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^^^^ that is wrong you are going to preach someone to hell with that preaching jgps.... realneedy.. what I'm going to tell you is very important and take heed to what I will say. Your problem is you're just wanting victory. Those in Christ are in victory. We need a savior not freedom. Seeking freedom too much will make freedom your idol. The word says we are made strong in our weakness. Why is that? It's because He is our strenghth. The real key is not pursuing freedom from anything lay down your best efforts and ability to even try quitting and pursue Christ. I know people thats broke away from drugs cigarettes alcohol and all sorts of stuff but were not saved. If you live for an xbox for example then things will be added such as a controller and games and hard drives and all sorts of stuff. In that same way if you live for Christ you get freedom, heaven and best of all... Christ himself. Do you see, you might have faith but your aiming it in the wrong direction Trust Christ and freedom will gome forget your own strength of trying or you efforts, none of it will work. you may break free from the deed itself but you will not break the lustful thoughts on your own.
J
Well Real, asking for the willingness to fight is a good start. God will answer that prayer if you trully seek it. But you have to do something with that answer... like stop getting into situations when the "heat gets hot". Don't light the fire. Run from the flames before you see them. Run from the smell of smoke. Run from that flickering light. Run from a slight increase in temperature. Don't stick around and fan the flame.
To be honest, going by the very little you've put here, you sound less like you need victory, and more like you just need to make better choices.
To be honest, going by the very little you've put here, you sound less like you need victory, and more like you just need to make better choices.
What is it like to have so much zeal without wisdom Heir? He wants more of a good thing, praying that he gets that thing in the right and holy way is the way to go.
I preached exactly what scripture says, if one burns let them marry. If one lies with a woman keep her. If he had to keep any girl he was with he wouldn't have problems not being with them. If he looks at it that way he may not have such a hard time next time...
If you're going to call yourself heir of Christ, you need to think before you talk and study before you throw out your opinion as if that is what God himself said.
I preached exactly what scripture says, if one burns let them marry. If one lies with a woman keep her. If he had to keep any girl he was with he wouldn't have problems not being with them. If he looks at it that way he may not have such a hard time next time...
If you're going to call yourself heir of Christ, you need to think before you talk and study before you throw out your opinion as if that is what God himself said.
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Pray for a horny wife? that is the craziest thing I ever heard of? Who would ask God for a horny wife? sex is God's creation it's a gift for glorifying him. Pray for a horny wife is the only opinion that was spoken of. Lust is solely a deed of flesh. Yes it is better to marry than to burn with passion, but praying for a horny wife is obsurd. I never spoke an opinion i spoke scripture and told him to seek Christ and not pursue freedom, what is freedom without Christ? I also stated an example but never an opinion. This life is not about us. Its about Christ, if we are going to pray to him for our wants, we need to be asking for something if it will advance his kingdom in anyway. Selfishness is a sin as well and if we want things for ourselves ONLY then thats all that our desires are revealing. Praying for a horny wife is just crazy man. Don't you think? Imagine a preacher telling a young man struggling with a sex problem and saying, "son it isn't Christ that you exactly need you already got him... you just need to pray for a horny wife"? smh
If that's the craziest thing you've ever heard of you live in a very small, dull, sheltered world...
Lust means to want something you can't have. It has nothing innately to do with sex.
Self interest is neither sinful nor holy, it just is. If you don't take care of yourself then 'love your neighbour as yourself' has very little meaning.
If a young man was having problems because of horniness any decent preacher should recommend marriage. This is what scripture says on the matter.
Paragraph breaks are a valuable way to separate out your points and make your post look less like a glob of diatribe. I recommend employing them in the future.
A good wife is a gift for the lord, when you need sex praying for a wife that will meet those needs is exactly what you should be doing.
Lust means to want something you can't have. It has nothing innately to do with sex.
Self interest is neither sinful nor holy, it just is. If you don't take care of yourself then 'love your neighbour as yourself' has very little meaning.
If a young man was having problems because of horniness any decent preacher should recommend marriage. This is what scripture says on the matter.
Paragraph breaks are a valuable way to separate out your points and make your post look less like a glob of diatribe. I recommend employing them in the future.
A good wife is a gift for the lord, when you need sex praying for a wife that will meet those needs is exactly what you should be doing.
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Dear Realneedy... God has placed the spirit of a warrior in you. With all the passion and fire and zeal that each situation requires. David , one of the greatest warriors who ever lived , struggled mightily with issues similar to this. Do you know how I know that You are a warrior? Because warriors , particularly those with a prophetic gift , are most often attacked in the area of intimacy , and passion . They have developed scars over their lifetimes , most namedly from others who have wounded them in those areas , some without even knowing that they were doing it . The enemy seeks these giftings out in particular , and tries to stop them from developing , attempts to abort the process in it's early stages . Remember , he tried to do that with both Moses , and Jesus . Why am I telling you all of this? Because I to have battled with the same issues over the course of my life . Revelation 12:11 says ' They overcame him by the Blood of the Lamb , and by the word of their testimony ' , and they did not love their lives , even unto death ' . I gave you this scripture because I know , that My testimony towards you , helps me to lock arms in agreement with You , as we stand , not in our Own rightousness , but in the Rightousness that comes from God alone. There we are free , there we are holy , there we are safe from the accuser . Father I just come into agreement with your precious child . Father we know that those that you have called you have not called in vain , but God we know that you have brought us into Your Kingdom , for such a time as this . Father for the passion that you have given to each and every one of us as believers , that passion that the enemy has worked so fervently to misdirect , and misguide , Father let it find your purpose . Dear God let your precious Holy Spirit develope that level of intimacy inside us , that cries out to you , Abba Father . We love you Lord , and you know our hearts . Father we come against every foul thing that deceives , and accuses , and seeks to thwart Your Plans for us . Knowing that We are the Rightousness of God in Christ Jesus . We are Your warriors God , full of Fire and thrust forward under a mighty Annointing . We thank you Father , in Jesus Name , Amen..
