Is being a submissive wife really taboo?

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MarcR

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Actually, BDSM has several "meanings" that overlap with the DS. It stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism. Dominance and submission is a clear part of the BDSM lifestyle, whether or not it is accompanied by the other aspects of BDSM.

The fact that so many women "loved" Fifty Shades of Grey doesn't mean that women want a more dominant partner, anymore than Die Hard, 007, or Fast and Furious mean that men want to steal cars, shoot people, and blow things up. It's *fantasy.* Additionally, (and this may be making too fine a point), Fifty Shades of Grey has little/nothing to do with actual BDSM.

As for the idea that men "hardly know what it means to take a stand," here's what I have to say: Stop being an acculturated sheep. The examined life IS worth living. If an individual can't be bothered to make the effort to engage in self-examination and determine which aspects of their acculturation are useful and which are not, then that's the problem of the individual. It's not society's job to feed into every possible ideology regarding manhood. It's certainly not a secular society's job to create in men a religious sense of manhood. The very idea that society should make it possible for an individual to avoid self-examination by teaching them perfectly is completely ridiculous.

You seem to be treating 'master' as a buzz-word; and building it into a warped lifestyle without foundation.
 
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purgedconscience

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Look when you come a pour all your stuff out and tag God with it, just know that's my God you're also talking about for which I know there is no place in the bible that being tied up, brought to pain for pleasure, or being called little girl is there. Song of soloman is written for a reason. And Frankly, Im offended that you call yourself biblically traditional. This is the first time ive ever been borderline miffed here. And probably not the last.
Did she really mention being tied up and brought to pain for pleasure? Perhaps I should read all the pages? Better still, perhaps I should just mind my own business? I'm choosing option number two. Good night everyone.
 
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Mitspa

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Did she really mention being tied up and brought to pain for pleasure? Perhaps I should read all the pages? Better still, perhaps I should just mind my own business? I'm choosing option number two. Good night everyone.
No ..this is sad the way that so called Christ-like folks have acted on this thread.
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife

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I think I will be leaving this terribly judgemental and rude site. I pray you all learn to "hate the sin not the sinner" and do not judge lest yee be judged. Just because someone is different than you doesn't mean you hate them. Upon doing some research on this site I have realized most are very chliche' anyway and that is something I do not like.
 
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Rosesrock

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Did she really mention being tied up and brought to pain for pleasure? Perhaps I should read all the pages? Better still, perhaps I should just mind my own business? I'm choosing option number two. Good night everyone.
My bad, I do apologize...,Do you and your husband practice the BDSM lifestyle? But will you answer, and if you dont then why thr signature? Sorry, Im not ignorant of this, but I have seemed harsh and Im sorry for that. Night

5 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Eph 4: 25-26


 
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WolfGaming

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someone who really cares about this Woman of God get a mod to close this thread down not becase I dislike her but becase I care for her and like she said most of the comments are not Godly there is nothing wrong with her calling her husband master it is her choice to do as she will if it is wrong with I don't think so she will be juged by God not by men .
 
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Sirk

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I think I will be leaving this terribly judgemental and rude site. I pray you all learn to "hate the sin not the sinner" and do not judge lest yee be judged. Just because someone is different than you doesn't mean you hate them. Upon doing some research on this site I have realized most are very chliche' anyway and that is something I do not like.

I hate to break this to you but if this is how you present yourself get ready for a lot more judgment and isolation. I hope you find what you're looking for and contrary to what you said about me hating you....I don't.
 

clee356

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Honestly I didn't read through all this mostly because there are so many pages, so I probably don't know the full story. But I hope you don't leave the site just because of people's opinions. This is a site with diverse people and you're bound to get people who don't agree with you, who don't like you. But don't let that stop you from potential friendships on here. I really hope you don't leave.
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife

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My bad, I do apologize...,Do you and your husband practice the BDSM lifestyle? But will you answer, and if you dont then why thr signature? Sorry, Im not ignorant of this, but I have seemed harsh and Im sorry for that. Night

5 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Eph 4: 25-26


Yes we do. While I understand your views on this, personally I think the bible is rather contradictory about this. Which is the point of my post. Noone is going to change anyone elses views, and I'm not trying to make a whole darn drama thread. I was, I suppose, seeking clarity myself in the biblical matters. But, also I suppose the bible leaves a lot to personal interpretation and dominanation.
 
