Hey HistoryPrincess,
I can totally sympathize with what you're saying.
I was 25 years old when my husband divorced me for his girlfriend, and many of the people at church patted me on the head and said, "You're just a baby. You'll be remarried in a couple of years." And then... cue every Christian cliche there is and times that by about 1,000, and you'll have an idea of everything I've heard over the years.
Like a good little puppy, I followed all their advice, got involved in all sorts of ministries, classes, and servitudes, and here I am, almost 20 years later.
I am always grateful for compassionate, knowledgeable married people who don't talk down to singles, but unfortunately, they seem to be few and far in between. I know that even today, those people would still pat me on the head and call me a baby, but a lot can happen in 20 years. And, babies at least observe what goes on around them.
As in... Some of those people who told me to "enjoy this blessed time with the Lord" are now single themselves, whether due to death or divorces--and most are remarrying faster than you can say, "Jesus is your husband."
In one case I'm thinking of, the person is remarrying--in about 9 months. And there's part of me that wants to call them and say, "Really? I've been doing this for nearly 20 years, and you couldn't even stand a whole year?"
Although they certainly shouldn't divorce their spouses, the thing that some married people don't seem to realize is that God rarely takes couples together, and at the same time.
This means that they, too, have a 50/50 chance of someday being single, and quite possibly, for the rest of their lives.
May God grant them the strength to follow their own advice, and hold them to every word they ever told a single person.
P.S. I've gotten to a point where I'm all right being single. If that changes, great, if not, God has finally given me a great deal of peace over it.
But apparently that isn't so for the many married people who try to give advice to us singles when they face their own day of being single.