Family

I've always loved my big sister. I always took her side and put aside my fears of losing friendships and getting beaten up to defend her. I would listen to her talk about her day and her feelings for hours and I always catered to her. I have always put what she wanted and what she needed in front of myself. I know everything about her, but she doesn't know a thing about me. She never took my side and she has always looked down on me. I've only ever given her the best of what I had and all I hear is what she doesn't like about me. I don't listen to the right music, I don't watch the right movies, I'm a Vegan, I love the Torah, etc. She did this before I was saved when I hated myself and GOD, ate crap, never took a shower, and watched tv all day and she's still doing it now that I'm actually quite happy with myself and know that Yahshua is my Messiah. I (along with my mom and brother) put my life on hold this year to come help her with her two kids and she treats us like criminals and listens to the lies that those close to her (not her family) have said about us. She doesn't even ask us what really happened before she jumps down our throats. We bend over backwards day in and day out for her and those kids and now she doesn't think they are safe with us after we told her that her crazy boyfriend is smoking weed around her children. I don't know how to be like Yahshua here. I don't know how to tolerate my own family mistrusting me this way when I have never EVER given them a reason to.

In reality, being connected by blood means nothing, or so i've often believed. I know that's not a usual, or accepted, concept among Christians. But it's reality. The people i care most about are people who have shown themselves to be the kind of people i want in my life. Many of the people i have some sort of blood connection with are not people good for me, and as a result i keep them at a distance or out of my life all together.
I'm not saying this is what you should do, though it may be something to begin considering.

This thread was posted a few hours ago. It seems to somewhat tie into what you're here about, perhaps go through it and see if you can find any answers or encouragement.
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/93635-serving-others.html

Lord help them to forgive one another and mend their relationship, for your glory Lord, Amen

I used to think so to, but you Can never get away from where you came from. Yahweh gave to to certain people for a reason. My sister was born my sister for a reason. GOD called us to come help my sister with her kids and That's what we are doing. HE has also said that she will be save, but not without much hardship. When It's in your family it hurts the most because blood runs deeper than the flesh. I am so angry because I know the hell that she is bringing down on herself that I don't have words for it. The willing ignorance of it all is killing me.

Honor, Selflessness, Genuine, Caring, where you can both grow together. Where you will gain. Never look down on oneself, All honors and you are happy being yourself. Amen

You must learn to distance yourself an have a kin ear.

Now let us pray, Heavenly father I pray that you keep my sister in your prayers and ease the way. In Jesus name Amen