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Yes she does. She was the first friend to be put on my friends list when I first joined. One of my favorite peeps here. You're not so bad yourself.

Precious Friend,
I can really relate to what you’re sharing here. You’ve gone through a lot of changes over the past several years, and that can feel so overwhelming and confusing. When my marriage broke up, I felt very much like what you’re describing here. I had been a stay-at-home mom for six years, and so now I was faced with the fact that this relationship I thought I’d have forever was gone, and now I was struggling to find a job; I thought I had my life mapped out and knew what I wanted, but suddenly I was faced with the realization, that the direction I thought God had for my life was gone. It was confusing, depressing, and scary. One thing that really helped me was a song by Don Moen called “God Is Good All the Time.” There is a verse in the song that says, “Even though I may not understand all the plans You have for me, my life is in Your hands, and through the eyes of faith, I can clearly see, that God Is good all the time.” It is really true. When we don’t know what the future holds, He does. There were also some key scriptures that brought me comfort: Jeremiah 29:11, Jeremiah 1:5, Psalm 139, Proverbs: 3:5-6, and Romans 8:28. I really encourage you to check those scriptures out and maybe highlight them or put them on notecards where you can read them over every day.
There’s a great book I recommend you get: The Purpose Driven Life: What On Earth Am I Here For by Rick Warren. He really gets you thinking about what your true purpose is, beyond a job or career, or having a family. He talks about how we are each uniquely shaped by God and how God has tailored you specifically for the special calling He has placed on your life. SHAPE: S stands for Spiritual Gifts (Every believer has been designed with at least one or more Spiritual Gifts (1 Corinthians 12)), H stands for Heart (What are your passions? What do you love to do? If money were no object what would you do?), A (What are your abilities? What are you really good at doing?), P personality (How has God wired you? Are you an extrovert or an introvert, do you tend to be more optimistic or pessimistic? Are you more of a people person or task oriented, etc.?) and E what are your life experiences (What unique life experiences (both good and bad have shaped you?)
There are some online tests which help you evaluate your Spiritual Gifts. There are a lot of Spiritual Gifts Inventories online. When it comes to determining your abilities, you can go to a career center or even the college from which you graduated can give you Aptitude and Abilities tests. There are some really cool and FUN personality tests to take that provide rich insight. One of the most well-known and widely accepted is the Myers-Briggs test. There is a free online version:
Another really good test which looks at your abilities and your personality strengths is the VIA Character Strengths test. It’s really enlightening and I have taken this test a number of times. You can find it on the Authentic Happiness website.
These assessments can be a really interesting way to get to know yourself better and where you shine. I really encourage you to check them out. They really help you see what a unique and wonderfully made person you are. I encourage you to get The Purpose Driven Life. You can probably borrow it from your local library. I know you’re feeling discouraged right now, but take this time for the opportunities it affords you to get to know yourself better and who God created you to be. This can be a really interesting (and exciting) time If you embrace its possibilities. Hope this helps. You will be in my thoughts and prayers!

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