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Rosesrock

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Yes we do. While I understand your views on this, personally I think the bible is rather contradictory about this. Which is the point of my post. Noone is going to change anyone elses views, and I'm not trying to make a whole darn drama thread. I was, I suppose, seeking clarity myself in the biblical matters. But, also I suppose the bible leaves a lot to personal interpretation and dominanation.
Now we can talk. And no it really doesn't. It's a lie straight from the pit of hell, which is probably harsh and again, im speaking in my sweet southern voice right now, but please research, read, pray and hard about what you're doing. It's used to drive from the flesh, not the heart.
 
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Sirk

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Now we can talk. And no it really doesn't. It's a lie straight from the pit of hell, which is probably harsh and again, im speaking in my sweet southern voice right now, but please research, read, pray and hard about what you're doing. It's used to drive from the flesh, not the heart.
Loving someone denotes that you desire and wish the best for them....and then act accordingly. I would never let my wife call me master. I prefer sweetie, honey and endearing names such as that. She says my real name of I'm in trouble. Lol
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife

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Wow my dyslexia really got to me there... *denomination...not whatever that last word was haha
 
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WolfGaming

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Loving someone denotes that you desire and wish the best for them....and then act accordingly. I would never let my wife call me master. I prefer sweetie, honey and endearing names such as that. She says my real name of I'm in trouble. Lol
plz guys just stop this it is just starting up again its not worth it you all shared you apoinon if you think she is in the wrong you told her ok now what does the bible tell us to do dust off our feet please for her sake stop this arguing is it really what Christ would do?
 
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Tintin

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Yes we do. While I understand your views on this, personally I think the bible is rather contradictory about this. Which is the point of my post. Noone is going to change anyone elses views, and I'm not trying to make a whole darn drama thread. I was, I suppose, seeking clarity myself in the biblical matters. But, also I suppose the bible leaves a lot to personal interpretation and denomination.
Not really. Two words: Holy Spirit.
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife

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Loving someone denotes that you desire and wish the best for them....and then act accordingly. I would never let my wife call me master. I prefer sweetie, honey and endearing names such as that. She says my real name of I'm in trouble. Lol
You are implying and assuming again. Just because we use different names for eachother doesn't mean we don't love eachother. We have been together since high school.
 
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purgedconscience

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Yes we do. While I understand your views on this, personally I think the bible is rather contradictory about this. Which is the point of my post. Noone is going to change anyone elses views, and I'm not trying to make a whole darn drama thread. I was, I suppose, seeking clarity myself in the biblical matters. But, also I suppose the bible leaves a lot to personal interpretation and dominanation.
May I ask you a simple question?

Seeing how the relationship between a man and his wife is likened to the relationship between Christ and His church in scripture, do you believe that Christ wants us in bondage to Him?

I guess that someone might say that we're Christ's servants or slaves, but that's speaking of being servants or slaves to righteousness. Having read your confession/admission, I now understand the concern of some others here better without advocating any rudeness if there was any. God doesn't want husbands dominating their wives. A husband's authority has to do with accountability and not dominance.
 
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Rosesrock

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Loving someone denotes that you desire and wish the best for them....and then act accordingly. I would never let my wife call me master. I prefer sweetie, honey and endearing names such as that. She says my real name of I'm in trouble. Lol
It's not just about that and i hope this OP young lady explains her thoughts more, but it's about power, control, and false love. The dominate is given ultimate control to her master by allowing him to provide whatever possible to make her feel pain, which is translated to love for the girl. The girl feels loved and protected, taken care of, adored. Called babygirl snd the ultimate "mine". It's also show, if they go public...meetings, stories and other unGodly practices. How do I know? Guess.

This child needs prayer. Lots of it. The entire lifestyle does.
 
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Mitspa

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This lady don't even know about you guys sick jokes...you guys need to get right with the Lord.