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I think a lot of the things you say explain Your singlehood more than the responses to your posts explain why anyone else is single. Wait, I gotta make this statement seem friendly by adding a smiley face... :)
I'm single because polygamy is neither legal nor healthy. :p
 
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Is it safe to come in here........? :rolleyes: heehee

 
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Is it safe to come in here........? :rolleyes: heehee

You're always safe with us, my Lady. :)

I just posted on a thread about a woman who is 50 years of age and still insecure about having small breasts. The woman in this video is petite in that area yet her split second smile at the very end lights up the whole room, and that's what counts.
 
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I guess I joke too much...forgive me?
Without question I will forgive you.

I really do respond to your posts in the effort to help you see the world from my (a woman's) perspective. I see other women trying to do the same for you. I can only speak for myself in my motivation - to help you understand women. I might be really wrong, but sometimes you seem defensive to seeing the world how we see it and your jokes feel dismissive or like you look down on us for not being men. You very much want for women to be women (or so you say) and then get frustrated when we aren't men. :)

I'm happy to answer questions if you'd like. I'm really pretty relaxed 1:1.
 
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You're always safe with us, my Lady. :)

I just posted on a thread about a woman who is 50 years of age and still insecure about having small breasts. The woman in this video is petite in that area yet her split second smile at the very end lights up the whole room, and that's what counts.
I was making light of the situation because it seemed like there was a misunderstanding growing in the room. I have a tendency to be a peacemaker. I don't like conflict. But you're a trip! Thanks for your sense of humor. :D
 
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Violet, is that you? I'm coming to Texas! :eek:
No, sir. Sorry. Not me. :( I think it's actress, Tracee Ellis Ross from the show "Girlfriends".
 
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I was making light of the situation because it seemed like there was a misunderstanding growing in the room. I have a tendency to be a peacemaker. I don't like conflict. But you're a trip! Thanks for your sense of humor. :D
I know you're a peacemaker and rejoice for the love you have for others. I needed you about 10 minutes ago. Unfortunately I had to get "ignant" with someone who was being difficult. Ain't I a stinker? :p
 
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You guys need to chill out.... no wonder some of you are single :)
Apparently, I can't win for losing here.

I tell a humorous story about me being humiliated, and I'm told that my humiliation was my own fault. I unfold my real feelings at the time the story happened, and I'm told that I need to "chill out" with a nasty jab about why I'm single.

I don't get the personal jabs and meanness. While we've disagreed at times on the boards, I've never made personal jabs about you, your life, your preferences, or how you communicate.
 
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I know you're a peacemaker and rejoice for the love you have for others. I needed you about 10 minutes ago. Unfortunately I had to get "ignant" with someone who was being difficult. Ain't I a stinker? :p
You were pretty sassy. I laughed at it.
 
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Apparently, I can't win for losing here.

I tell a humorous story about me being humiliated, and I'm told that my humiliation was my own fault. I unfold my real feelings at the time the story happened, and I'm told that I need to "chill out" with a nasty jab about why I'm single.

I don't get the personal jabs and meanness. While we've disagreed at times on the boards, I've never made personal jabs about you, your life, your preferences, or how you communicate.
Awwwww, I'm sorry you got hurt, PoetMary dear. I think what happens is so many of us poke fun at each other on other threads that others, like yourself get caught unprepared for it and it feels like a jab. Please forgive me if anything I posted seemed to disrespect you, dear sister.
 

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Looks like it got pretty heated earlier... Hoping everything is cooled off now? But anyways... I feel kinda funny saying this because I am single, but the main thing in a relationship is communication. Ladies, don't try to nonverbally give hints. Us guys... We don't pick up on that. Tell us what you're feeling. Or what you want. Please. It saves such a hassle. Men, women want us to open up more. There's a reason why God created Eve from Adam's rib. She was meant to be by his side. How can men be leaders if all we do is keep everything bundled in and/or take the lady in our life for granted? Sorry but just seeing some of these posts kinda have my head scratching. Again I know it's kinda weird seeing this posted from me since I am single... But seeing relationships that have worked... If is all about communication. Because once that drops.. So does everything else.
 
