my step mom hates me

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Ariel82

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Oh wow >.<
She kept asking me about my past and I eventually got fed up and just said, it's my past it doesn't matter anymore.
And she was like I am only asking because it helps me understand you better and I'm just like "No, the questions you are asking won't help you understand anything about me. Can we talk about something else?"
"Of course!"
>.<
Then she gave me a bunch of info for family therapists :p
And then told me to try grounding techniques and if "negative thoughts" come back to imagine them floating away or something of the sort
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Sounds fuffy and new agish....I like Lynn approach better.
 
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TemporaryCircumstances said:
I don't self harm anymore.
Yes...I know....
It's just so hard trusting....
And I just.... I have this plan and when His isn't like mine but the opposite of what I think is the best I just have trouble trusting
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My life story in a nutshell. Just remember though, Jonah didn't like God's plan either. He could have gone to Nineveh by boat, but he chose fish. God gets us where he wants us to go no matter what. I'm now working toward taking the trip by boat. Fish stomach was way too squishy and smelly. lol
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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My life story in a nutshell. Just remember though, Jonah didn't like God's plan either. He could have gone to Nineveh by boat, but he chose fish. God gets us where he wants us to go no matter what. I'm now working toward taking the trip by boat. Fish stomach was way too squishy and smelly. lol
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Haha :) :)
 
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blue_ladybug said:
OK, I'm gonna be a little harsh here. If you're doubting that God can work out this situation for the best for all involved, then you must not trust him very much. You HAVE TO trust him, Natania. Without any shadow of a doubt. Can you do that? :)
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It's more often I trust God will work it out, but I also trust he won't work it out like I planned. lol
 
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Ariel82

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It's more often I trust God will work it out, but I also trust he won't work it out like I planned. lol
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Lol one of these days He might surprise you and let it all fall in place.
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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Ariel82 said:
Wow..."I think"

Well I know you are more help than burden.
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Well,
Thank you.
We talked for about 30 minutes about fixing my "depressive thinking "
I literally just argued with her.
Poor girl. She has so much patience
 
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jsr1221 said:
You'd think they don't, actually. I live in Florida and can attest personally with a nephew and a friend and his wife that have (at least I still think they do) two foster children. Basically, they will only do something if they see physical proof. They don't care about an emotional aspect. They just need to see you bleeding profusely or drugs being used in the process of them there.
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I worked with them in South Jersey. The reality is they have roughly 500 cases each, get paid salary, (and about the same pay as a secretary), but are supposed to get all their work done, paperwork takes as much time as the physical work, and have to see it through for each child until the child is 18. Under that much caseload, which fire are you putting out first -- a smoulder wick or a forest fire? They cannot make 24 hour days longer, so they help the kids who were locked in a basement for years vs. the ones who will survive a little longer at home.

Try living with the lives of 500 in-need kids in the balance from your actions for two weeks before judging if they care.

We walked after seven months specifically because we couldn't keep up with just 6 kids. (Group home parents.) And seven months, because we had to give two months notice.

It's easy to judge if someone else cares when you don't have to lift a finger.
 
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Ariel82

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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Well,
Thank you.
We talked for about 30 minutes about fixing my "depressive thinking "
I literally just argued with her.
Poor girl. She has so much patience
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My husband said his therapist decided to change careers after a few months of sessions with teenage him.
 
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Ill accept money.. as long as I dont need to give any :D haha
 
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It's beyond your comprehension, so she's lying? Wonderful! Just wonderful! (If my sarcasm dripped anymore, it would start a flood.)

And you have a woman from Rwanda in your church? Wow. Impressive. What are YOU after with this one?

Natania, important note. Don't take all the "advice" you're given on here to heart.
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I pity poor Peter almost as much as his victims. Yes, there are many in similar situations. Some of them are doubtless reading this thread right now. The least we can do is give them the benefit of doubt and resist the temptation to set ourselves up as judges. It is never wrong to reach out in love. God put that love in us in order that we might spread it abroad to all.
 
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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Oh wow >.<
She kept asking me about my past and I eventually got fed up and just said, it's my past it doesn't matter anymore.
And she was like I am only asking because it helps me understand you better and I'm just like "No, the questions you are asking won't help you understand anything about me. Can we talk about something else?"
"Of course!"
>.<
Then she gave me a bunch of info for family therapists :p
And then told me to try grounding techniques and if "negative thoughts" come back to imagine them floating away or something of the sort
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You are mature for your years. I wouldn't have had the guts to tell an adult things like that until a good four years later. (And, obviously, I haven't stopped telling since. lol)
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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You are mature for your years. I wouldn't have had the guts to tell an adult things like that until a good four years later. (And, obviously, I haven't stopped telling since. lol)
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Meh I've just been through most of the "therapist techniques" and seriously, they questions she was asking was to see how far gone I used to be not to understand me more now.
I try to be respectful most of the time...lol....
 
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TemporaryCircumstances said:
OH and then I talked about feeling like I was a burden on people and she was like "Natania, I think your depressive thinking is talking."
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I think that's your step mother talking. If someone keeps telling you that you're a burden, sooner or later, you're going to believe it. At 14 you're supposed to be a very happy burden to carry.

You ain't heavy. You're my sister.

In those days when I was trying to figure out what to do for my little brother this song was a hit. I pass it on to you. (Warning. You will need tissues, because you so get it. And, yeah, the load does weigh us down. That's why we need God.)
[video=youtube;Jl5vi9ir49g]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jl5vi9ir49g[/video]
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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I think that's your step mother talking. If someone keeps telling you that you're a burden, sooner or later, you're going to believe it. At 14 you're supposed to be a very happy burden to carry.

You ain't heavy. You're my sister.

In those days when I was trying to figure out what to do for my little brother this song was a hit. I pass it on to you. (Warning. You will need tissues, because you so get it. And, yeah, the load does weigh us down. That's why we need God.)
[video=youtube;Jl5vi9ir49g]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jl5vi9ir49g[/video]
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Awwwwwwww....
 
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