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Well, I never had a date or girlfriend
But I was a very desperate man....
When I met a girl, I was in the business of marry them....
But the issue is I had no patience at all....I was like "Well, I am gonna ask her to marry me in two weeks" or "I am gonna tell her to marry me...if she says no it is ok...but at least I told her so come on dude..."
I wanted to get her hand as quickly as possible before someone took her first
I was CRAZY AS A LUNATIC BALLOON..I remember meeting a beautiful woman when I was Norway. I was super excited...I was saying::.Dude...this IS PERFECT....she is single...plays the piano....she's beautiful...she likes reading books...THIS IS YOUR TIME MATE"....to then screw up because of my stupid attitude of rush-it-now kinda thing. She told me these words "I do not know you well...how can you do that?....
So....I was in the mission of seeking a girl before I turned 30 if not..I said to myself I would marry books and duty....
I wasn't afraid of rejection.....i was afraid of never telling a woman what i felt...
The issue was...I wasnt waiting God's timing
The issue was...I was so desperate to take the girl just to feel loved by someone and to have a nice family
I was definitely CRAZY...audacity led me to great mistakes
But I was a very desperate man....
When I met a girl, I was in the business of marry them....
But the issue is I had no patience at all....I was like "Well, I am gonna ask her to marry me in two weeks" or "I am gonna tell her to marry me...if she says no it is ok...but at least I told her so come on dude..."
I wanted to get her hand as quickly as possible before someone took her first
I was CRAZY AS A LUNATIC BALLOON..I remember meeting a beautiful woman when I was Norway. I was super excited...I was saying::.Dude...this IS PERFECT....she is single...plays the piano....she's beautiful...she likes reading books...THIS IS YOUR TIME MATE"....to then screw up because of my stupid attitude of rush-it-now kinda thing. She told me these words "I do not know you well...how can you do that?....
So....I was in the mission of seeking a girl before I turned 30 if not..I said to myself I would marry books and duty....
I wasn't afraid of rejection.....i was afraid of never telling a woman what i felt...
The issue was...I wasnt waiting God's timing
The issue was...I was so desperate to take the girl just to feel loved by someone and to have a nice family
I was definitely CRAZY...audacity led me to great mistakes
J
I worked overtime one day a week and one of my responsibilities was to call the answering service and receive updates. Every time I called I talked with the same woman operator, and over time we found each other flirting and sharing compliments.
One day we decided the time was right to get together and finally meet. I went to her place, knocked on the door, she opened it, we took one look at each other and both agreed not to go out. There was absolutely no physical attraction, and it was mutual.
Woof!
One day we decided the time was right to get together and finally meet. I went to her place, knocked on the door, she opened it, we took one look at each other and both agreed not to go out. There was absolutely no physical attraction, and it was mutual.
Woof!
thats the utah i know
Friends, when going on a first date, even if its with someone you know well, remember the following:
DO NOT GO OUT TO DINNER!!!!
Make your initial date short by going out for coffee, ice cream or a drink. This empowers you by giving you the option of leaving sooner if the date is not going well, or obviously, you can extend the date by doing something afterwards if things are going well.
Also, no tongues or kissing on the lips on the first date.
This is a public service announcement from your Brother, Utah.
DO NOT GO OUT TO DINNER!!!!
Make your initial date short by going out for coffee, ice cream or a drink. This empowers you by giving you the option of leaving sooner if the date is not going well, or obviously, you can extend the date by doing something afterwards if things are going well.
Also, no tongues or kissing on the lips on the first date.
This is a public service announcement from your Brother, Utah.
Yes, yes, yes, YESSSS! By far, the best comment ever.
I'm not a guy, but I know open communication is KEY. Men and women....just talk! Yeah, sure, it stinks at first....but c'mon. Let's be adults here and stop being passive aggressive, and just talk.
Men and women are different in many ways. Just because a guy can't pick up your settle hints doesn't mean he doesn't care. You aren't communicating to men! And men, stop making jokes about women being emotional. We are created differently and connect in emotional ways.
I love you all. <3
And now, I'm gonna put a lot of smiley faces in to hold back all the hate/judgmental comments from people
I'm not a guy, but I know open communication is KEY. Men and women....just talk! Yeah, sure, it stinks at first....but c'mon. Let's be adults here and stop being passive aggressive, and just talk.
Men and women are different in many ways. Just because a guy can't pick up your settle hints doesn't mean he doesn't care. You aren't communicating to men! And men, stop making jokes about women being emotional. We are created differently and connect in emotional ways.
I love you all. <3
And now, I'm gonna put a lot of smiley faces in to hold back all the hate/judgmental comments from people
I'm gonna go on a semi leap here, and say when God created man and woman, I'm pretty sure He didn't say. "Okay Eve, I want you to play hard to get with Adam, and give Him mixed signals on if you like him or not. And Adam, I just want you to completely shut down and ignore Eve and make her feel worthless." So since God didn't say these things, we do we men and women do such things? Just saying... Or I guess maybe just asking? Or both.
That's the thing, though. Mysteries and mind games... Those are different terms for everyone. I don't know.. Yeah it's good to spice things up.. But if both people are genuine God fearing Christians, why even need a cat and mouse chase to see if the man is compatible enough? Shouldn't that chase be involved with the Lord? For a woman's heart should be so buried in it, a man has to find Him first.
I think it's half and half. A lot of people get a thrill from it. But insecurities are a part, too. But doing those things... It's not trusting God. Trust in the Lord in all your heart, and not lean on your own understanding. Doing those types of things will just screw up something good God may put in front of us.
I agree haha. I agree with everything you're saying.
When I say mystery, I mean more like.....I'm not the type of girl that opens about my whole life in the beginning. I am open about my life, and I am an open book. But, I feel it needs to take some time to really get to know a person. Men have called me mysterious because of it. I'm not going to just sit down with you and say, "Okay, here are my struggles. Here's what happened to me 10 years ago. I'm scared of this and that," etc etc.
Casual conversations are great because it helps you get to know someone. Deep conversations are great as well. I am also careful of not creating an "emotional bond" within the first few days of talking, because I've had rushed relationships and it's not at all fun. It always ended in hurt and pain.
That's what I mean by mystery.
When I say mystery, I mean more like.....I'm not the type of girl that opens about my whole life in the beginning. I am open about my life, and I am an open book. But, I feel it needs to take some time to really get to know a person. Men have called me mysterious because of it. I'm not going to just sit down with you and say, "Okay, here are my struggles. Here's what happened to me 10 years ago. I'm scared of this and that," etc etc.
Casual conversations are great because it helps you get to know someone. Deep conversations are great as well. I am also careful of not creating an "emotional bond" within the first few days of talking, because I've had rushed relationships and it's not at all fun. It always ended in hurt and pain.
That's what I mean by mystery.
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