J
But you fail to consider that the basis of any "addiction" is rarely need, but some other missing piece, a place no being filled by God. Yes, God fill your sexual desires, and he may even do it with a spouse. But consider the need for self-control even in marriage. Finding a wife with any level of desire for her husband will not resolve the root issue which is either a lack of self-control, the counterfeit filling of a need, or something else.
Sex is not a basis for marriage. If its the foundation then you will be fighting an uphill battle to keep your marriage intact. List objectifies. A person with a sexual addiction will objectify their spouse (so could non-addicts) and this is not love. You develop a relationship. You get to know a person for who they are. You learn to see and know them, not simply find a cute sweet Christian girl, and tie the knot simply for a roll in the hay.
My mom is a drug addict. She battled with it for years. She couldn't it and we were neglected because of the financial effect of her habit. My brother started making and selling drugs so then my mom got them free. She had no more issues with money, but did that solve her problem. No, because her problem was really that she had no money. It was that she was so addicted to something that she forsook truth, life, health, and family.
That is not the way to solve an addiction. You rip it out by its root. You don't make it less problematic. The problem never disappears, it's simply buried deeper and harder to uncover. Sex addiction doesn't remedy itself just because you can have sex with sinning.
Sex is not a basis for marriage. If its the foundation then you will be fighting an uphill battle to keep your marriage intact. List objectifies. A person with a sexual addiction will objectify their spouse (so could non-addicts) and this is not love. You develop a relationship. You get to know a person for who they are. You learn to see and know them, not simply find a cute sweet Christian girl, and tie the knot simply for a roll in the hay.
My mom is a drug addict. She battled with it for years. She couldn't it and we were neglected because of the financial effect of her habit. My brother started making and selling drugs so then my mom got them free. She had no more issues with money, but did that solve her problem. No, because her problem was really that she had no money. It was that she was so addicted to something that she forsook truth, life, health, and family.
That is not the way to solve an addiction. You rip it out by its root. You don't make it less problematic. The problem never disappears, it's simply buried deeper and harder to uncover. Sex addiction doesn't remedy itself just because you can have sex with sinning.
T
Dear JGPS . While I realize that you are a senior member of this forum and most likely a believer , I have to say that your responses to someones prayer requests are at the very least , unchristian . When someone comes to you as a believer and seeks intercession on their behalf , that is a mighty responsibility given you from God . Something Not to be taken lightly . People are hurting , and need a touch of God on their lives . They need to know that Gods family is always there , to pray , and minister , with an annointing to loose chains and destroy yokes . God is a mighty God , and His heart beats for his children . Please don't grieve the Holy Spirit by your crass responses . Seek God instead if you don't know what to pray ......
Realneedy, welcome to CC. I hope you are not just passing through but decide to stay awhile. Satan has been using sex as a snare to hold many believers in bondage, keeping them from living an abundant life in Christ. He's got many fooled thinking that they will never overcome from homosexuality, pornography, sexual addiction and more. He's a liar. First believe that it can be done. We are holding on to every addiction with a firm grasp. We don't want to let it go because it feels good. It helps us cope. It's sinking though and it's pulling you under. You have to let it go and grab onto Christ because He's all that's going to save you. We all want to live in the world. We want to wear what they're wearing, watch what they're watching sing what they're singing, do what they're doing. Christ was led into the wilderness after His Baptism and starved His flesh for almost six weeks. This was to mentally destroy the desires of the flesh, to live for God alone. We are called to live in the Spirit, not the flesh. The victory is already yours in Christ. You just have to let go of the world. May God guide your steps and protect you from demonic influence as you leave your sin and stake your claim in Christ. I ask Father to help this man undo the damage that has been done because of this bondage. Please hold him up and glorify your Name through him, that he will be a testimony of your power and love. I ask this in the name of Jesus.
The word addiction is thrown around frivolously as if it had special meaning. The meaning is that he wants to do something he knows he shouldn't, but he wants it so much he does it anyway. That's really all addiction means in this case. He's not talking about a substance addiction where his body forms a dependency on a substance. This demonstrably not like your mother having a drug addiction. He's talking about wanting something so much that he chooses to do it even when he shouldn't.
His desire for sex is a legitimate need. He should pray to have that need filled. The rest can be worked out at that point.
If a man is hungry you pray for bread, not that God will supernaturally make your hunger go away.
His desire for sex is a legitimate need. He should pray to have that need filled. The rest can be worked out at that point.
If a man is hungry you pray for bread, not that God will supernaturally make your hunger go away.
As I've said before, I seem to be the only one here that actually knows what to pray for. You would all pray that the thirsty man no longer needs to drink. I would pray that he gets the water he needs.
I'm glad I posted here, as it seems quite a few need a review on how to pray. We pray that God meets needs, not that he surgically removes them.
It would do you well to study discernment for a while. Yours is extremely poor.
I'm glad I posted here, as it seems quite a few need a review on how to pray. We pray that God meets needs, not that he surgically removes them.
It would do you well to study discernment for a while. Yours is extremely poor.
J
Sorry but Jesus also said he is the bread of life. When he met the woman with 5 husbands he didn't offer her the perfect husband. He offered her living water which is what she really needs. I haven't seen anything that says the poster was only talking about an average desire for sex. He said addiction. I don't argue that sexual desire is a natural desire, God given even... But if this is an addiction then an active sexlife is not the remedy.