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Tonight while walking into a pizza place I was stopped by a man who asked me for some change. I lied. I said I had no change to give him and walked inside. After paying for the pizza (with a debit card) I felt bad for not helping him out. I looked for him when I walked out, but he had already ridden away on his bike.
I often feel an odd sense of guilt when I think I did something "wrong". Wrong meaning something from not giving someone money or saying something I shouldn't have or not being perfect. I know that perfection is a red herring and it creates more problems than it solves, but I was raised in a very you-should-be-perfect household. Because if you're perfect, no one can hate you, no one can tell you you're not good enough, and you won't ever need someone.
Perhaps this is too much information. Perhaps I shouldn't have bothered. By all means, let me know. However, I was just wondering if anyone else out there had inappropriate guilt.
Tonight while walking into a pizza place I was stopped by a man who asked me for some change. I lied. I said I had no change to give him and walked inside. After paying for the pizza (with a debit card) I felt bad for not helping him out. I looked for him when I walked out, but he had already ridden away on his bike.
I often feel an odd sense of guilt when I think I did something "wrong". Wrong meaning something from not giving someone money or saying something I shouldn't have or not being perfect. I know that perfection is a red herring and it creates more problems than it solves, but I was raised in a very you-should-be-perfect household. Because if you're perfect, no one can hate you, no one can tell you you're not good enough, and you won't ever need someone.
Perhaps this is too much information. Perhaps I shouldn't have bothered. By all means, let me know. However, I was just wondering if anyone else out there had inappropriate guilt.