Young Marraige in Desperate Trouble... Please pray for our marraige

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Jwright

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My life has fallen apart over the last 3 months.. 13 months ago to the day today I got married... 3 months ago my wife moved out... I got every excuse in the book... Im young (my wife is 22), youre too clingy (she gave me reason not to totally trust her), you had long term relationships before me i didnt, I need to figure out who I am, the list goes on and on. The most common theme that came up was she needed space. So we went almost 2 months without talking... Just the essentials... bills...well out of the blue one day she texts me and for almost the next month we see each other every day except 4 days... one night I asked her what it was going to take for her to come home and that kinda set things downhill... the next day I went to take her some flowers and I just missed her. Her cousin told me I just missed her but that she was going to her brothers grave... that was always a special time for us... we would take one day a month and go to her brothers grave and my dads grave and just reflect together... so I went out there to be supportive... Well I got there and all heck broke loose... she accused me of following her... and still uses that against me as a reason to say my clingyness hasnt changed... Well after a few days she agrees to see me (I suspect its because she wanted me to pick up weed for her cause shes too afraid still to face her stepdad over this)... The next day I have her suprised with an edible arrangement at work... Still hasnt been acknowledged. She deleted me from facebook but my mother in law gave me her password so I can see whats going on. Well she makes a post sayin shes only got $10 to her name no gas and a week til payday.. I told her I'd be willing to buy her a tank of gas if she would really commit to seeing me and talking to me and really work on our marraige. She responds Im not doing that .. Everytime things go well you think we are getting back together and thats just not happening... she was throwing out lame excuses... conversation goes on and she ends up admitting shes seeing someone...she cheated on me while we were together with the ex bf that caused us problems... and well I ended up getting beyond drunk and making it look like I was going to kill myself... she called the police... i spent a day in the hospital... I got out and now shes beyond upset with me now ... saying things like i cant believe you'd do that to me. Ill never forgive you for almost killing yourself... that pushed me over the edge and we are definately getting a divorce now... she is "in a relationship" with someone and that bothers me... he unprovoked messaged me a couple nights ago basically just to tell me he was with her and I was the problem in our marraige and if i wanted to i could come over and hed beat my a**.. well hes the 2nd "relationship" shes had since we've been seperated and the 4th guy shes seen that I know of... through all this I know youre gonna tell me divorce her and move on but I cant I can forgive her and I want to work on our marraige...Im more stable than any guy her age and most guys my age...I may not have the looks but... I own my own home... I have a great job that while I'm not rich by any means but I dont have to worry about if the bills are gonna get paid... i just bought her a new truck earlier this year... Im ready to be a dad... I mean most 22 year olds would kill to have it made like that I think... Just this past Friday she told me I know this is all her fault and she will have to live with that for the rest of her life but even if all we do is fight I cant live without you… then on Sunday she finds out that I went out with an old friend from high school (female of course and as friends to catch up) well shes now upset about that because we stayed out til like 1 am and asking me how ive been faithful when I went out on a date etc etc… and she says someone is telling her im sleeping with a bunch of women which is definitely not true… im saved, she believes but hasn’t officially been saved… ive been in a lot of prayer about this and speek with my minister weekly… and I really believe this is the partner God wants for me… I’m scared… I love my wife and I want to make our marriage work more than anything
 
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shekaniah

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Prayers sent for you and your wife...
In Jesus Loving Name, Amen
 
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FatnWeak

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I"m sorry you are going through all this, I pray for the Lord to give you so much strength, patience and love for your wife. That whatever happens you will continue to glorify the Lord for everything
 
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meena1984

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i just prayed for you good luck.. i wish you the best and that things work out
 
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pickles

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Praying for both of you for all help,healing and streangth in Jesus Christ is Lord.

God bless
pickles
 
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psychomom

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I am so grieved to hear this. :(
I have prayed for you, and for your wife.
I ask that deceit not be given a place between you, and that the Lord will work to His glory.

Blessings,
~ellie
 
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tacomaster

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You should probably stop crying about it and be a man.
 
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poopsey

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tacomaster said:
You should probably stop crying about it and be a man.
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You are quite young. What kind of real life experience do you have if any? Do you think other people's pain is funny? That says a lot about you doesn't it?
 
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tacomaster

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I don't find pain amusing. I just think people need to handle their own problems in life with their own will.
 
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tacomaster said:
I don't find pain amusing. I just think people need to handle their own problems in life with their own will.
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Still praying for you tacomaster in Jesus Christ is Lord comein the flesh that you will know the greatness of Gods love for you.

God bless:)
pickles
 
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Andrew

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I am praying for you to feel God's peace and strength, as you live through this painful time.


If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 NIV
 
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joyful01

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well first and for most you need to pray about this and stop the worrying. second of all you stated that she is a beliver but not saved .your wife still wants to be part of the world this makes you guys unequally yolked. i understand you love your wife but she has to want the same things as you. god did.nt put every marriage together we did. i feel that you loved this young lady more than she loved you before you guys got married.she no doubt have a lusting spirit that she needs to be delivered from. and this can not be remove without fasting praying and having unwavering faith. she feels that she can run all over you because of the love you have for her. but sometimes you just have to let go and let god. if it is ment to be then it will. but for now keep praying and move on unless god truely step in and change her. god bless you
 
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Risen

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Dear Lord
I pray and bring before you Mr Jwright. You alone knows and understand the hard times that he is going through. I pray that you allow your holy spirit to comfort him and please grand him the peace of mind that passes understanding. Give him the strength and the courage to put his trust in you. Please let him that you are there for him and that you are willing to carry his burden for him so that he can enjoy the life that you bless him with. Heavenly father, please heal the pain that he is going through and shower him with your love and compassions. Let him understand that man can fail us, our loved one can fail us but you will never fail us. Oh Lord please bless Mr Jwright with your wisdom and understanding so that he will be able to work things out for himself as well as for his wife. I pray dear Lord that you help him draw comfort from your words through praise and worship songs and please let him find rest in your arms. Please dear Lord be the shelter that he needs and be the counsellor that he seeks and be the oil to the trouble seas that he is facing right now. Shower him with your love and peace and shield him with your unwavering love and mercy. Please Lord help guide him and direct his steps and for whatever he does let him pour out his heart to you for you are just a prayer away.

Thank you heavenly father for hearing my prayer and for attending to Mr Jwright's needs at this tough times. I know that you are never too late. Only you our master creator can reconstruct his heart and mind so that he find peace in you.
Amen
 
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MRSDS

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The Lord's peace be with you and your wife. Jwright there is seasons in life. Although you may be in a bad one now , take courage and fight the good fight of faith. Every season will pass and so will these one. My husband and I was about your age when we got married . We had so many challenges that seems impossible to retore during those times. We are still lovingly married for 29 years going 30. Trust the Lord, When He unite and sealed a marriage , it's forever protect and blessed. He never say that there won't be trouble but we stand sure of His grace. We are unable to trace God's plan but we are able to trust his heart.
I share this with you coz I kinda see me in your wife and you in my husband when we were so young then. And thru it all my marriage has been greatly blessed. And so will yours. In time all will be well. Blessing I send to you and your wife.:)
 
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Jwright

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MRSDS thank you for the kind words. I would love to chat with you privately by email or whatever. Im new to the forums so im unsure if we can send messages to each other here or not. Would that be possible.

I thank each of you for your prayers so far and I ask that you please continue to pray for my wife and our marraige... things have gotten worse and I'm praying she will get rid of the boyfriend and we can reconcile our marraige.

God Bless
 
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shekaniah

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Prayers sent again...
In the Love of Jesus, Shekaniah
 
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