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I come here and listen to all the stories men (sorry, no I'll call them boys) have to say about themselves and how I always (not me specifically but generally) get asked 'how can I get a girlfriend' and 'why cant I get a girlfriend'. Or just the typical statement of 'I WANT A GIRLFRIEND NOW AND GOD IS BEING A BIG FAT MEANIE FOR NOT GIVING ME WHAT I WANT!!'
The thing is, Ive talked and Ive listened. And since Ive become a member here Ive started to notice an unhelpful pattern going on. These boys are ranting to everyone about it but not doing much about it. Or maybe their heart is in the right place which is up there for wanting Gods will in there life but their method is like badly cooked scrambled eggs - NOT GOOD...
So many good Christian women are waiting.. And waiting.. And waiting.. And theyre upset at the quality of men - Christian men. The decent ones are out there but but they are rare and they themselves are struggling against the tide of idiots out there and are tired of cleaning up the mess they leave behind.
But I feel theres more to be done. Ive realised those idiots are Gods son's too. I feel like theyre idiots because theyve got all the good equipment to get going, theyve even got a manual from the Creator himself about how to use it. The flipside to this is that an Enemy of yours wants you to figure it out by yourself and in the dark.
So heres what Im going to do, Ive had a revelation about relationships and I want to share it. Heres hoping you can handle this long thread...
You want a gf/wife? then grow in character
The bible says that women and men are equal bearers of God image. However, men were assigned by God to be leaders and women advisors. If you want a young woman to respect you, be friends with you, fall in love with you and marry you here are the characteristics of good leadership:
Stop right now. You are not worthy of a relationship with a woman til youve fixed those things up. In a consistent manner and over a long period of time. You will not become that man over night. No intelligent godly woman will accept you if you have not proven those simple qualities.
You want a gf/wife? And you want to work on the above? Get involved
In this order:
Are you getting those kinds of comments?
Rant over. If youve got more questions then privately message me.
Lovingly, Your sister in Christ
The thing is, Ive talked and Ive listened. And since Ive become a member here Ive started to notice an unhelpful pattern going on. These boys are ranting to everyone about it but not doing much about it. Or maybe their heart is in the right place which is up there for wanting Gods will in there life but their method is like badly cooked scrambled eggs - NOT GOOD...
So many good Christian women are waiting.. And waiting.. And waiting.. And theyre upset at the quality of men - Christian men. The decent ones are out there but but they are rare and they themselves are struggling against the tide of idiots out there and are tired of cleaning up the mess they leave behind.
But I feel theres more to be done. Ive realised those idiots are Gods son's too. I feel like theyre idiots because theyve got all the good equipment to get going, theyve even got a manual from the Creator himself about how to use it. The flipside to this is that an Enemy of yours wants you to figure it out by yourself and in the dark.
So heres what Im going to do, Ive had a revelation about relationships and I want to share it. Heres hoping you can handle this long thread...
You want a gf/wife? then grow in character
The bible says that women and men are equal bearers of God image. However, men were assigned by God to be leaders and women advisors. If you want a young woman to respect you, be friends with you, fall in love with you and marry you here are the characteristics of good leadership:
- Humility
- Kindness
- Backbone
- Self control
- Discernment
- Passion
- Honesty
- Trustworthy
Stop right now. You are not worthy of a relationship with a woman til youve fixed those things up. In a consistent manner and over a long period of time. You will not become that man over night. No intelligent godly woman will accept you if you have not proven those simple qualities.
You want a gf/wife? And you want to work on the above? Get involved
In this order:
- Go to church every week. Dont give me those pathetic excuses like my job doesnt allow it, I dont like the church in my area, the church offended me so I can be a Christian without it, I dont like going alone. NOTHING justifies not going to church unless your on your deathbed. And on your deathbed you better hope you prioritised your commitment to Jesus because your about to either spend an eternity with or without him. In hell, those excuses wont stack up and Satan will be giggling in your ear for your stupidity. Man up and just go!
- With church, your options open up and you need to seek and knock. Seek biblical knowledge. Listen to sermons, make notes and apply them! A girl loves seeing a guy dedicated to self improvement (not to mention listening skills). Seek a bible study group. This is for furthering your relationship with Jesus not a silver platter for hookups!! Seek a respected man or elder in the church as a mentor. Masculinity is bestowed by masculinity. They will help you grow to be a man. Be a mentor to a younger boy (esp one without a father). And lastly seek a ministry to serve in and be passionate about.
Are you getting those kinds of comments?
Rant over. If youve got more questions then privately message me.
Lovingly, Your sister in Christ