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Hi onlyfaith23,
We see this same issue here in Australia, mostly from the ethnic minorities. They will only allow their children to marry somone of the same race, even to the point of sending them back to their former country to find a partner of their own race.
As another poster said, it could be because of the era or culture they were brought up in. Or, as this topic describes it, it's because these ethnic minorities are racist.
Ultimately it's your choice who you want to marry. Parents will often be hesitant or even object to a marriage when one is as young a 19 years old. Perhaps if you give it a bit more time their attitude might change after they get to know your boyfriend better.
BTW, getting married is not going to automatically mean being happy, as you suggested.
You are both in the honeymoon stage of a relationship where the brain produces endorphines which makes it exciting. That stage will eventually wear off and you will both have to learn to love each other. Marriage is going to have it's ups and downs so it's not going to be a romantic and smooth easy ride all the way through.
Hopefully your boyfriend is a christian.
We see this same issue here in Australia, mostly from the ethnic minorities. They will only allow their children to marry somone of the same race, even to the point of sending them back to their former country to find a partner of their own race.
As another poster said, it could be because of the era or culture they were brought up in. Or, as this topic describes it, it's because these ethnic minorities are racist.
Ultimately it's your choice who you want to marry. Parents will often be hesitant or even object to a marriage when one is as young a 19 years old. Perhaps if you give it a bit more time their attitude might change after they get to know your boyfriend better.
BTW, getting married is not going to automatically mean being happy, as you suggested.
You are both in the honeymoon stage of a relationship where the brain produces endorphines which makes it exciting. That stage will eventually wear off and you will both have to learn to love each other. Marriage is going to have it's ups and downs so it's not going to be a romantic and smooth easy ride all the way through.
Hopefully your boyfriend is a christian.
There are some points that need to be considered that aren't brought out here:
It really isn't the difference in the color of skin that is the real issue, it is the matter of the two of you becoming one. You have a bit different culture that you came from than he has, it is difficult to see those differences until you are married. God doesn't say not to mix color, God says not to mix things that are unlike each other. God would be opposed to mixing a person alive in Him and one dead in their sins, living without God. But remember, the two of you will become one.
Family, to God is very important. It isn't just the two of you facing your families, but you are asking that of your children, too.
I think it is (what word could express something completely against everything good?) for your family not to see the person but only the skin color. But it is something you two have to deal with.
Ministers now are trained in pre marital counseling. All my kids took advantage of it, it is a blessing. Are you both willing to go for help with this from God's church?
It really isn't the difference in the color of skin that is the real issue, it is the matter of the two of you becoming one. You have a bit different culture that you came from than he has, it is difficult to see those differences until you are married. God doesn't say not to mix color, God says not to mix things that are unlike each other. God would be opposed to mixing a person alive in Him and one dead in their sins, living without God. But remember, the two of you will become one.
Family, to God is very important. It isn't just the two of you facing your families, but you are asking that of your children, too.
I think it is (what word could express something completely against everything good?) for your family not to see the person but only the skin color. But it is something you two have to deal with.
Ministers now are trained in pre marital counseling. All my kids took advantage of it, it is a blessing. Are you both willing to go for help with this from God's church?
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If you are happy with your bf don't worry about what anyone says,theres no where in the bible that says we have to stay with our own race,the bible says we should be equaly yoked which means a christian should be with a christain,God made us all and theres bothing wrong with being with someone in a difrent race,i have teanagers we talked about this and i dont care if there purple red or orange as long as they are happy than i am happy i woould want the other person to be a christain of coarse,but its there decission,and i will be there to help them in an way i can.i will pray for you,it will work out.
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We're scattered among all nations tongues and tribes. We are every color.
Biblical marital discrimination is to be based on what's in our hearts. Though sometimes things unhide after the fact.
My baby is mixed. My problems with my wife are based on a contradiction in motives, not skin color. Cause we both like each other's skin color.
I'm white, wife asian, I will LOVE it if Jesus turns out to be a black guy.
Biblical marital discrimination is to be based on what's in our hearts. Though sometimes things unhide after the fact.