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Looks like it got pretty heated earlier... Hoping everything is cooled off now? But anyways... I feel kinda funny saying this because I am single, but the main thing in a relationship is communication. Ladies, don't try to nonverbally give hints. Us guys... We don't pick up on that. Tell us what you're feeling. Or what you want. Please. It saves such a hassle. Men, women want us to open up more. There's a reason why God created Eve from Adam's rib. She was meant to be by his side. How can men be leaders if all we do is keep everything bundled in and/or take the lady in our life for granted? Sorry but just seeing some of these posts kinda have my head scratching. Again I know it's kinda weird seeing this posted from me since I am single... But seeing relationships that have worked... If is all about communication. Because once that drops.. So does everything else.
I don't think it got heated at all. I was frustrated, sure. But not heated.
 
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Looks like it got pretty heated earlier... Hoping everything is cooled off now? But anyways... I feel kinda funny saying this because I am single, but the main thing in a relationship is communication. Ladies, don't try to nonverbally give hints. Us guys... We don't pick up on that. Tell us what you're feeling. Or what you want. Please. It saves such a hassle. Men, women want us to open up more. There's a reason why God created Eve from Adam's rib. She was meant to be by his side. How can men be leaders if all we do is keep everything bundled in and/or take the lady in our life for granted? Sorry but just seeing some of these posts kinda have my head scratching. Again I know it's kinda weird seeing this posted from me since I am single... But seeing relationships that have worked... If is all about communication. Because once that drops.. So does everything else.
Sooooo.... are you saying it's bad thing if I'd rather just hike around looking for rocks and doing bird calls and swinging on a swing than talking about my feelings?? :confused: *oops* No wonder I'm single. :p

 
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Looks like it got pretty heated earlier... Hoping everything is cooled off now? But anyways... I feel kinda funny saying this because I am single, but the main thing in a relationship is communication. Ladies, don't try to nonverbally give hints. Us guys... We don't pick up on that. Tell us what you're feeling. Or what you want. Please. It saves such a hassle. Men, women want us to open up more. There's a reason why God created Eve from Adam's rib. She was meant to be by his side. How can men be leaders if all we do is keep everything bundled in and/or take the lady in our life for granted? Sorry but just seeing some of these posts kinda have my head scratching. Again I know it's kinda weird seeing this posted from me since I am single... But seeing relationships that have worked... If is all about communication. Because once that drops.. So does everything else.
Yes, yes, yes, YESSSS! By far, the best comment ever.

I'm not a guy, but I know open communication is KEY. Men and women....just talk! Yeah, sure, it stinks at first....but c'mon. Let's be adults here and stop being passive aggressive, and just talk.

Men and women are different in many ways. Just because a guy can't pick up your settle hints doesn't mean he doesn't care. You aren't communicating to men! And men, stop making jokes about women being emotional. We are created differently and connect in emotional ways.

I love you all. <3

And now, I'm gonna put a lot of smiley faces in to hold back all the hate/judgmental comments from people :) :) :) :) :D :D :D :D :D
 
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Hmmm...worst first date....

Let me set it up for you....this was with a Christian man. A rather conservative, evangelical sort of guy. The kind of conservative evangelical who "wasn't sure" about me because I'm Catholic...but, you know, he's a "tolerant" guy.

We had a very casual eat-an-icecream-cone-while-we-walk-around-and-talk date. He spent the entire time talking about how much he liked another woman--what a wonderful Christian woman she was, and how he wasn't sure if he was worthy of her, blah blah. (I'm the sort of girl who seems to engender that desire in men to unburden themselves emotionally). A little insensitive, but no harm, no foul...clearly he wasn't into me, but he wasn't really my type either.

So, I'm a good person, and I empathetically and kindly listened to him. We reach the end of the date and I go to shake his hand, and he grabs me stuffing his tongue down my throat.

When I pulled back and basically said, "What the whuuuuhhhh?" He made some comment about my lipgloss.

Seriously...LIPGLOSS.

Apparently, listening to a man talk about another woman all night was supposed to be a huge turn on for me.

Who knew?
Mary, I had a first date a few years back. We went to the movies then out for ice cream. I was enjoying our evening until she looks at me and says, "Utah, wouldn't it be awesome if the people of our dreams just walked through the door." I replied, "yeah, that would be awesome. Let's go." Beeeoootttccchhh!
 
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No extra smiley faces needed Shineyourlight...just communicate with us :)