Who do you think are more emotional, Women or Men.

I think it honestly depends on the person. I have known some men to be completely emotional, while women keep it more quiet. But I have also met women who are all over the place, and men keep it more hidden. I can do both, honestly. I know that if I"m under a LOT of stress and just exhausted, my emotions are crazy. But many times, I keep things pretty under control and maintain the composure.

We can all feel emotions. It's fine. It's just how we handle those kind of emotions that are important.

And to add onto this, not all men are the same and not all women are the same. In my line of work, I have met a variety of different people and how they react to different situations. I used to think that if one woman acted like this, all women will act like this. And if one man acted like this, all men would act like this. But as I became a life coach, I realized it's just not true. It's diverse.

We all handle things differently and we all handle emotions differently.

I personally think emotions and how one shares, reflects, etc. depends on what they have lived through in their life. As I age I find that I tend to hold almost all emotion regarding myself from every one. I feel it's basically because everyone relies on me to help them through the struggles and turmoil and that there is no one there for me to lean on. Therefore I am the strength that holds every one and everything together. The last man I dated was highly emotional. His feelings would be hurt over everything, he would think the world was always against him. I could not hang with it, I felt if it was a life or death situation I'd have to protect his wimpy butt. I like a man to be able to share, be emotional and strong.

Oh my goodness!!!! I'm a guy!!!

Well, yes. Clearly there's a time to cry and a time not too. And a pity-party isn't attractive to anyone. Sorry to hear you had to go through that.

Stereo- typing is something we risk here but let's look into the base of this anyway..Real men don't cry or get upset right women? Or is it they simply don't cry? Cause you all know we have no problem being upset. everything from, "Wifey where's the toothpaste? I can't find it?!!!"....to, "Look out wife I am here to save the day!!!" We tend to do that one more easily. Men do express themselves, but just to less people is all. And often only to our best friend or dog or God, not necessarily in that order, usually it's the dog first then God...anyway you get the point...[kidding always God first! Dogs just always with us].

We also show our emotions with less intensity, minus the look out honey I must kill the bear for you reaction, or the rage and frustration reaction vs. the depression reaction. But generally speaking we tend to downplay our emotions. Women on the other hand......[never mind?].....tend to express themselves better....whew!! Men simply control it, whereas women can express it better but find others to control it for them. [Have I kept the stereo-type alive?]...Men have only a small list of "Male emotions" we deliver. Women try to develop new current versions of it, they are like God in that way, creators! Oh, I am so not helping myself now. Smile.

But know this women...if you encourage us unconditionally, we tend to come out more, we want that too-ultimately. At least a real Christian man does. In developing a relationship [both of us] in which we feel comfortable talking there will be at least 1% of us men that will do that in spades!! So ladies be encouraged....smile. I say this jokingly, for I believe men and women are to nurture each other completely in the gifts God has given each in there differences as well as their similarities.!

Sorry you had to find out this way. *gives you a drink and turns the game on* lol

Just make sure it's soccer... the brazilian championship... and about that drink... make it a double...

*gulps at the caipiroska*

Ok... getting better...

The scripture that says, it's not good for man to be alone; now I take that as a help mate, but even without that special sweet someone, their are the pets. With a companion or even a pet, and I am not relating an animal to a human, but, saying it is not good for man to be alone, then it is good to talk to the one the Lord's given us. My father used to cry, in front of me, and he had a very strong heart, and never had any heart issues. A lady once told me, don't hold things in, talk, and cry about it, if you feel the need too. Emotions can explode, and this is not good, so I believe having a spouse to relate to, or second to best, a pet, to listen to you lol, is of great benefits. It's even said, people don't live long alone, going along with what the Lord said. " It is not good for man to be alone." Then temptations of all kinds of things to take up that special place for only one person, your spouse. That's alright with me, if a guy crys, I feel more closer to him, because knowing he's a man masculine, but also tender, and gentle is showing real strength. It is not always about muscles on the outside, and nothing within.

oh allergies. YOu know I got something in my lung dust particle or just a bad allergy, and coughed for 2 weeks. I even felt it irritating my lung, could of been pollen, never usually had that sometimes once in a while, and next time, going to buy a surgical mask during the pollen season, to cover up. In china everyone used to walk around with that mask over there nose and mouth, during the chicken flue outbreak. Do we love our flowers and trees, and grass for this. Yes.

The man being the care provider, as in the old days, you remember, he works mom stays at home with the family, it takes strength to do this, as many fathers just abandon their children, and walk away, this is showing no emotions, no empathy on their off spring and their emotions, because they might not have any of their own. But when a divorce or sep. happens, it does work more on the man, as to him building a life, home, for his family, yes it effects both, but men usually get anger issues, if not "in Christ" or self controlled. SElf control is a fruit of the righteous fruits. It is something that along with the other's is good for us, the unrightouss fruit he told Eve not to partake off, was a reason, not to get the darkness into your spirit, satan twisted , till he convinced her so living for Christ, or not, self control is for everyone, anger, is a letter away from danger. See what's happening to men today, any wonder, women some are saying, your better off by yourself, because of this stigma of man's emotional instability in resolving issues, and it is very difficult for both sexes without the help of the light of the Holy Spirit with in us.