My baby is mixed. My problems with my wife are based on a contradiction in motives, not skin color. Cause we both like each other's skin color.
I'm white, wife asian, I will LOVE it if Jesus turns out to be a black guy.
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In my family, making fun of other races is normal. My family sees it as okay but now I'm starting to see how wrong it is and I no longer laugh with them because
How can we be united as people if we're so busy pointing out the inevitable differences?
Onlyfaith23, don't let your family stop you from dating your boyfriend because of his race. But also, don't just date him to tick off your family, if that's what you're doing. Have power over your emotions and don't let your family make you unhappy. You deserve to be happy, ignore, (yes, ignore) what your family says about this. People are racist, God isn't.
How can we be united as people if we're so busy pointing out the inevitable differences?
Onlyfaith23, don't let your family stop you from dating your boyfriend because of his race. But also, don't just date him to tick off your family, if that's what you're doing. Have power over your emotions and don't let your family make you unhappy. You deserve to be happy, ignore, (yes, ignore) what your family says about this. People are racist, God isn't.
Wow!
Llittle bit of difference between sharing restrooms and marrying somebody of different race..
People go berserk over such a lightweight issue but tell the girl it's of no consequence mixing her seed with a black man..
The entire bible is about race and one chosen race Israel .
Mix the races at your own peril.
Matt 15.24
I was sent only for the lost sheep of the house of Israel
Llittle bit of difference between sharing restrooms and marrying somebody of different race..
People go berserk over such a lightweight issue but tell the girl it's of no consequence mixing her seed with a black man..
The entire bible is about race and one chosen race Israel .
Mix the races at your own peril.
Matt 15.24
I was sent only for the lost sheep of the house of Israel
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You do realize in the exodus to Egypt, everyone who was counted as Israelite wasn't all Hebrews? (Exodus 12:38)
Do you also forget that in Jesus' genealogy, Ruth who was not a Hebrew neither a Jew, but a Moabite married Boaz, who bore the father of David named Obed? (Ruth 4:14)
Stop with racist interpretation of scripture...
Do you also forget that in Jesus' genealogy, Ruth who was not a Hebrew neither a Jew, but a Moabite married Boaz, who bore the father of David named Obed? (Ruth 4:14)
Stop with racist interpretation of scripture...
Ruth was an lsraelite living in Moab
Ruth is also called the nearkinswoman of Boaz Ruth 3.12
As for the hangers on at the exodus..None entered into the promised land and probably contributed to the complaining..
Matt 10.5
Jesus sent out these twelve men with the following order
10.6
But go to the people of Israel who are like lost sheep
John20.21
As the father sent me l now send you
Luke 19.9
Salvation has come to this house today because this man also belongs to the family of Abraham
Ruth is also called the nearkinswoman of Boaz Ruth 3.12
As for the hangers on at the exodus..None entered into the promised land and probably contributed to the complaining..
Matt 10.5
Jesus sent out these twelve men with the following order
10.6
But go to the people of Israel who are like lost sheep
John20.21
As the father sent me l now send you
Luke 19.9
Salvation has come to this house today because this man also belongs to the family of Abraham
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Ruth 1:2-4 says Elimelech, Noami, Mahlon and Chilion were actually the ones who entered the land of moabites as Israelites. The two sons took moabite women named Orpah and Ruth according to verse 4.
You don't know that they ceased from the existence of the exodus. If God called them Israelites, or the children of Israel then they were among the counted.
Moses actually married a Kenite woman of Midian named Zipporah (Exodus 2:20-22)
You don't know that they ceased from the existence of the exodus. If God called them Israelites, or the children of Israel then they were among the counted.
Moses actually married a Kenite woman of Midian named Zipporah (Exodus 2:20-22)
Racism is just so old fashioned now. I can't believe it's even an issue in this day and age. Yeah we've all got the crazy old racist uncle in the family hurling abuse at the TV, but he's just known as the crazy old demented fool who will die alone and of no real threat to anyone.
But when there's active racism and hatred then it should be confronted and destroyed.
But when there's active racism and hatred then it should be confronted and destroyed.