If you are a true Christian, and you know God's commands (i.e. 1 Cor.7 ...) and you are willfully disobedient, then you should expect a response from your Father as is expressed in:
1Co 11:28 But a man must examine himself, and in so doing he is to eat of the bread and drink of the cup. 29 For he who eats and drinks, eats and drinks judgment to himself if he does not judge the body rightly. 30 For this reason many among you are weak and sick, and a number sleep. 31 But if we judged ourselves rightly, we would not be judged. 32 But when we are judged, we are disciplined by the Lord so that we will not be condemned along with the world.
If you do not see the discipline of the Father, then perhaps He isn't your Father yet:
Heb 12:3 For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart. 4 You have not yet resisted to the point of shedding blood in your striving against sin; 5 and you have forgotten the exhortation which is addressed to you as sons, "MY SON, DO NOT REGARD LIGHTLY THE DISCIPLINE OF THE LORD, NOR FAINT WHEN YOU ARE REPROVED BY HIM; 6 FOR THOSE WHOM THE LORD LOVES HE DISCIPLINES, AND HE SCOURGES EVERY SON WHOM HE RECEIVES." 7 It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 But if you are without discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate children and not sons.
Mat 7:22 "Many will say to Me on that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?' 23 "And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.' 24 "Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, …
It sounds like you heard His words, and willfully chose not to obey for some reason or another ...
"Why do you call Me Lord, Lord, when you do not do as I say?"
Belief, from a biblical perspective, is what you live in accordance with as a habit and way of life. TO profess to believe, and willfully live contrary to that belief means that you aren't a believer in the first place, either that, or you will see the reproof of God. That, according to scripture, comes in the form of weakness, sickness, or death (Sleep = death of the body even though the soul is still saved.) Looking into the "Sin unto death" might help.
1 Cor. chapter 5 and 6 also go into details of a man / woman, willfully continuing in sin, the consequences, and the commands of God as to what those in the church were "supposed" to have done. Sounds to me like your church, your significant other, and you are all habitually living in habitual disobedience to the commands of God. You either need to repent, or you need to carefully consider becoming a Christian, and research why you do not yet have saving faith. Understand, saving belief, while you will earn no part of it, or maintain any part of it with your habitual responses to Him, will result in your habitual seeking to figure out His will and obey it.
