses. Your view doesn't seem to take that into account.
There are going to be instances where your wife does not meet your expectations. What are you going to do then?
There are going to be instances where your wife does not meet your expectations. What are you going to do then?
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Hoss2576 - I think I score 4 out of 5
Jonahlynx - I think I score 6 out of 10. If I scored the other 4 as well I suppose I wouldn't claim the other 6.
Taylor TG - 4 out of 5 but maybe 5 for the right guy.
Ugly - maybe 6 and 2 halves!
Test_ 5 out of 5 but I had to ask a friend if 1 was true.
I have decided already that I will not marry until I have known the guy at least two years, dated at least a year, been engaged at least six months, and have finished at University which is years away. So for now I can safely score short.
Jonahlynx - I think I score 6 out of 10. If I scored the other 4 as well I suppose I wouldn't claim the other 6.
Taylor TG - 4 out of 5 but maybe 5 for the right guy.
Ugly - maybe 6 and 2 halves!
Test_ 5 out of 5 but I had to ask a friend if 1 was true.
I have decided already that I will not marry until I have known the guy at least two years, dated at least a year, been engaged at least six months, and have finished at University which is years away. So for now I can safely score short.