The role of women in Biblical marriages

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Ariel82

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to be honest i dont know the role of a biblical wife well

i just know what im not willing to marry because i wouldnt be willing to deal with them for however long i am to live

and the women in this video could look like any girl in the world and cook like a trained chef

i still wouldnt budge


and shes still a grade above the majority of young women ive had to avoid
simply because she proclaims to believe in Jesus

celebate and almost 10 years single
and it only gets easier
Paul never married and there is nothing wrong with being single if that is what God calls you to be.
 
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Ariel82

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YOU go read my bible

i dont take orders from women









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I am gonna tell you what I tell my son.....you can't make jokes outside of family the girls at school will cry and think you are picking on them. Then I will make you write them an apology letter.

Not that I can make you do anything, but the basic message "if people don't know how much you love them,they won't realize your words are jokes."

If you had said it to me, I would have said "no thanks,my version of the Bible is more right..,you wanna know why?




Cuz it's mine of course!"
 
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Ariel82

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adam wasnt decieved he didnt want eve to perish alone.... noah and david repented.. youre really reachin with the adam one
I don't agree it's a reach.

You see I agree that Adam wasn't deceived but he sinned anyway. That is called willful sin. We still get chastened by God for willful sin.

While Eve sinned out of ignorance and because Satan deceived her into wanting to become godlike. Adam did it because he loved Eve more than God.

Both of them commited sins people today still make.

Some people try and BE GOD to their spouse, which the host in the video seems to be imply men should do with the whole "get the he'll out of her" comment. I believe he is wrong. That it is God's place to change hearts. A husband can show his disapproval of his wife's actions, or his concern for her sanity but sometimes it's best for them to say nothing verbally and let God deal with it. Dissapproval can be shown nonverbally by refusing to look at the person, storming out of the room, not returning a hug or kiss, silent treatment, etc.

I believe the "curse " of making women learn to submit to their husbands Was focused on getting rid of the spiritual stronghold of wanting to be goddess in their lives instead of listening to God and their husbands.

I guess we can talk about what does it mean to submit and what it doesn't mean later. Gonna finish reading the thread,
 
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Ariel82

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Yeah it would have been funnier if you had an anvil drop on you as you said it....well as long as you bounced back like Willy Coyote...otherwise it would be kind of tragic.
 
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Ariel82

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I didn't like the video

I didn't like the interviewer and his didn't like the scripture interjection unnecessarily implying negative comments about the wife
It seemed like a hostile interview

I did like the married couple and I particularly liked the wife's correct understanding that a husband has to be a godly man which paralleled her husband's comment that the wife follows the husband as the husband follows CHRIST
I agree i like the fact she stresses that the Bible verses about marriage only work if the man is following Christ and loving his wife with that sacrificial love of Christ.

However, the underlying question is

"What if he doesn't love her that much, does she then get to disobey him and do whatever she wants?"

Truthfully, my husband does NOT love me much as Christ because he is a flawed human being and it's not possible to be as loving as God.

However he does love me with a sacrificial love.

Even if he didnt, even if he was a nonbeliever, I believe God calls wives to still to submit to their husband.

Do you know why?

Because slaves are told to submit and work as if they are working for God. Do you believe all of any slave masters would be godly people? Maybe a few, but when this was written the Romans were the slave masters and we know most were NOT Christians.

So what does it mean to submit?

I believe it's respecting the authority of another...brb
 

trofimus

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While Eve sinned out of ignorance and because Satan deceived her into wanting to become godlike. Adam did it because he loved Eve more than God.
I think this is not what Scripture says.

Scripture says that Eve was deceived (as you say) not because she wanted to be like god, but because it did not happen after she did what satan said.

And where did you get that Adam knew perfectly what is going on and sinned because he loved Eve? Genesis says only "and she gave also to her husband and he ate too."

