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My life has fallen apart over the last 3 months.. 13 months ago to the day today I got married... 3 months ago my wife moved out... I got every excuse in the book... Im young (my wife is 22), youre too clingy (she gave me reason not to totally trust her), you had long term relationships before me i didnt, I need to figure out who I am, the list goes on and on. The most common theme that came up was she needed space. So we went almost 2 months without talking... Just the essentials... bills...well out of the blue one day she texts me and for almost the next month we see each other every day except 4 days... one night I asked her what it was going to take for her to come home and that kinda set things downhill... the next day I went to take her some flowers and I just missed her. Her cousin told me I just missed her but that she was going to her brothers grave... that was always a special time for us... we would take one day a month and go to her brothers grave and my dads grave and just reflect together... so I went out there to be supportive... Well I got there and all heck broke loose... she accused me of following her... and still uses that against me as a reason to say my clingyness hasnt changed... Well after a few days she agrees to see me (I suspect its because she wanted me to pick up weed for her cause shes too afraid still to face her stepdad over this)... The next day I have her suprised with an edible arrangement at work... Still hasnt been acknowledged. She deleted me from facebook but my mother in law gave me her password so I can see whats going on. Well she makes a post sayin shes only got $10 to her name no gas and a week til payday.. I told her I'd be willing to buy her a tank of gas if she would really commit to seeing me and talking to me and really work on our marraige. She responds Im not doing that .. Everytime things go well you think we are getting back together and thats just not happening... she was throwing out lame excuses... conversation goes on and she ends up admitting shes seeing someone...she cheated on me while we were together with the ex bf that caused us problems... and well I ended up getting beyond drunk and making it look like I was going to kill myself... she called the police... i spent a day in the hospital... I got out and now shes beyond upset with me now ... saying things like i cant believe you'd do that to me. Ill never forgive you for almost killing yourself... that pushed me over the edge and we are definately getting a divorce now... she is "in a relationship" with someone and that bothers me... he unprovoked messaged me a couple nights ago basically just to tell me he was with her and I was the problem in our marraige and if i wanted to i could come over and hed beat my a**.. well hes the 2nd "relationship" shes had since we've been seperated and the 4th guy shes seen that I know of... through all this I know youre gonna tell me divorce her and move on but I cant I can forgive her and I want to work on our marraige...Im more stable than any guy her age and most guys my age...I may not have the looks but... I own my own home... I have a great job that while I'm not rich by any means but I dont have to worry about if the bills are gonna get paid... i just bought her a new truck earlier this year... Im ready to be a dad... I mean most 22 year olds would kill to have it made like that I think... Just this past Friday she told me I know this is all her fault and she will have to live with that for the rest of her life but even if all we do is fight I cant live without you… then on Sunday she finds out that I went out with an old friend from high school (female of course and as friends to catch up) well shes now upset about that because we stayed out til like 1 am and asking me how ive been faithful when I went out on a date etc etc… and she says someone is telling her im sleeping with a bunch of women which is definitely not true… im saved, she believes but hasn’t officially been saved… ive been in a lot of prayer about this and speek with my minister weekly… and I really believe this is the partner God wants for me… I’m scared… I love my wife and I want to make our marriage work more than anything