If you promise not to get upset, I'll tell you

I'm old now and my emotions tempered to help ensure survivability in my aging reduced physical state. But I was young once and seem to recall incidents in which my emotions did get the best of me. For example, these two members of a Hispanic street gang were hunting me to murder me because I punched out one of their "homies" who made the mistake of robbing a family member.

One of them found my car and as I held him down in the middle of a K-Mart parking lot (I caught him red-handed under my car looking to cut my brake lines) by his throat in the mounted position, I screamed "SAY IT!" He gurgled out, "say what?" I said, "YOU KNOW, SAY IT!"

He said, "Sorry?" I said, "SAY IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT!"

Lol... I made him say he was sorry to me and then my car and let him go with a black eye. Probably not smart I know but well, I never did murder anyone. Honestly, I moved around so much there was never really a need to. Truthfully, I was already leaving for the high desert for a few years so I made him apologize to me and my car, punched him really hard in his ugly gangster face, and then let him go. Lol.

I'm too old for that now. I'd have to snap a picture of him in the act, call the police, and then have my car towed to a shop for repairs. Well, in a riot situation I might shoot him, of course.

you know what I think I should of threaded this, who keeps more secrets. Don't tell me. Keep the secret, it's ok.

well you just might be someone from a movie, but I'm glad nothing happened to you, but people will do stuff for money. There was an article about a place in Brooklyn called the hole. It is a filty place, with no running water, like a sewer, and people live there, and even are graves there. Jesus said that the filty, have a place in hell. Book of Revelation. No running water. This is the visible curse of evil on earth. Where they steal pipes to sell, a place called hell. There are principalities, of evil, darkness that like an army gather in forces just to menace the virtuous people, to get them into anger, hatred, and do anything for a few bucks. The bait of the trap, the forces of the kingdom of evil. The Lord's prayer is to be remembered, "Keep us from evil, and lead us not into temptation." WE remember our passwords, but the most important pass, is going into the holy of holies, the altar of a living God, his Throne with confidence, boldness, and courage, to prayer to a Living King. A God. Remember the Lord's Prayer, do we know it by memory, everything else yes, but the word of God, no. Gird up the Loins of your mind" means get strengthened.

I grew up in Los Angeles during the 1970s and 1980s and would have died many times over but God kept showing up and delivering me from deadly situations. Eventually, it clicked and I became a Christian.

Men are told since at an early age that they cannot hold themselves in a vulnerable emotional state or else they are not 'man enough'. Women have been excused for what ever emotional breakdowns that they'd have with lesser judgment. This could play a role as to how women on average tend to live longer than men, because all the buildup and resulting to unhealthy outlets can increase their chances on strokes and heart attacks if not other factors from the unhealthy outlets. My father can actually testify on the result of a pretty bad breakdown he had a few years back and has been taking medications since. He was never an emotional type and it's very rare that I've ever seen him cry.

I'm all for people to conduct themselves to where they wouldn't cry at a drop of a hat for both men and women, but there's clearly an imbalance at best as to how restricted one gender is from showing their emotions than their counterparts.

Jesus cried when Mary and Martha told him Lazarus died. There must of been other times, maybe in the GArden, but he did cry, it said he wept, meaning not a few tears, but cried.

I've seen men blow their noses, I think it was like a cry, and some laugh instead of crying, some drink, some joke, some smoke, but crying is a natural emotion. Any one will tell you, when you have a good cry, especially in prayer, it feels like your spirit actually get's cleansed. Tears are made from the same element as sea water. Scientists don't know actually where the tears are formed, we know they come from the tear ducts of the eyes, but to me, they come from the soul. Or spirit. Instead of a wound where blood flows, a wounded heart/spirit tears flow out. And what is it exactly, from the spirit of man. Sometimes it is good to cry, it is like cleansing that wound, and if the Lord cried, then no man is less than a man to shed tears, I know men feel extreme pain when a women cries, they feel that emotion deep within them, maybe some don't stone hearts, but I know when a man dosn't show emotion, then when a close friend, or partner crys, it shows and it shows extremely a lot of emotions that were not seen before. So you men do hide your emotions, don't know why.

I am not a crybaby jkalyna. The way I was raised we were punished for tattling and crying. My elders were all stoic men who fought in and survived world wars and major wars. I never saw any of them cry a single time in my entire life.

One of my grandfathers (silver star, bronze star, purple heart, etc...) did tell me that the ghosts of his dead comrades visited him in his dreams and asked him "why?" He said he told them that didn't know why. That was the closest any male member of my family ever came to expressing sadness that I can remember.