The rest is just a modern day romantic fantasy, imho :)
 
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Ariel82

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Sorry kid emergency. My son is going to,the Dragon boat race and my daughter have Science Olympiad competition today...crazyiness. Lol.

Had things to post but no time.

Key idea:

When we worship idols and think they will bless us, God takes away our blessings and comforts to show us WHO really gave them.

When we seek to be gods, God takes away His hedge of protection and allows us to be enslaved and have others rule over us.

When we seek God alone, we know His peace and joy even as we walk through the valley of the shadow of death we fear no evil.

So what do we as people chose today?

Will we be like Adam, Eve of Jesus?
 
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Ariel82

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I think this is not what Scripture says.

Scripture says that Eve was deceived (as you say) not because she wanted to be like god, but because it did not happen after she did what satan said.

And where did you get that Adam knew perfectly what is going on and sinned because he loved Eve? Genesis says only "and she gave also to her husband and he ate too."

The rest is just a modern day romantic fantasy, imho :)
Didn't you quote the verse folks use to say women can't preach?

It says Adam was not deceived.
 

trofimus

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Didn't you quote the verse folks use to say women can't preach?

It says Adam was not deceived.
In the context - by satan's claim of being like God.

But yes, even though he was not deceived by Eve, it still does not say why he ate, maybe he was hungry, maybe he did not think about it, maybe he thought God will not punish them, maybe he just wanted to rebel against God etc... we simply do not know :)
 
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Ariel82

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Unfortunately, too many people fail to recognize that many of the duties outlined in Proverbs 31 are mutual; they apply to both men and women. They are part of the Christian lifestyle.

Mutual Duties Listed in Pr 31:
Be Strong

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies (v.10). The phrase translated as “virtuous woman” or “woman of noble character” means Eshet CHAYIL in Hebrew. CHAYIL (Strong’s 2428) means to display strength. The word CHAYIL is also used to describe mighty men of valor in the Bible: Josh 1:14, 6:2; Judg 6:12; 2 Kgs 15:20. Men can and should be noble and virtuous (CHAYIL) too.

Do Good

She will do him good … (v.12). As believers, men and women are admonished to “do good” to our enemies (Lu 6:27, 35). Christian men and women are admonished to “do good” and to share with others (He 13:16).

Do No Harm

She brings him good, not harm … (v.12). Husbands are instructed to love their wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Eph 5:25). Romans 13:10 tells us that “love does no harm.” Therefore, if a husband loves his wife, he will not harm her.

Work With Your Hands

She … works with eager hands (v.13). Christian men and women are called to live a quiet lives, mind our business and “work with our hands” … (1 Th 4:11).

Clothe ourselves with strength

Strength and dignity are her clothing (v. 25). Christian men and women are told to be strong by CLOTHING ourselves with the full armor of God (Eph 6:10-18 NET).

Don’t Be Idle

She … does not eat the bread of idleness (v.27). Paul proclaimed the value of hard work and sternly warned men and women not to be idle (2 Th 3:6-12). “And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone” ( 1 Th 5:14).

Speak With Wisdom

She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue (v.26). “The mouth of the righteous man utters wisdom, and his tongue speaks what is just” (Ps 37:30).
Pr 10:31

Care for the Poor

She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy (v.20). Christian men and women are admonished to care for the poor and needy (Ma 25:34-40).

Fear the Lord

… a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (v. 30). “Blessed is the man who fears the LORD, who greatly delights in his commandments!” (Ps 112:1)

A Christian husband should also perform many of the duties outlined in Pr 31: displaying strength, doing their spouses good and not harm, working with their hands, not being idle, speaking wisdom, caring for the poor and fearing the Lord. Those responsibilities are simply part of the Christian lifestyle.

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels (v. *10). ‬

Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness; but a faithful man, who can find? Pr 20:6

That's why I've never really felt overly pressured by Pr 31 as a woman because I recognize that most of the duties listed there apply to both men and women.
Or maybe we could look at the verses as applying to the Bride of Christ?

