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Thank you for taking time to read this and I would greatly appreciate prayer for my marriage problems. I would like to tell my story and ask for feedback regarding this issue. Me and my wife are in our early 50's and have been married about 4 years and are christians. About 2 years ago I was concerned about her facebook posts so she blocked me. I let it go to keep peace and because I trusted her even though she is on her phone all the time. About 3 weeks ago we were sitting together on the couch and she gave me her phone to look at a picture. While I was looking at it a man I did not know messaged in through facebook. I took the phone and went to the bathroom to read which angered her. She had left him a message with her phone number and a heart(love) emblem asking him to call (HMU) sometime. He asked, will you get in trouble,& when would be a good time to call.Anyway she claimed some story about the guy was a young man that used to play with her nephew as a kid (mid 20's now) and she used to watch and that he wanted her nephew's phone number. I said why didn't you just give him the nephew's number instead of yours. Anyway the story went on for 2 weeks and I found out that it wasn't the same guy which she finally admitted that it was a lie. He was 41 and a Harley rider and she loves Harleys. She claimed this guy also knew her nephew (big age difference) from years ago and that she saw him at a store about 2 years ago. Anyway she said he had been asking her about her past marriage (through facebook) and heard she had an affair.She claimed she was upset about the affair questioning (which she denied having) and this was the reason she gave him her phone number, so she could question him about it.Later I found out she had over a 100 men friends on facebook that I didn't know and she claimed they were all either guys she used to go to church with or old school friends that were like brothers.She even admitted she sent 1 man who lives out of town and who is single some money because he was having a hard time and he was a good friend in school (over 30 years ago) that she hadn't seen in 30 years. She did apologize a couple of days ago and deleted her facebook account but now she is annoyed and ill with me because I am still hurting and talking about it. She keeps saying just let it go and that she should just leave me cause I can't let it go yet. She claims they were all just friends and its me overacting. Sorry for the drama and long story but this has hurt me greatly and I have no one to discuss with.
Please let me know if what she has done is considered cheating (emotional) even though I don't think anything physical happened.
Please let me know if what she has done is considered cheating (emotional) even though I don't think anything physical happened.