Alone, I couldn't do all that but when we stand United and work together as the Church we can accomplish a lot.
 
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Ariel82

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In the context - by satan's claim of being like God.

But yes, even though he was not deceived by Eve, it still does not say why he ate, maybe he was hungry, maybe he did not think about it, maybe he thought God will not punish them, maybe he just wanted to rebel against God etc... we simply do not know :)
Okay maybe we don't know why, but we still know that Adam was willfully sinning.

We also know that idolatry is a sin.

I believe that God chastens us for the sin of idolatry by showing that the things we seek from our idols can't be found there and that blessings come from Him alone.

I drew the parallel because often Israel turned to idols and God chastened them by withholding His blessings and allowing their idols to give them what they sought. However, idols at best are just man made things of stone and wood...at worst are demonically influenced practices and beliefs.

Need to eat breakfast, brain is getting foggy, bbl.
 
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kaylagrl

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Thanks to whoever repped me :)
 
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JaimeMartinez26

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And now we know why we're really single :p
hahaha

dont blame my poor jokes on you being single too

im single because i only ever seem to attract

princess complex
single moms
very sexual not Godly women

and its very easy for me to choose in these types of scenerios


even if i wanted to be single and a good woman got my attention

im sure id do a 180 and start praying on it
 
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kaylagrl

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hahaha

dont blame my poor jokes on you being single too

im single because i only ever seem to attract

princess complex
single moms
very sexual not Godly women

and its very easy for me to choose in these types of scenerios


even if i wanted to be single and a good woman got my attention

im sure id do a 180 and start praying on it


Im not single... :)

But I do get how you feel.It seems almost impossible to find the right person if you are old fashioned at all. And I would know,I traveled in churches for years and found no one. But I thought it was just me :) Prayer is the best solution. God can still send that someone,it just may take a little longer.Dont give up.
 
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JaimeMartinez26

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Im not single... :)

But I do get how you feel.It seems almost impossible to find the right person if you are old fashioned at all. And I would know,I traveled in churches for years and found no one. But I thought it was just me :) Prayer is the best solution. God can still send that someone,it just may take a little longer.Dont give up.
thanks :)

i really am happy as i am maybe i wasnt the first couple years

but kinda feels like i have a gift.... i see soo many people so torn about their spouses and exes that still cause trouble

and i only gotta worry about my relationship with Jesus


the prospect of change is kinda scary to me
 
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Im not single... :)

But I do get how you feel.It seems almost impossible to find the right person if you are old fashioned at all. And I would know,I traveled in churches for years and found no one. But I thought it was just me :) Prayer is the best solution. God can still send that someone,it just may take a little longer.Dont give up.
I don't even know if I want someone anymore. I'm have the same situation as JamieMartinez26, only attracting the wrong sort of women. And even if a good woman came by... I know I'd probably reject in fear of them being like all the other females who are attracted to me. I'm also old fashioned, don't even know if I want to bother anymore.
 

trofimus

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I don't even know if I want someone anymore. I'm have the same situation as JamieMartinez26, only attracting the wrong sort of women. And even if a good woman came by... I know I'd probably reject in fear of them being like all the other females who are attracted to me. I'm also old fashioned, don't even know if I want to bother anymore.
Agreed.

And now I am even confused if I am married to some or not, because I do not know when marriage begins :D

Staying out of any woman is the most safe place.
 
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kaylagrl

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thanks :)

i really am happy as i am maybe i wasnt the first couple years

but kinda feels like i have a gift.... i see soo many people so torn about their spouses and exes that still cause trouble

and i only gotta worry about my relationship with Jesus


the prospect of change is kinda scary to me

Ive know people who have stayed single and gone into ministry,its much easier to be in ministry when single. I stopped ministry when I married because it was too hard to do both in my situation. Both has its benefits and I do think some people have a gift of singleness and they should be supported in their choices and not made to feel like they are lacking. God uses us each where we are.